Rainforce said:
Have a few problems in that regard as well, but since I actually started trying to get a bit of happiness running, I'm doing much better. Also I started blaming those of the vocal minority that don't try, but whine every day about it (I hate it when people come at me whining/complaining with "I can't do that, depression, [etc. something about needing more respect]". I'd rather see them being sorry for their "disability", if anything. I mean, it's not the fault of others that we get held up by personal problems.) >_>
So I guess it's hard to start on that part, because your memories are just FULL of negative thoughts, and you're so used to it that you're also likely to continue, even without the real source of the problem. It's also hard because most people in that situation lack the support needed. Then again, being alone might help you see the fact that you actually CAN change yourself a bit clearer. After all, life sure DOES suck, but it's still all up to you what you do with it, no matter what's in your way.
On topic: didn't see that coming, but good that she's trying to get her crap together
Ok, this is exactly the OPPOSITE of what I meant. Would you yell at a paraplegic for not being able to climb stairs? Yes? Well, there's nothing I can say that would make this conversation any better.
But if the answer is no, then you're basically doing that by not understanding that depression IS a disability. If you don't have it, you can't possibly understand it. If you do have it,
Here's how I try to explain it. Everyone has days where they just don't do anything. They wake up, and they feel emotionally wrecked, so they say "I'm not doing anything today!" And they don't. And the next day, they feel better and get back to their lives.
Depression is like that, but every day. You wake up feeling TERRIBLE, and you feel that way ALL THE TIME. It makes it nearly impossible to do anything, because whatever motivation you might have is buried under how absolutely terrible everything is forever. You feel that every single person is scum, including yourself, and you just DON'T CARE whether you live or die, because there's no point. Essentially, it's a person who physically lacks the brain chemistry necessary to get motivated. About ANYTHING.
And if you think you HAVE depression, and you DON'T feel like this, then you're probably wrong/misdiagnosed.
I am not, nor was I EVER saying that people with depression should just get over it. That doesn't work. It just doesn't. If you think it does, you're wrong. I can get medical professionals to PROVE that you're wrong.
But ATTEMPTING to get over it CAN decrease some of the symptoms to make it merely a serious problem instead of a crippling one.