lying and girls

[Quantana]

ok i told he'r. well she was really angry, after a lot of talking i "slept over". didn't talk about my age again however still no relationship. now one of us text the other i come over (she has her own place i don't) an i "sleep over". so i have no idea what i have now but i like it!!!!!

Go along with this if you will, know that it cannot last very long. From how you worded this, there doesn't seem to be very good communication between you two; an essential element in a sustaining relationship. If you want this to last you're both gonna have to open up about your feelings. If what you do now doesn't change, it won't last.

but why does it have to come to a relationship i don't know if i like that better i like her i like her a lot but i lied when i was drunk so it;s not gonna work ( everybody told me this here ) so i think i might as well get the most fun out of it right????

 

[Corjha]

ok i told he'r. well she was really angry, after a lot of talking i "slept over". didn't talk about my age again however still no relationship. now one of us text the other i come over (she has her own place i don't) an i "sleep over". so i have no idea what i have now but i like it!!!!!

Go along with this if you will, know that it cannot last very long. From how you worded this, there doesn't seem to be very good communication between you two; an essential element in a sustaining relationship. If you want this to last you're both gonna have to open up about your feelings. If what you do now doesn't change, it won't last.

but why does it have to come to a relationship i don't know if i like that better i like her i like her a lot but i lied when i was drunk so it;s not gonna work ( everybody told me this here ) so i think i might as well get the most fun out of it right????

Ok, so since you told her and you have still continued to meet, you have decided to not pursue a conventional relationship. Fair enough.

What you decide to do with this situation is going to be an expression of your character. Are you the guy who declines good sex because he thinks that what he's doing is underhanded? Are you the guy who takes whatever pleasure he is offered and leaves when it ends? Are you the guy who thinks that such an age difference shouldn't have to be such a dividing factor between two people?

What I'm asking here is do you want to get to know this woman better?

Don't reply to this. Just think about these questions on your own. We've given you more than enough advice about this. It's your own judgment from here on in.

 

[Quantana]

i'm sorry that i do reply but thanks i will.

 

[The Grim Ace]

There is no easy way you can hide that in the long term, tell her and hope for the best. She'll probably be angry with you for a few days and you do run the risk of losing her but assuming that's the only lie between you two and she feels the same, things might go well for you two.

 

[Jake the Snake]

In the words of Dr. Bob Kelso: "Lie forever! It's the natural form of communication between Men and Women."

No but in all seriousness, you are acting like a 13 year old. Be a man, tell her you're 17, see where it goes from there. You just met this girl, if she dumps you, who cares? There's plenty, plenty, plenty, PLENTY more fish in the sea.

 

[AfriXan]

Depending on where you are I don't know if it is statuatory rape or not. In the UK 16 is legal but w/e.

To all the "OMG the guy is younger" ppl, get a grip, you're just parroting a patriarchal bias that justified older (and usually wealthier/more powerful) men scoring with the young daughters of poorer families. I won't go into the biblical/koranic examples of this but there are many.

On topic, tell her if you want. Tell her why you're telling her if you do. If she's shallow enough to make an issue out of it then forget her.