Marriage without sex?

[Ben Legend]

hah....haha... hahahaha....

Oh god you're serious! :O

No chance.

 

[Blondi3]

... and the reason I wouldn't want to just stay a friend with this person is?

Pretty much this I think. Sex is the only difference between friendship and a romantic relationship.

I agree.

EDIT: I love all the virgins saying they're asexual, it's so cute.

Yeah, I lol'd. Although some people are born without a sex drive.

 

[FUAU]

Now, it has been my experience that sex drops off after a few years of marriage, and this is manageable, kinda, I guess. But if I'm not getting any before marriage there wouldn't be marriage.

I guess that depends - the opposite happened with my marriage. Honeymoon aside, my first year of marriage, my spouse and I had sex two, maybe three nights a week.

Now? We don't have sex one or two nights a week.

Wait, I'm not sure that made sense. Let me rephrase. We have sex almost every night - the one or two nights we don't have sex are the exception, not the rule.

And we're not talking quickies either. We were at it for an hour and a half last night. ^^ Of course, last night was particularly awesome. Normally it's around an hour.

Of course, I realize I have a wonderful sex life, and that my results aren't necessarily typical.

Jesus, I'm nineteen years old and in a relationship that's going on five years, and I swear me and my girlfriend never go at it more than once or twice every month. Not for any particular reason really, it just seems that both of us seldom want to.

In regards to the OP, I think I could have a chaste marriage. Sex always seemed a little over-rated anyway.

 

[LightspeedJack]

Well, I'm asexual, so it would be a match made in heaven.

Oh man I knew this was coming but the first post really?

Anyways that would be a big fat NO from me thanks.

 

[Lexodus]

"Your lover is perfect"

If you can't have sex, with any sort of medical procedure etc., that's a pretty fucking huge flaw.

 

[FightThePower]

If I can't have sex with my lover, then she is not perfect. I'll just settle for someone slightly less good but I can have sex with, thanks.

 

[bdcjacko]

Now, it has been my experience that sex drops off after a few years of marriage, and this is manageable, kinda, I guess. But if I'm not getting any before marriage there wouldn't be marriage.

I guess that depends - the opposite happened with my marriage. Honeymoon aside, my first year of marriage, my spouse and I had sex two, maybe three nights a week.

Now? We don't have sex one or two nights a week.

Wait, I'm not sure that made sense. Let me rephrase. We have sex almost every night - the one or two nights we don't have sex are the exception, not the rule.

And we're not talking quickies either. We were at it for an hour and a half last night. ^^ Of course, last night was particularly awesome. Normally it's around an hour.

Of course, I realize I have a wonderful sex life, and that my results aren't necessarily typical.

Jesus, I'm nineteen years old and in a relationship that's going on five years, and I swear me and my girlfriend never go at it more than once or twice every month. Not for any particular reason really, it just seems that both of us seldom want to.

In regards to the OP, I think I could have a chaste marriage. Sex always seemed a little over-rated anyway.

Well you are 19 so I guess for most of those 5 years you and your girlfriend have been living with your respective parents. And trying to find time to have sex without parents hearing/walking in on or whatever becomes a chore. Once you have your own place, and can just get sex whenever you want, you will celebrate with a week long sex marathon. Or maybe you do just have a low sex drive.

 

[Android2137]

Hmm. I thought that was the point of marriage, but I'm asexual anyway, so sure, why not?

(Although I do pity the poor man. I have yet to meet any man who felt life would be better without his man parts.)

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Jesus, I'm nineteen years old and in a relationship that's going on five years, and I swear me and my girlfriend never go at it more than once or twice every month. Not for any particular reason really, it just seems that both of us seldom want to.

Once or twice a month? Egads, that sounds awful. Although, I suppose if you both have low sex drives, then it really isn't an issue.

I mean, that would drive me to... I have no idea. Either wear out my drawer of sex toys or go find some elsewhere. Or both.

 

[rileyrulesu]

...
Why would I have been dating her for that long?

 

[HasimirFenring]

If that's the price I have to pay for such a girl, no problem. I'd marry her without a doubt.

 

[slipknot4]

Ignore the word "marriage", than. What your lover wants is for you to live together for the rest of your life and for you to never sleep with anybody else.
Does that make it more clear?

That's just mean
As for the Op:
No, never. I mean... I don't have sex with my friends, so who else would it be?
You know... Forever is a long time.

 

[Haydyn]

I'd go for it. To have someone you care for to hold, play video games with, dance with, make cookies with, that's more meaningful to me than somebody taking a ride on your disco stick. Heck, she won't be cheating on you, that's a plus. Don't want kids, but adoption is still an option. (lol it rhymed) There are other things that could be done too, so it's not like being married to your best friend or something.

