I'd been considering this topic thoroughly as for what was the most important lessons I found out when I left home early, and it's this....
You're going to live or die by your own hands, and it's going to be bloody, and it's going to hurt and it's going to keep you down. And you're going to fight harder then every man or woman you see, because no matter where you are you're going to always see others succeeding where you didn't. And you know what? It's all on you. You didn't win the prize, you don't get the stable home, you're going to have to fend for you.
You're going to have to take the fight to the world, and you're going to have to outsmart it. And it's brains that win this game, kid. Brains. You can be the strongest back in the pack, but you'll always be a mule if you never think about where you're going. Used up and spat out and worn down. General labor is good for a laugh and a fist full of bills at the start, but don't make it a habit.
But first right here and now? You're going to have to have a plan. It doesn't have to be long term, it doesn't have to be grand, but whatever you plan to be in the future. You got to start being it now. You're going to have to look inside yourself to that little furnace and find what you're passionate about. What sparks you. Then you fuel that until it burns up everything else and all you're left with is the drive to make that yours.
But that step up you need to even start? That first step to being someone? That's on you to figure out. You want a job, a home, a car? Know the right people or have the right skills, but pick which one you want to follow now and quickly, because it's a very cold world and it's not going to wait for you to decide for long. Because it's going to seem like everyone else got the chance to have mom and dad pull them up that first step, and you... you didn't. You want something? Skills or people. It's the only way, and those who see that first wins.
Don't expect help, but from my experience the world'll throw you a bone now and then, and there are good people who'll slip into your life that you got to know you can call on when the time is right. Things start hurting less after the first few years. You'll callous after being knocked down long enough.
If you're lucky you'll learn to temper that anger that you've built up, and you're going to build it up. Everyone finds themselves raging at the world when things don't go their way, but it's important to know when you're able to stop fighting. When things start falling into place, and you start to make sense of it all, and the parties and the friends start to fall away as you leave school and enter real adult life. You learn to temper that anger into something useful. Into a trade or a profession. To take all those skills and hone them and don't stop. Anger will be the drive that will see you at the start, but don't build a shrine to it and end up just as bad as the things you came from.
Because one day, one day you'll meet someone who'll sooth you. Heh, one day you're going to find someone who's going to be there to help you and work with you (that's with you, not for you or you for them. You want to make ends meet, make them met in the middle), and one day you might have a kid yourself. And you're going to want to do right by making the world less brutal for him or her if you can.
Hell... In the end, it's all about making the beating your kids get less then the one you're about to get. And you're about to get one nasty beating.
That's the lesson at the end of it all is; Life is going to be hard, and you're job is to make it less hard for someone else.
Oh, and learn to bloody cook. Doesn't matter how good it is, you learn to bloody damn well cook. A pot of chili frozen into sandwich bags will last you a week (two if you can get your hands on a stew or crock pot early), and be a hell of a lot more filling then it's equivalent price in ramen. Nothing will save your ass more, or please your partner more then to come home and cook a meal once in a while.
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You're going to live or die by your own hands, and it's going to be bloody, and it's going to hurt and it's going to keep you down. And you're going to fight harder then every man or woman you see, because no matter where you are you're going to always see others succeeding where you didn't. And you know what? It's all on you. You didn't win the prize, you don't get the stable home, you're going to have to fend for you.
You're going to have to take the fight to the world, and you're going to have to outsmart it. And it's brains that win this game, kid. Brains. You can be the strongest back in the pack, but you'll always be a mule if you never think about where you're going. Used up and spat out and worn down. General labor is good for a laugh and a fist full of bills at the start, but don't make it a habit.
But first right here and now? You're going to have to have a plan. It doesn't have to be long term, it doesn't have to be grand, but whatever you plan to be in the future. You got to start being it now. You're going to have to look inside yourself to that little furnace and find what you're passionate about. What sparks you. Then you fuel that until it burns up everything else and all you're left with is the drive to make that yours.
But that step up you need to even start? That first step to being someone? That's on you to figure out. You want a job, a home, a car? Know the right people or have the right skills, but pick which one you want to follow now and quickly, because it's a very cold world and it's not going to wait for you to decide for long. Because it's going to seem like everyone else got the chance to have mom and dad pull them up that first step, and you... you didn't. You want something? Skills or people. It's the only way, and those who see that first wins.
Don't expect help, but from my experience the world'll throw you a bone now and then, and there are good people who'll slip into your life that you got to know you can call on when the time is right. Things start hurting less after the first few years. You'll callous after being knocked down long enough.
If you're lucky you'll learn to temper that anger that you've built up, and you're going to build it up. Everyone finds themselves raging at the world when things don't go their way, but it's important to know when you're able to stop fighting. When things start falling into place, and you start to make sense of it all, and the parties and the friends start to fall away as you leave school and enter real adult life. You learn to temper that anger into something useful. Into a trade or a profession. To take all those skills and hone them and don't stop. Anger will be the drive that will see you at the start, but don't build a shrine to it and end up just as bad as the things you came from.
Because one day, one day you'll meet someone who'll sooth you. Heh, one day you're going to find someone who's going to be there to help you and work with you (that's with you, not for you or you for them. You want to make ends meet, make them met in the middle), and one day you might have a kid yourself. And you're going to want to do right by making the world less brutal for him or her if you can.
Hell... In the end, it's all about making the beating your kids get less then the one you're about to get. And you're about to get one nasty beating.
That's the lesson at the end of it all is; Life is going to be hard, and you're job is to make it less hard for someone else.
Oh, and learn to bloody cook. Doesn't matter how good it is, you learn to bloody damn well cook. A pot of chili frozen into sandwich bags will last you a week (two if you can get your hands on a stew or crock pot early), and be a hell of a lot more filling then it's equivalent price in ramen. Nothing will save your ass more, or please your partner more then to come home and cook a meal once in a while.
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