Paying parents rent.
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That's cool, I was just a little concerned because mine took ages due to my qualifying for every bursary under the sun and them requiring proof. All you need to do now is get the declaration form through the post (or you can download it via your correspondence tab on the right hand side of your account page), sign it and send it back.Baneat said:
In a family... well, in mine, there is no such thing as private property when it comes to money... the money I earn that is. Be thankful that you only pay 100 pounds, I'm more or less paying everything I earn. Which makes saving up money to move out a real pain in the assparagus.
Point is, if you still have money left over for your own plans after paying them rent, pay them, with the condition of you and your siblings not be their main source of income.
Point is, if you still have money left over for your own plans after paying them rent, pay them, with the condition of you and your siblings not be their main source of income.
This exactly and I'm agreeing as a 23 year old that has moved out of his parents house at 18.Rawne1980 said:
OP your rent charge is cheap, get a job and get a tenant contract with your mother and then be happy to help support your family. I also disagree that she owes you money, yes you may have made that agreement with her but she fed, housed and otherwise provided for you for 18 years. If you don't want to pay rent to her move out and pay some other person much more for housing, and utility costs, and food...
I have always and will always be opposed to the practice of parents treating their children as anything other than close friends.
That include parents, step or not, treating their children as regular tenants.
On the other hand, in this case, it seems to be more of a "look, we are a bit short on household money, so all of us have to pitch in". My problem still is with the phrasing of it as "rent".
That include parents, step or not, treating their children as regular tenants.
On the other hand, in this case, it seems to be more of a "look, we are a bit short on household money, so all of us have to pitch in". My problem still is with the phrasing of it as "rent".
You obviously have two options with various permutations.
Pay her, or don't pay her.
If you don't pay her there's the risk she'll kick you out, and to be honest it's cheaper to give her the board money. I paid my dad money when I was 18 and living at home. I had to move back in with him after I came crawling back to my rural hometown broke and single after the "big city" was harder to deal with than I'd expected when I left home 3 days after graduating high school.
I'd suggest that if it's cheaper to stay at home and pay, do so. If you feel it's worth the extra money to move out then move out.
The $700 (don't have pound sign on this keyboard) is one of those things you'll have to wear. Don't loan money to friends and family any more. Ever.
Give them a gift if they need money. If you're not willing to take a hard line and get back what's owed you, eventually you'll get suckered. I'm assuming that if you're owed enough to buy a car and it's not been paid back after 4 years, you're not that kind of guy (gal? profile doesn't indicate).
Pay her, or don't pay her.
If you don't pay her there's the risk she'll kick you out, and to be honest it's cheaper to give her the board money. I paid my dad money when I was 18 and living at home. I had to move back in with him after I came crawling back to my rural hometown broke and single after the "big city" was harder to deal with than I'd expected when I left home 3 days after graduating high school.
I'd suggest that if it's cheaper to stay at home and pay, do so. If you feel it's worth the extra money to move out then move out.
The $700 (don't have pound sign on this keyboard) is one of those things you'll have to wear. Don't loan money to friends and family any more. Ever.
Give them a gift if they need money. If you're not willing to take a hard line and get back what's owed you, eventually you'll get suckered. I'm assuming that if you're owed enough to buy a car and it's not been paid back after 4 years, you're not that kind of guy (gal? profile doesn't indicate).
Also think about the kids who are still stuck in the house with no income/ability to move out; assuming you move out and give your parents nothing, what happens to them? As you put it, your parents refuse to work/help cover those costs through personal salaries, which means the smaller siblings will suffer the most. Just something to keep in mind.
Swallow your pride and pay a really small amount for rent. 100 euro is nothing. I pay about 700 euro in America for a nice flat.
I have to pay £90 rent to my parents every 2 weeks for food/bills,
£30 every 2 weeks for the council tax,
and my bf (living with us) the £90 AND £150 every 2 weeks for the actual house rent because my dads on benefits.
... but yeah. I agree with the fact she should at least use what she owes you first. That, or you should find your own place.
£30 every 2 weeks for the council tax,
and my bf (living with us) the £90 AND £150 every 2 weeks for the actual house rent because my dads on benefits.
... but yeah. I agree with the fact she should at least use what she owes you first. That, or you should find your own place.
I'd say move out, around here you can get rent form around £50-60 ex. bills, so I'd talk to your sisters and see about finding a 3 bedroom rental accomidation and move in there, you'd all save some money, even after bills and food, etc.
