Paying parents rent.

[flaming_squirrel]

I have to pay £55 a month in rent. I am unemployed, the state provides me with £62 a month. This covers permission to live in my house. But It doesn't cover clothing, food, and little things like my gaming habit.

£7 is spent on those things. £7 isn't enough... It just isn't. It can't buy food, at minimum around £10 a month. Can't buy clothes. Clothes are usually around £15. And certainly can't buy games. Around £20 - £60.

I can't go out, because I can't afford it. I can't get a job in this economic climate, because nobody wants a inexperienced post-student. And with Christmas and birthdays coming fast... Yeah, y'know.

My life...

Supermarkets, there you go. It's a shit job but you'll be earning money which deserves a much greater degree of respect then sitting on job seekers allowance.

Or if that doesnt work, volunteer work, charity shops for one are always looking for this and it adds weight to a CV.

You'll not find much sympathy in that situation.

 

[Alrocsmash]

Swallow your pride and pay a really small amount for rent. 100 euro is nothing. I pay about 700 euro in America for a nice flat.

It's pounds, not Euro, but very easy mistake to make.

With out being a cock, I was not incorrect. Google euro to US dollar. I pay $995 dollars US a month. Thats...../drumroll....about 700 Euros.

Edit: It appears I misread the currency symbol. Meh.

 

[theravensclaw]

In my place the rule was 10% of what you got up to $100AU a fortnight. I still live at home while I save for a house deposit and pay $100 a fortnight plus internet bill and most of my own food bills.

 

[Bebus]

£100 per month?! All bills included?!

When you get out into the big scary world you will have to pay at very least 3x that much for rent alone in a tiny room in a run down shared house in the bad part of town.

You also complain that £100 is a lot out of £500 - most people pay at least half of their monthly income just on the house and utility bills, then add on taxes, food, car, insurance and all the other wonderful little costs your parents usually cover and most of us would love to have £400 spending money each month. Doubly so considering you are not actually earning it. Word of advice: keep as much of that money as you can. You are going to need it when you have to start working for a living, and if you want a house of your own.

Sorry guy, but you are sounding really childish here. Take the deal and be bloody thankful for it.

I am not sure about the £700 you mention; did you earn it or is it more a case of 'my mum kept £20 from the £100 she just gave me because the car needs petrol to take me to school'? If the former then work something out like adults, if the latter then grow up.

 

[nolongerhere]

I'd just move out if I were you.

I bet he can't get rent anywhere else for 100/month. Sounds like she is giving him a deal.

IF your parents can afford it, its not unreasonable to expect a free ride during University. If however they can't, it is not at all unreasonable to ask for a small amount like that to help cover the costs they are incurring for you, such as food and utility costs.

You are 18, so be an adult. Agree to the rent, calmly discuss the 700 they owe you, and strike a deal for that to cover the first 7 months.

What university student just happens to have a spare £100 a month?

You may aswell just apply for a housing loan and move out.

How many university students don't pay rent? I imagine they would have £100 a month spare if they budgeted for it.

OT: Pay the money. If they're able to pay back the £700, they will in time. If not, then stop paying, get kicked out, and pay a bunch more to live somewhere else. It's your choice. I personally get about the same money as you, and give my mum £200 each month. I manage, and I'm sure you can too.

 

[Wintermoot]

try to talk out with her and tell her you will pay her once you finish college.

 

[William Dickbringer]

as everyone said ask to live 7 months debt free
as for me I get to avoid paying my mom rent because I'm going to school but I'm trying to move out

 

[molesgallus]

£100 a month is nothing, I was paying £60 a week in student accomodation, then £20 for food (I LIKE TO EAT) then £10/20pm for electricity, £10-15pm for broadband and £10pm for my phone.

So £100pm is a steal for rent.

Wait... What? £20 is considered a lot for food? I spend at least £80, a week. That's me at my most frugal. I own my own flat, next to the Uni, so I suppose I have that expense covered. But, still. £20 a week? That's under £3 a day? I'm desperately confused here. That is Ramen' territory. £1 for each meal. How can people live like that?

