So what?
Really, so what?
I like both in my fantasy escapism; I like seeing gratuitously hot female characters in some games,
BUUUT I also like the more realistic representations that aren't sexualized at all in other games too! Why can't we have both? Why does it have to be so black-and-white, one or the other? I have one of each in my character roster in Skyrim, and I'm sure many others do too.
What I don't want is politicialy correct reality shoved into my fantasy escapism. I play games to get away from reality, not to emulate it... that's what sim games are for.
Women get their "mommy porn" with the likes of 50 shades of gray with powerful, assertive men, girls get their "romance porn" with many shows/movies/books now of hunky, shirtless forever-teen-looking creatures fighting for their love and attention... Can't us guys have our own fantasies? It's sexualized like everyone else's escapism, just a different medium, so why do we have to have to catch so much shit for enjoying the sight of pretty girls in various situations? It's no different. (I didn't even mention the yaoi fangirls).
Also, the amount of finger-waggling the gaming media has done to all gamers is rediculous. Everyone in it knows full well the majority of gamers are argumentitive assholes that yell at each other over EEEEEVERYTHING, and always have been, and always will be (and I don't mean only the guys). It's just the age demographic and internet combining into a perfect shitstorm. You can't change that, but the gaming media suddenly talking down to everyone in the last year and a half is extremely transparent.
Gamers will argue with anyone until they go away or become part of the sub-culture. To make things worse, the extremes on the other side, have started an "I'm the biggest victim" contest with many people who are socially or emotionally damaged in some way, and bitter, which is why they use gaming as an escape/hobby in the first place.
So they especially aren't going to let them win that one either, and the odds are sort of in gamers' favor because they have nowhere else to go. It's still giving nerds a hard time, except this time they get to be called "misogynists", "Creepers", and "potential rapists" now too, beyond the typical "neckbeareded basement dweller" thing.
TL;DR We can have both and everyone can be happy without name-calling.
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Just side note here; the group you're getting all these vocal complaints all of a sudden are the neo-victorian anti-sex feminists that don't want any woman/character openly showing or exposed to sexuality beyond their relationship. That is a real thing by the way! Feminism has many groups supporting different ideas; the other groups defended the boothbabes' choice of work and don't care about fictional characters... Just look up "feminist sex wars". Also, read stuff by Ellen Willis (a bigwig from the original women's rights movement), her books talk about the splintering of the movement in the 70's into various groups and shed light on how one group has cropped up in the early 80's she calls "neo-victorian", which is what I was mentioning here. I learned a lot about feminist history because of internet arguments XD