Paying parents rent.

[ezeroast]

It costs a bung load to look after 10 people, pay the rent (its not much) and work on getting your 700 eventually.

 

[godofallu]

It's true, these people did raise you. Suck it up sunshine and pay your parents. 'OH BUT SHE OWES ME 700 DOLLARS!' If you were born and then your Mum and Dad didn't do anything to look after you, chances are you wouldn't have been alive to go to uni, let alone jump online and have a bit of a cry.

This kind of thing doesn't fly with me.

No-one asks to be born. No-one asks to be a financial burden on their parents. Adults know what they're getting into when they decide to have a child, and to say that a child owes them for all the money spent on them, which is the parents responsibility, is just stupid.

Your parents took care of you because it was their moral and legal responsibility to do so, not because you asked them to.

And now it is no longer their moral or legal responsibility, hence the 100. Frankly grown (well is 18 truly grown?) up people should stop being burdens to their parents and start to live their own life. I can't imagine finding a place that would let me live there for just 100 a month.

So your parents bum off welfare and had too many children. At least they had the decency to give you an option (to move out or to pay 1/5th of what your rent would probably actually be).

PS: Your existence has cost them far more than 100 a month so maybe cut them some slack. It's not like you are any better than the people on welfare. You simply take money from a different government fund. Some of us actually paid off college through working or student loans.

 

[-Samurai-]

It's true, these people did raise you. Suck it up sunshine and pay your parents. 'OH BUT SHE OWES ME 700 DOLLARS!' If you were born and then your Mum and Dad didn't do anything to look after you, chances are you wouldn't have been alive to go to uni, let alone jump online and have a bit of a cry.

This kind of thing doesn't fly with me.

No-one asks to be born. No-one asks to be a financial burden on their parents. Adults know what they're getting into when they decide to have a child, and to say that a child owes them for all the money spent on them, which is the parents responsibility, is just stupid.

Your parents took care of you because it was their moral and legal responsibility to do so, not because you asked them to.

And now it is no longer their moral or legal responsibility, hence the 100. Frankly grown (well is 18 truly grown?) up people should stop being burdens to their parents and start to live their own life. I can't imagine finding a place that would let me live there for just 100 a month.

So your parents bum off welfare and had too many children. At least they had the decency to give you an option (to move out or to pay 1/5th of what your rent would probably actually be).

PS: Your existence has cost them far more than 100 a month so maybe cut them some slack. It's not like you are any better than the people on welfare. You simply take money from a different government fund. Some of us actually paid off college through working or student loans.

At which point I'll agree. If you have the means, then you should help out. You should do what you can without having to be asked. If it doesn't hinder you, help them.

But to say that you owe them for raising you is bullshit.

 

[Doc Theta Sigma]

my parents wont allow me to pay rent...i feel like a sponge.

Preaching to the choir. It took a two day argument for me to convince my mother to charge me rent while I'm unemployed.

Anyway. You seriously need to suck it up. If she's struggling to make ends meet and you have a job, why shouldn't you contribute £100 of that to help the family? You're 18. You're legally an adult. And it's cheaper than student accomodation. Don't take it as you being unwelcome in the house. She just requires some help.

 

[Death God]

She can take it from her bill she owes you but unless both of your parents are working at jobs and your not making their bills higher, they shouldn't ask for money. Besides, how can you tell your own kid, "You are living her so give me money for it"?

 

[Xanthious]

It's a whopping 25 a week. Christ I spend more than that on parking most weeks. If you can't afford that or don't want to pay it you can always see what kind of deal the real world will give you and move the hell out. Hell you might find someone willing to feed you and put a roof over your head and pay you for the pleasure of doing so.

Now as for the 700 you say you are owed by your mom, well you just sound like a spoiled little twat for even bring that up. Your ma isn't looking for work? So the fuck what! The bills are getting paid somehow are they not? And reading your whiny post they sure the hell aren't getting paid by your entitled ass.

Bottom line you need to worry about yourself and stop being a leech. Going to school isn't a permit to be a burden on your family and that's all you appear to be whining on some online forum about pitching in such a small amount. You should be fucking embarrassed. You really ought get down on your knees and thank God, Allah, and the neighbor's dog that you are even allowed to live at home still and haven't been thrown out into the real world like you probably deserve.

 

[mooncalf]

If you think your parents spent less than 700 pounds raising you, go for it and raise the issue of money you think they owe you. If you're not that stupendously arrogant then I recommend you accept that as a developing adult it would be good and healthy for you to experience contributing to your living expenses if not completely covering them on your own. If the amount stings, try to make a case for why.

 

[Raioken18]

I pay $500 AUD(Australian) a month, funnily enough your paren't don't have to take care of you.

See the downside is that it only costs like another $100 a month to live out of home, but that $100 has to go a long way. Also... women aren't too impressed when you say you are taking them back to your mothers house :/

The upside is that living at home, my mother is a clean freak so she constantly cleans everything. Trust me having a clean living space and the occasional home cooked meal without lifting a finger is worth it.

 

[Sansha]

When I turned 16, left school and got my first job, my parents handed me a rent agreement for my continued living in the house, and said:
"From here on out, everything you get, you will work for - because in the real world, nobody will give you anything."

tl;dr -
Life isn't fair.