 

[Robert Ewing]

I have to pay £55 a month in rent. I am unemployed, the state provides me with £62 a month. This covers permission to live in my house. But It doesn't cover clothing, food, and little things like my gaming habit.

£7 is spent on those things. £7 isn't enough... It just isn't. It can't buy food, at minimum around £10 a month. Can't buy clothes. Clothes are usually around £15. And certainly can't buy games. Around £20 - £60.

I can't go out, because I can't afford it. I can't get a job in this economic climate, because nobody wants a inexperienced post-student. And with Christmas and birthdays coming fast... Yeah, y'know.

My life...

Supermarkets, there you go. It's a shit job but you'll be earning money which deserves a much greater degree of respect then sitting on job seekers allowance.

Or if that doesnt work, volunteer work, charity shops for one are always looking for this and it adds weight to a CV.

You'll not find much sympathy in that situation.

I'd like to also add I was a straight A student. Every subject I took in school and college, I got an A in. I'd also like to add that I've been looking for a job for 7 months. With only 1 interview under my belt.

This makes me believe that the pure strain I put in to getting good grades was... all for nothing.

I've tried supermarkets, they aren't hiring either. I'm not under qualified enough.

 

[PatrickXD]

How the fuck do you have a house with 10 people in it and neither parent have a job? It boggles the mind.
A bit more on topic, I think this is a pretty tough situation. From my personal experience from rent arguments when I got my weekend job (my mum wanted 30% of anything I get), the reasoning that I put behind not paying rent was fairly straightforward.

Spoiler

1: I cook for everyone
2: I clean the entire house, up to and including my parents room and 3 bathrooms
3: I have never and will never receive pocket money / free gifts outside of a special occasion (birthdays and christmas), everything I get is earned
4: I regularly help out with my mum's horses in terms of field maintenance, be that clearing fields of manure or some low level landscaping (all for free)
5: (and this is a fairly terrible one) I have no friends who do any of the above. I do not know a single person who would put up with that, in the same way that I have never heard of a parent asking their 16 year old son for rent from what is already minimum wage.

After I pointed these things out my parents started crying and apologizing and I have not had to pay rent. However, if you do not have reasons in the same vein as these, ie. if you do not already effectively work for your parents then I think it's fair for them to ask rent.

 

[flaming_squirrel]

I'd like to also add I was a straight A student. Every subject I took in school and college, I got an A in. I'd also like to add that I've been looking for a job for 7 months. With only 1 interview under my belt.

This makes me believe that the pure strain I put in to getting good grades was... all for nothing.

I've tried supermarkets, they aren't hiring either. I'm not under qualified enough.

Then volunteer work or practical education aiming for a specific industry is the way to go, feeling sorry for yourself does two things, jack and shit.

 

[Teachingaddict]

Goign to sound an arse here, but quit being selfish..

1)ok she owes you £700, what about the "thousands" she has spent on your and your two sisters over your lifetime....hell my parents probably "owe" me thousands by now (I am 33).



2) £100 / month for bills, freedom to do what you want, free internet, food on your table, tv licence paid, landline paid...hell thats a fricking steal, and even if you pay any of them it is still a fecking steal with some univeristy accomodation charging that/week (I was paying £50/week without internet, phone or food.


3)She's bloody unemployed as is your stepfather, ofc they are going to want rent when they have three "of age" children effectively (and please pardon the term) sponging off them...it makes you appaer more incredibly selfish that you cannot see this....

 

[O maestre]

100£ a month for free food tv and possibly internet... take it believe me being a university student myself its a hand to mouth style of living, when you are on your own even with government support.... unless you are willing to share a flat with someone.

however it has to be said that i had the opportunity to stay at home free of charge, but chose to move because the feeling of independence and freedom* far outweighed any comforts i had.


