GabeZhul said:
I prefaced my argument with the words "I've seen" so yes, this is in my experience. Perhaps I'll have to amend my previous post to more clearly indicate that my view has been informed only by personal experience.
I've been within the atheist community (both online and in my own circle of friends) for at least the last fifteen years of my life and I have met or debated more than a few- (if you want exact numbers, I'm sorry but the span of time is a little too long) -people that became atheists because of either a failure of the religion of their upbringing or rebellion against the repression they found in their religion. This was especially true when I was younger and in college and had many atheist contemporaries around my age. They were angry at a religion they perceived as failing to answer the questions of their existence adequately, angry that the religion did not accept who they were inside, who they were born to be. They were tired of the moral outrage at the personal choices in their life so they turned their back on the religion of their youth and turned to an atheistic solution. Even after their choice they were still angry at the God they decided no longer existed: angry at the past treatment, the actions and attitudes of religious people, angry really that anyone would choose to believe otherwise. Perhaps it's part of normal development, we are conditioned to rebel at certain points of our lives and that it forces us to discover who we are and to grow from it. The sad fact is that a decade later, many of these individuals are still angry. They still behave as though religion is actively oppressing (the religion they left) them. They are adamant that others understand the inherent evils of religion and have both negative opinions of religious people and an inborn hostility towards them.
On the other hand, I have many friends that came to atheism later in life out of a feeling of disconnect with religion, or a feeling that religion didn't play a meaningful role their life. It was as though they stopped paying for a service they never really used in the first place. They are by and large really relaxed people, happy in their atheism and secure that it was the right choice. They speak of atheism in terms of logic and reason and are generally fine with those that haven't seen the light. The atmosphere is largely that of "Live and let Live."
Would the first group describe themselves as a person who was an atheist because "They hate God?" No. Who would ever say that? That's as absurd as a theist saying "I am theist because I am afraid that God will strike me where I stand if I'm not" You might counter with "But that is what theists believe." I'm merely saying they would never say or admit to it, so too for an emotionally driven atheist. I can't speak to the contents of an individual's mind, but when behavior is reactionary and emotionally charged, it generally indicates a negative emotion is at work. That emotion has to be aimed somewhere, so it's logical to assume that an angry atheist would be angry at either the religion or the deity at the center. You could also argue that they are angry at the actions of those who are theists, but in the end the anger terminates at the religion or deity behind the action. I didn't intend for the analogy to devolve into the simplistic maxim used by fundamentalists that "You can't be angry at something that doesn't exist" You obviously can be angry at things that don't exist, just that using emotion to justify a contradictory belief leads to an unstable belief.
The movie and culture behind "God is Not Dead" is perhaps a valid example but Chick Tracts is in no way an accurate representation of the mainstream Christian community in America (which itself is divided between many sects), any more than allusion to the Westboro Baptist church would be. I certainly wouldn't say the community is "chock full" of these guys. There are going to be polarizing figures like Ken Ham and Richard Dawkins in any circle of belief. Their existence doesn't radicalize the middle or average adherent, it merely proves that each system has its outliers. Also, Do you honestly believe that atheists don't have a stable of well-worn stereotypes for theists as well? That they don't have their own "hawks" who essentially proselytize for their own system of belief? To quote the current pope, which my atheist friends call "New pope: Best pope"
"Don't proselytize; respect others' beliefs. ?We can inspire others through witness so that one grows together in communicating. But the worst thing of all is religious proselytism, which paralyzes: 'I am talking with you in order to persuade you,' No. Each person dialogues, starting with his and her own identity. The church grows by attraction, not proselytizing."
I think that is true for any belief.
What I primarily maintain is that atheism from emotion is an immature and unstable system of belief mired in arrested development while atheism from reason is a stable, mature belief and that these opposites extends beyond atheism to other currents of thought. I also believe that when your identity is tied to belief and that belief is informed by and feeds into your emotions, every challenge to your belief is a personal attack, which often leads to reactionary rhetoric that serves only to raise the emotional level of the discourse. Conversely, every "success" directly feeds your emotions and ego so that you pursue confrontation to affirm you belief by asserting dominance over someone else. Personally, I just love the dialogue and the chance to express myself.
I didn't intend to offend anyone in this or my previous posts, just point out observations from my life that I think bear some thought. I certainly didn't form my opinion based on "hearsay by apologists" mainly because I don't pay attention to apologists and couldn't tell you what they say.