Paying parents rent.

[Samurai Silhouette]

They're unemployed and not paying rent and you are? Kick THEM out of the house.

 

[razer17]

You've stayed at HER house to save YOURSELF money. £550 a month is a lot of money if you're not paying rent or bills, so why shouldn't she get some money.

 

[Hipsy_Gypsy]

I think it's fair enough and a reasonable enough amount compared to living completely on your own to help out and all but I reckon you should try to get them to finding their own jobs if neither of them, like you mentioned, have any as of yet. Is there anything that's actually preventing them from getting work such as a physical disability for example?

Our eldest daughter is 18 and is just starting UNI pretty soon (19th).
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It does irritate me slightly when I see things like this and young uns thinking they are hard done by.

Do you have any idea how much it costs to raise a child?

You buggers aint cheap.
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Surprising how many people don't consider costs these days. They just instantly assume everything will be provided to them.

You're only 31? Gee whiz - no chance. You sounded a bit older to me, huh. My parents have a bigger age gap between them, lol.


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[Shivarage]

You pay adults money you owe before you go looking for more.

*insert government and irresponsible banker bashing blahblahblah*

If only someone said that a few years ago

 

[Sampler]

Only £100 - I was paying twice that a decade ago, really helped ease the move out being used to that much missing from my paycheaque each month

 

[Tizzmarelda]

Give her an ultimatum, get a job and she'll get her £100. IF she doesn't have a job then she wont see any money off you.

 

[Virgilthepagan]

I think I'm with a lot of people here, I'm pretty fine with the idea of paying rent if you're living with your parents (mine have threatened that if I move back), but your mum's reasoning is full of more holes than Bonny and Clyde.
It's fair of her to ask, but this sounds more like leaching than anything, which is normally something us kids are supposed to do!

 

[Ryengu]

Wolfram says the exchange rate between pounds and dollars makes this about 160 US dollars. I'm paying 200$ for rent to parents when I'm not in classes, and it's still a better deal than renting an apartment by myself. If it's really that bad get a roommate or two and leave. It's probably a good idea anyways.

 

[ascorbius]

She did raise you for 18 years, diapered your ass when you were crapping yourself as a baby, fed you when you couldn't feed yourself, etc. I think £100 is a trivial fee to pay rent.

In contrast, I pay $1500 rent every month, and was forced out of the house at 18 to join the military, so IMPO, you're getting a pretty fair cop.

As far as that money she owes you goes, I wouldn't loose any sleep over it, or hold it against her (unless she starts to make a bad habit of borrowing large sums from you).

I was going to post something, but this sums up my feelings pretty much totally.

You didn't get where you are today entirely by your own volition. Your family needed money and you had some to help out. I'd consider that as a gift if I were you.

£100 a month? £25 a week? You probably use more than that in food, electricity and toilet paper. Embrace this chance, nothing will be this reasonable ever again.

Then if you don't like the situation, look for somewhere which suits you better.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

I can't believe there are parents out there who actually do that to their children. You're going to be 16,000 pounds in debt and all she can think about is you paying her rent? That's disgusting. Your job as a parent doesn't end when your child turns eighteen, it ends when your're no longer mentally fit to be a caretaker.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

She wants to treat you like an adult and make you pay rent? Thats a-ok. However

but she owes me ~£700

You pay adults money you owe before you go looking for more.

Indeed. OP I propose you tell her they can take the rent money from what they owe you and you can call it square.

[sub]Not British nor good with your currency so I'm probably not the best person to ask detailed advice from.[/sub]

 

[Snake Plissken]

She's your fucking mother. 100 a month is a small price to pay for a roof over your head. She's probably having a hard enough time making ends meet as it is.

 

[CManator]

Once you are a legal adult, imo a parent has every right to charge you rent to continue living under their roof. $100/m* is nothing compared to living on your own.

Telling your mother she owes you money? You'll get told how many thousands of dollars were spent on raising you that you don't have to (and probably can't) pay back.

As for mom and stepdaddy not having jobs, that's their problem. $100/m even from 3 kids is not unreasonable and isn't exactly going to pimp their lifestyle. And it's all the more reason they need your help as much as you need theirs.

Frankly OP, you come across as a little entitled. From 18 and up if I lived with either parent, I paid rent. They cut me slack if I lost a job or had unexpected expenses, but I still had to find a new job and pay what I owed. And it was nothing compared to what I pay to live on my own now, or the consequences for not paying my rent. Welcome to the real world.

*Apologies if the dollar is not your currency, it's all I have to work with.

 

[razer17]

Unfortunately, you owe them more than they owe you on account of them being the one's that squeezed you out form between their thighs and put cake in your mouth every birthday for years. If they want to play dumb with the debt you've unfortunately got to walk away without it.

I think this right here is really the major point. At some point your parents have to stop supporting you. And £100 pound rent is nothing. I pay £50 a week, and I get nowhere near to £550 a month in Student finance. People just seem to have far too much a sense of self entitlement than they should.