*once you start at uni you will have very little time to enjoy your freedom unfortunately... but its still worth it IMO

 

[TonyVonTonyus]

Dude, find another place to live. Move into a fraternity or something.

 

[Odbarc]

To start, I'm gonna give you some background about me. I live in Scotland and that I am 18. 10 people live in my house, my Mum, Step-dad, sister, 3 Step-Sisters, 1 Step-Brother, my Cousin and my Cousin's 3 year old son. And of course me. I finished school in June and my Sister nad Step-Sister finished school June 2010.

I start University on Monday and I get money from SAAS/SLC for doing so. I get ~£550 a month from them combined, and just over £1000 in September combined (I don't know why more in September, i guess for books and stuff.)

To keep costs down going ot Uni (by the time I finish my course I'll be ~£16000 in debt, possibly more, since the Government pay for 4 years of University) I decided to stay at home, thinking my Mum was reasonable since my Sister has been at Uni for a year and didn't have to give my Mum anything.

Anyways, she turned round to me, my Sister, and my Step-Sister today and said the she needs £100 a month of us in "rent". I don't mind giving her money, but she owes me ~£700 from the money I've let her borrow over the years since i was about 14. Her reasoning is that the three of us left school, her income has been decreasing because of the money she gets from the government when we are at school. My Mum and Step-Dad also don't have a job, so I think it is compeltely unreasonable to siphon money from us because they are too lazy to go out and get a job. It just pisses me off that she refuses to get a job.

Should i give her the money? Do you or did you have to pay your parents rent whilst doing your studies? How much did you have to pay them?

7 months 'free' until she paid you back.

It's completely fair to ask only $100 a month.
I've been living on my own for a while now.

Rent a bachelors apartment: $600 a month. For me, this includes hydro and water.
I used to live in a 2-bedroom w/o hydro and that was $425 a month + $30 a month (Total 60 every other month).
Internet is extra, I pay $40 a month but if I keep going over my limit, I might bump myself up to the $60 package.

$100 is nearly NOTHING for an individual to pay. Do you pay for any of the internet? You probably drain about $15 of electricity a month. Your share is at least $6 assuming you never exceed your limits. (I can easily as one person.)
Food can be expensive. I generally eat $100 worth of food a WEEK and that's when I'm trimming. It can easily bloat to twice that when I'm trying to gain weight. At the very least, buying stuff in bulk, you're eating like, at least $25 worth of food a week. This alone dictates a $100 monthly rent only balances out a portion of the drain your causing.

Even if they demand $500 a month from you, that's still better than anything you can get leaving home. There's no reason they shouldn't ask you for money.
I've been paying rent (out my ass really) since I was 18. Neither of my brothers did because they couldn't and I ended up losing almost ALL of my savings to keep us fed. (No gratitude.)


Hindsight, it's really funny what young adults complain about when it comes to new demands of an able-bodies person whose very used of the very comfortable life their parents often have given their children.
I remember hearing a friend of mine whine "his mom didn't put enough meat in his sandwich for work" and I couldn't help but wonder why he wasn't just making his own sandwiches like I did. It takes half a minute to make a sandwich. How can he not have time for this when he whines about for 10 minutes?

 

[Continuity]

Anyways, she turned round to me, my Sister, and my Step-Sister today and said the she needs £100 a month of us in "rent". I don't mind giving her money, but she owes me ~£700 from the money I've let her borrow over the years since i was about 14. Her reasoning is that the three of us left school, her income has been decreasing because of the money she gets from the government when we are at school. My Mum and Step-Dad also don't have a job, so I think it is compeltely unreasonable to siphon money from us because they are too lazy to go out and get a job. It just pisses me off that she refuses to get a job.

Should i give her the money? Do you or did you have to pay your parents rent whilst doing your studies? How much did you have to pay them?

£100 seriously? I payed my parents £350.

Its a simple equation, can you live somewhere else cheaper? (the answer is no) if not then you give her the £100 or you move out (and pay more somewhere else).