Edit: Marriage without sex? Isn't that most marriages? Badum tish.

Also, apparently asexuality is believed to only be at a percentage of 1%, yet we have a lot of asexual people here. Odd.

 

[velcrokidneyz]

Sex isn't and shouldn't be the only thing in a relationship, but it is healthy and great. I would have to decline. I would go nuts.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

She can give oral, but she can't receive. I mean, I guess you could lick her malformed, partly developed "genitals" if you wanted (and if you could stand the sight, which was frankly hideous), but she wouldn't orgasm from it. Do you really want to have a completely one sided, degrading sexual relationship with the woman you love?

What. The. Hell?

You said that we'd have been dating - sure, let's go lesbian here - her for some time before hand. Before, I was willing to accept the magical "no more sex" genie for the sake of argument.

But this? Why would her previously perfect **stops self from following the obvious alliteration** "genitals" suddenly deform? Unless you're implying that her vagina was always like this, in which case I believe most of us would not have let the relationship get that far in the first place.

Before, I as assuming that this was just as thin veil for "married couples don't have sex" - which they quite clearly do - but this just makes no sense.

Also, for the record, there is nothing degrading about oral sex, male or female. If I give a guy a blow job, I am not degraded - if anything, I'm empowered (cause I can bite down if I want to - the man is totally at my mercy in that moment). Unless you're saying the one-sided issue is what makes it degrading, in which case I'd point out that there are other spots that can cause a woman to reach orgasm.

 

[Laser Priest]

I don't care about the lack of sex, but I'm not big on marriage. My belief systems are demented and I feel no desire to go into them.

 

[Haydyn]

Also, for the record, there is nothing degrading about oral sex, male or female. If I give a guy a blow job, I am not degraded - if anything, I'm empowered (cause I can bite down if I want to - the man is totally at my mercy in that moment). Unless you're saying the one-sided issue is what makes it degrading, in which case I'd point out that there are other spots that can cause a woman to reach orgasm.

Huh, I guess the guy kind of is at the mercy of the blower. Now I'm going to be scared next time that happens.

 

[Nigh Invulnerable]

Believe it or not, sex is considered to be an extremely important part of a healthy relationship.

Very true. And if, as the OP states, that this person is incredibly beautiful and I'm attracted to her, then I don't think I could go my entire life without sex with that person/another person. Palmela Anderson helps when you're desperate but it's just not the same.

And about all of the asexuals that are apparently crawling all over this website, I wonder how many of them have actually had sex before deciding it wasn't for them.

I'm wondering that too. Sure, I went a long time in my life without sex, and then I got married to my wonderful wife and now I have to say that sex is pretty much awesome. It's not the be-all end-all to our relationship or anything, but it is a wonderful way to show your partner your feelings.

 

[Totenkopf]

Your lover is perfect.
Your lover is as a beautiful as an angel, amazingly talented, intelligent and kind, and truly loves you more than anything. Your lover would do anything for you.
Then comes the subject of marriage.
After years of a wonderful, fantastic relationship, your lover wants to marry you so that you can both live happily ever after.
There's just one tiny problem.
You and your lover can never have sex. Like, ever. No matter how much you both want it, no matter how much protection you use, no matter what position you choose, your lover is simply physically incapable of having sex in any way (well, except giving oral I guess, but seriously now). No amount of medicine or surgery will help.

What are you going to do? Assume, for now, that this marriage is going to be forever and that you are not going to cheat on your lover (you horrible monster).

Will you refuse your lover's request, even risking breaking up with the one who is otherwise perfect for you, because being together means you will never get to have sex again?

I would like to hear your answers.

Hey Oneirius, do you recognize me?

OT:
True love is far greater than the pleasures of the flesh.
That said, I'd marry her and stay loyal until the very end.
No problem.
Well, that's about it, but sometimes I really worry about the "modern perception" of ideals...

 

[Verlander]

I doubt I'd get married. If she couldn't/wouldn't have sex then she isn't perfect.

If the situation as you described it happened, it wouldn't matter, as I'm polyamorous, and my "perfect woman" would be as well.

This reminded me of the series Pushing Daisies. I have only seen a few episodes but basically it's about a guy who can't touch his girlfriend because she will die if he touches her. They can't even kiss or hold hands, it's kinda sad really.
I can't really see how it would work out :/ Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it's still a big part.

It was a great show, I'm kinda sad that it got cancelled.