fair enough, I'll likewise summarize bits and pieces.BloatedGuppy said:This is getting long, so I'm going to be cutting significantly. If you think I'm dropping something crucial or something you dearly wanted a reply to, you're going to need to let me know.
This is a loaded situation though, these people had assigned seating and they were there for other reasons already. If I lived in a city that actually used public transportation, and it was high volume trafficking, I wouldn't give a shit if the person next to me was watching what I was saying or not, if I found it urgent enough to text at that moment then I don't really care what people around me think. Idk, I guess I'm an open book that way. If they didn't like it for one reason or another (once again, this depends on what is said.) I would just tell them not to worry about it then and find something else to stare at for the ride.Yep, that's right. Friends. Now imagine it's a stranger. A great, burly, sweating, bearded stranger. And he's leaning over your shoulder, and reading for hours. Do you get up at any point? Move away? Cover your phone? Ask why he's doing what he's doing? Or simply accept it as part and parcel of daily life?
Experiment...walk up to strangers on the street/subway and start reading their texts over their shoulder. The larger and more imposing the individuals, the better. If they complain, state that you are in a public place, and laugh at the presumption that they should be enjoying privacy while texting. Let me know what ensues.
in this very hypothetical scenario, based on the likelihood that she is cheating, then yes.So, ends justify the means, yes?
However, "ends justify the means" I feel isn't 100% black and white either, I feel like you or I could weasel around and come up with plenty of scenarios that would justify it, however small or big the situation is is regardless when a principle is at hand.
I do get your point though, and in this scenario I'll have to agree to disagree with you on it.
I'm not constantly doing those things either, but for whatever reason, sometimes they stick to my brain like someone just burned it into my skin, I'm just saying that people do occasionally see things only with a glimpse and didn't mean to in the first place.Apparently, yes. That sounds terrible. I'm not constantly reading pages of information by accident, I'm not constantly checking out random dude butts every time I tie my shoe, and I'm not accidentally reading a football game's worth of texts because someone was sat near me at a football game. I have no idea how I'd ever concentrate on anything.
you...you have much more faith in the average human than I do. There isn't an accurate way to describe some of the sighs and cringes I've let out before on human idiocy.Human beings don't talk like that. Imaginary social constructs do, but not actual human beings.
I feel I jumped the gun a bit there...by honest I meant more in a sneaky/cheating way, everyone isn't honest 100% of the time about everything, I've had plenty of girlfriends being the fucking juiciest tampon ***** in the world sometimes(pms? who knows.), but did I tell them? Hell no, I didn't need my dick getting chopped off.Do I prefer it in most circumstances? Yes. Do I imagine she is honest with me 100% of the time? No. Am I honest with her 100% of the time? No. Have I dated someone who made "100% honesty all of the time" a priority? Yes. Was it as big a fucking disaster as it sounds? Yes.
you have a much stronger will to cheating than I do then when it comes to relationships, I've let mistakes gloss by like it was nothing hundreds of times...but cheating almost always makes me snap all ties, instantly. I've never had a girlfriend admit to cheating, not until I was able to show her definitive proof that it was true, so I can't say if I would be able to forgive it or not if they came out to me truthfully.... Not that I haven't gone on to be friends with some of my ex's that cheated on me...but I would never ever get back together with them based on them withholding it from me until it was undeniably true. In all of my cases, I would've rather have known much earlier, and the situation with the girl hiding the phone from the guy is all too real for me, I can't tell you the number of times a girlfriend would insist on hiding her phone from me, but then would have no problem poking through mine.If she cheated on me, would I forgive her? Depending on the circumstances, probably. Have I ever cheated on her, or anyone else? No. Have I ever been cheated on? Yes. Was it painful? Yes. Do I think the person who did it was "scummy douchebag fuckface cuntwad"? Nope. She's one of the most forthright, honorable people I've ever met in my life. She grew up in near constant physical and sexual abuse. She had serious issues with commitment phobia and emotional attachment that continue to this day. That's context. Context I couldn't get from reading some text messages over her shoulder. And honestly? Our relationship ended on its own, long after the cheating, and not because of it. I would've rather NOT known. It caused a lot of pain I didn't need to feel.
Does that mean all cheaters are salts of the earth? Of COURSE not. It's just not NEARLY as black and white as people want to make it sometimes.
Oh I won't go full cultist and I don't go prying into people's privacy, I people watch often, but I don't look at anything personal, promise ^_^ Agreed though, relationships are complicated...and I have been put in many situations, I was quite nearly on the verge of being raped while in a relationship, luckily for me, I was able to throw her off me and I even told my partner at the time what happened so she wouldn't hear of it through someone else and not be sure if I was trying to cheat on her or not, but I can still truthfully to this day, say I've never cheated on anyone and vow to never put someone through that pain. (like I said before, pretty open book, I don't hide things.)Evidently, yes. I don't share your moral umbrage, alas. I don't condemn you for it, but I do recommend not engaging in fundamentalist thinking on the subject. Relationships are extremely complicated. People are complicated. Jealousy and possessiveness only gets us so far. People make mistakes. One day one of those people might be you. Easy to say NEVAR if you've never been put in a situation.
In this case, the cartoon woman who mocks her husband's small penis before bursting into maniacal laughter before fiendishly texting her vile lover while Imaginary Bro looks on in consternation probably doesn't deserve a lot of sympathy, but fictional characters designed to be hated seldom do.
...this situation sounds like it needs some day one DLC characters to give the situation more clarity. will there be microtransactions to read each new text?