Alternately, take the full student loan and move into halls, at least for one year, and then move in with classmates/housemates the year after.
I pay £50 a week to my parents all inclusive (bills, food, etc). But I also help out by doing the weekly shop, gardening, cleaning, etc. I want to move out as soon as I can, but being unable to find work as a graduate tends to stiffle that somewhat.
Alternately, take the full student loan and move into halls, at least for one year, and then move in with classmates/housemates the year after.
I pay £50 a week to my parents all inclusive (bills, food, etc). But I also help out by doing the weekly shop, gardening, cleaning, etc. I want to move out as soon as I can, but being unable to find work as a graduate tends to stiffle that somewhat.
If money is tight or you don't have a job, then try offering to help out around the house instead. You should contribute to the household, but it doesn't necessarily have to be monetarily. I would recommend agreeing on a preset monetary worth for each chore done or set up an agreed upon list of chores that you will do every day/week/month, ect. that way you can avoid arguments over how much work you should do r should have down later.
Tell her to take it out of what she owes.
I live at home and my dad bought my old car. He used to charge me rent, but since he owes me for the car, he stopped asking for payment (so I stopped paying). You may find the same result as I, or at least you'll get 7 months of free lodging.
I live at home and my dad bought my old car. He used to charge me rent, but since he owes me for the car, he stopped asking for payment (so I stopped paying). You may find the same result as I, or at least you'll get 7 months of free lodging.
Yes, you should be paying board once you turn 18. You can't expect your parents to pay for all of your expenses once you leave school.
However, if you don't stay at home then you send them a big fuck you and not pay. You really should have went for student accommodation and paid for it with a student loan, if you ask me. Then again, I might be swayed by the fact that going to university means I get into around £27,000 debt from tuition alone and probably a total of £35,000 and more.
However, if you don't stay at home then you send them a big fuck you and not pay. You really should have went for student accommodation and paid for it with a student loan, if you ask me. Then again, I might be swayed by the fact that going to university means I get into around £27,000 debt from tuition alone and probably a total of £35,000 and more.
I've recently left sixth form and since university isn't really an option due to not really being able to afford it or knowing what I want to do, I'm looking for a job. I've been signed on for JSA since the start of August and until I can find work £40 of my £50 JSA is going to my mother a week for living expenses. Once I get a job this will probably go up to £60.
Your parents are likely in the same situation as my mother. Child tax credits and such from the government have stopped because you're 18 but you're still living at home so they're out of pocket. Suck it up and pay the £100 a month.
Your parents are likely in the same situation as my mother. Child tax credits and such from the government have stopped because you're 18 but you're still living at home so they're out of pocket. Suck it up and pay the £100 a month.
It's pounds, not Euro, but very easy mistake to make.Alrocsmash said:
OT: If your parents aren't willing to let you live free for seven months (since they owe you £700) then take it as a lesson learnt - never loan anyone any large sum of money, unless you can put the screws on them. I know a fair few people who fell into this trap in their first year of Uni, and it's taught me to keep a big book of names, amounts, and deals with me. If you're going to do anything like that, at least make the person pay for things for you, or pay you back in meals or similar.
Unfortunately, you owe them more than they owe you on account of them being the one's that squeezed you out form between their thighs and put cake in your mouth every birthday for years. If they want to play dumb with the debt you've unfortunately got to walk away without it.
see i never agreed with the whole "they fed you and paid for you for 18 years" argument, yes they certainly did, however, they were kind of legally bound to do so, and they were even paid to do so. just saying that say in this case, the 700 gets forgotten because "they raised you" just doesn't fly with me.Rayne870 said:
now i didn't pay rent, how ever i never had an allowance for chores when i was growing up, and the agreement i had with my parents was simple. if i wasn't attending college then i have to pay rent, if i have a job and am attending college then i'm fine for a time. i still pay $135 a month for car insurance, and i *might* make enough to cover that this month, as it is i'm only getting 60 bucks this paycheck, and i may have even less hours for the next once, since my work hasn't had enough sales to justify giving me more than a day or so a week.
I think it's fair enough and a reasonable enough amount compared to living completely on your own to help out and all but I reckon you should try to get them to finding their own jobs if neither of them, like you mentioned, have any as of yet. Is there anything that's actually preventing them from getting work such as a physical disability for example?
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You're only 31? Gee whiz - no chance. You sounded a bit older to me, huh. My parents have a bigger age gap between them, lol.Rawne1980 said:
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