krazykidd said:
Remember online dating is where women reign . Women get TONS of email ranging from guys wanting only sex to guys who want serious relationships and all the weird stuff in between. So trick is to be original and honest . If you come off as boring or agressive you get nothing . Actually in my opinion it's worst and harder than finding someone outside . Women get 100s of emails so they might take a while to get to you.
I've done quite a bit of online dating. Pretty much this. You have to be original, eye-catching, and lucky. You have to make sure your message will get noticed by the girl in question, but not come off as creepy, and then you have to also just get lucky that she doesn't scroll past your message without even reading it.
You're marketing yourself. An online profile isn't the place for brutal honesty or being wishy-washy. You want to put the best things about yourself out there that will make someone want to read your message after literally only looking at your page for a second or two.
eHarmony is a lot more expensive than it used to be, but I still recommend that site. Why? Because unlike Match or some other sites, eHarmony controls your matches for you, so women aren't bombarded to the degree they are on other websites. That being said, my brother-in-law just met a nice girl on Match that he's been dating for a couple months now. He could only afford one month of eHarmony and it didn't get him much.
I married a girl I met online on Yahoo Personals way back in the early 2000's. It didn't work out, and now I'm married to a WONDERFUL woman I met in real life. But the fact it didn't work out with my ex isn't the website's fault
I can say that while I hate dating in general I really enjoyed online dating. I'm a pretty laid back sort of guy, and for me, even if the date didn't evolve to date #2, I had fun just going out and meeting people.