But, if you can provide proof that your mother owes you the 700, you can either agree to live rent-free for seven months, or you can be a man and put the debt on a hiatus while you support your family.

Whatever works for you, really.

 

[AWC Viper]

That's not that much for rent. I rent with housemates and I study and work at the same time, I pay (equal to pounds) about 600 a month.

That's just the room, not including power, food, internet, cable and other stuff

 

[Erana]

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I feel like I should clarify a little more, not because I felt like you guys were calling me out on anything.

I realize that it isn't exclusive to the Chinese culture, but it baffles me that North Americans believe that it's ok. In my culture, not supporting your kids is like abandoning your duty as a parent. Yeah, sure, you have to teach your kid to be self sufficient, but is forcing them to pay to live really going to do that? What if they get put into financial crisis? What if they're also the kind of parents that believe that the child should pay for their education? Sure, they're learning to be self sufficient, but that could back fire big time on them and the kind could end up homeless. I guess it depends on the parents, but it still bothers me and feels like you're trying to set them up for failure.

What?
I was agreeing with you.

 

[Waaghpowa]

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I feel like I should clarify a little more, not because I felt like you guys were calling me out on anything.

I realize that it isn't exclusive to the Chinese culture, but it baffles me that North Americans believe that it's ok. In my culture, not supporting your kids is like abandoning your duty as a parent. Yeah, sure, you have to teach your kid to be self sufficient, but is forcing them to pay to live really going to do that? What if they get put into financial crisis? What if they're also the kind of parents that believe that the child should pay for their education? Sure, they're learning to be self sufficient, but that could back fire big time on them and the kind could end up homeless. I guess it depends on the parents, but it still bothers me and feels like you're trying to set them up for failure.

What?
I was agreeing with you.

I know, but I wanted to add a thought

 

[wolf92]

My parents decided that while i was in college, they wouldn't charge me rent if i lived at home, but once i graduated, rent was to be charged. In your case though, considering she owes you money, i wouldn't pay

 

[Tselis]

Tell her to take it out of the money she owes you, or find another place to live.
The second one should be lots more fun.

I second this, however I think you should say the first as her reaction will be more entertaining... for the Escapist I mean.

I third this! I think the ayes have it.

 

[FalloutJack]

No, I didn't, and I think having to pay FAMILY without good reason is a dumb idea.

And fuck you too, captcha!

 

[Astoria]

I'd bring up the fact that she owes you and not pay until it's the amount she owed you. After that you should pay because she is still supporting you. I started paying $200 a month when I got a job but it might go down if/when I start uni.

 

[Aurora Firestorm]

Families have obligations to each other. Unless she direly needs money, in which case she should ask nicely rather than demanding rent like you're a stranger, she should leave you be until you get on your feet. Family sticks up for each other.

 

[Yopaz]

Our eldest daughter is 18 and is just starting UNI pretty soon (19th).

She started working as soon as she left school to give herself some extra money while at college and kept at it since.

When she turned 18 my wife decided it was time to charge her rent. Not out of spite we don't charge much it's only £60 a month which goes into an account for her for when she's 21 (she doesn't know about it we've been putting money into an account for each of the kids since they were born) so when she goes out in the big bad world on her own she's used to budgeting and knows how to live within her means and won't end up homeless for not paying rent on time.

It does irritate me slightly when I see things like this and young uns thinking they are hard done by.

Do you have any idea how much it costs to raise a child?

You buggers aint cheap.

When you hit 18 in the UK all child benefit, child tax credits and any other payments stop. So that extra money that was helping your mum keep you fed and watered has now stopped while you are still needing the food and water.

Surprising how many people don't consider costs these days. They just instantly assume everything will be provided to them.

Oh, this is the first post I agree completely with. After 18 years of living there paying nothing it's a big problem suddenly paying rent, and the rent isn't even big.
I moved out when I was 15 and have been paying the rent by myself ever since that. Moving back home would just feel weird at this point. If I were to live home and have a steady source of income I would prefer to pay rent. So your mom owes you a whole lot of money, doesn't that tell you she's got financial difficulties?

 

[martin's a madman]

No, my Mum would never even think of charging me rent. I'm just lucky to live with her.

I'm actually moving out to university tomorrow, so while I'm studying I'll be on residence, but my Mum is actually going to be chipping in some money to help pay for second semester.

So... pretty much, my Mum's great to me; and I'm grateful.

 

[Teshi]

100 pounds/month is cheap. Even cheaper if you're eating at home and not contributing to the groceries.

As far as the owing you 700 pounds goes, yeah, that's too bad, but that doesn't help with the cost of feeding and housing you now. It's only decent to contribute to household expenses while you live there. Plus, this should really be a life lesson for you: a loan you don't have set down in paper is actually a gift. It's nice if you get it back, but anytime you give someone - especially friends and family - money without having a contract for repayment, you have to assume that money is gone, and if you get it back, well, what a lovely surprise.

I wouldn't get too high-handed about your mother not having a job when you plan to live off government funding yourself while in school, and you're trying to talk her into letting you live at her house free of charge. Once you're self-supporting then maybe you'll be entitled to get sassy about it.