This is something that has often bothered me, but only recently has been re-brought to my attention by a friend on facebook. To be honest, he ain't really a friend, just someone I knew once, and don't really hate enough to delete. Anyway, recently, he keeps posting about not wanting to be alone, and wanting to get a girlfriend. Reminds me of myself not a million years ago.
Personal backstory
This assumption in society seems to harm so many people. When I think of what it did to me once upon a time, thinking I was worthless and doomed to a joyless life, and what it appears to be doing to my aforementioned friend, well, I wish there was something I could do to shatter this misconception that you NEED a second half to be happy.
TLR; What do you think of this assumption?
PS: Could we please steer away from "You don't understand love!" comments. Maybe I don't. Maybe you don't. Maybe I'm bitter. Maybe you're wearing rose tinted heart glasses. The argument will continue forever and ever and none of us have any real proof to end such a pointless argument. It ain't the debate at hand, and it ain't going anywhere.
Personal backstory
Anyway, when I got over my last and first relationship, I thought to myself, "Why? Why do I want a girlfriend when the torment, and investment of time, effort, emotions, mind-power, and let's be honest here, money, makes such a goal not worth it, to downright impossible?" I realised, Aside from the obvious "male urges", I had no real emotional "want" or "need" for a girlfriend. At the time, I was lonely as hell anyway, a friend would've had just as much value as anything else.
I'm far too fugly to get a girlfriend for a decent amount of time anyway, at least not someone whom my chances of meeting and then being worthy of are over a million to one. I realised, the only people telling me I needed this position in life as someone's second half were the rest of society, who I tend to live a thousand times differently to anyway.
Now, I have an active social life, and more than ever, I don't want to try and get a girlfriend. Like I said, the chances of success are so minute, and the cost of trying incalcuable to my self confidence and already strained free time. I have friends, I'm not lonely, why the hell do I need anything more?
I'm far too fugly to get a girlfriend for a decent amount of time anyway, at least not someone whom my chances of meeting and then being worthy of are over a million to one. I realised, the only people telling me I needed this position in life as someone's second half were the rest of society, who I tend to live a thousand times differently to anyway.
Now, I have an active social life, and more than ever, I don't want to try and get a girlfriend. Like I said, the chances of success are so minute, and the cost of trying incalcuable to my self confidence and already strained free time. I have friends, I'm not lonely, why the hell do I need anything more?
This assumption in society seems to harm so many people. When I think of what it did to me once upon a time, thinking I was worthless and doomed to a joyless life, and what it appears to be doing to my aforementioned friend, well, I wish there was something I could do to shatter this misconception that you NEED a second half to be happy.
TLR; What do you think of this assumption?
PS: Could we please steer away from "You don't understand love!" comments. Maybe I don't. Maybe you don't. Maybe I'm bitter. Maybe you're wearing rose tinted heart glasses. The argument will continue forever and ever and none of us have any real proof to end such a pointless argument. It ain't the debate at hand, and it ain't going anywhere.