If it includes both, then what is happening here? We're... half whipped? Are myself and my boyfriend... are we... are we cropped?Woodsey said:
Poll: Being 'Whipped.'
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I don't think one partner being whipped is healthy for the realtionship in the long term.
If you're not on equal grounds it probably wont work out.
If you're not on equal grounds it probably wont work out.
Say whaaat?
It's not about being 'whipped'. If you were being truly whipped and realised it then I am quite surprised how cool you are with it.
I've always been more - You want to do that? Fine. I'll see you tomorrow. I've always felt whipping your man is because you don't trust them enough to be free to make their own decisions.
I thought this was going to be about sexy times.
Anyway, I'd say my Husband and I are equal. He'll ask if I'd like to go places with him, but I am generally okay with doing things by myself and him doing things by himself or with friends. We understand what alone time really means. Though we are best friends and spend a lot of time together anyway, and his friends have become my acquaintances and we get along well enough. Though I do like to know where he is going if I don't tag along. Not to keep tabs on him as if I don't trust him, but just in case of emergency. I mean what if something happens and the police ask, "Where was he going when he left the house?" and all I can say is, "Uh...somewhere that's not here?"
Anyway, I'd say my Husband and I are equal. He'll ask if I'd like to go places with him, but I am generally okay with doing things by myself and him doing things by himself or with friends. We understand what alone time really means. Though we are best friends and spend a lot of time together anyway, and his friends have become my acquaintances and we get along well enough. Though I do like to know where he is going if I don't tag along. Not to keep tabs on him as if I don't trust him, but just in case of emergency. I mean what if something happens and the police ask, "Where was he going when he left the house?" and all I can say is, "Uh...somewhere that's not here?"
I have two thoughts on this:
1) For me it's really awkward being around a couple where one of the partners seems to have checked their backbone at the door.
2) I believe that there are gradients in relationships regarding a sort of "balance of power". I don't think a 50/50 relationship works because there ends up being too much deferring between the partners. IMO the ideal range for healthy "normal" relationships would be 55/45 to 65/35. You start seeing Dom/Sub relationships in the 70/30 to 80/20 range. Again IMO but anything over 85/15 would probably constitute an abusive relationship. Also: Hooray for oversimplification!
1) For me it's really awkward being around a couple where one of the partners seems to have checked their backbone at the door.
2) I believe that there are gradients in relationships regarding a sort of "balance of power". I don't think a 50/50 relationship works because there ends up being too much deferring between the partners. IMO the ideal range for healthy "normal" relationships would be 55/45 to 65/35. You start seeing Dom/Sub relationships in the 70/30 to 80/20 range. Again IMO but anything over 85/15 would probably constitute an abusive relationship. Also: Hooray for oversimplification!
Between our friends we all joke about it, but except for one couple I don't think there's much whipping going on (usually both parts of each couple want to do the same thing anyway). I wouldn't say I'm whipped at all, my and my girlfriend are quite honest with eachother when we don't want to do stuff, but we're nice to eachother anyway (I'd have thought that was expected in a relationship after all).
Being whipped is most enjoyable, restrained and blindfolded as your girlfriend teasingly draws the whip across you body before...
...Oh different whipped.
I don't know I think my relationship works on two rivers logic (from the Wheel of Time). Where I let her make all the small decisions so I can put my foot down on something important and usually get my way. The inverse it could be interpreted that she lets me have a victory here or there so can control the day to day stuff.
...Oh different whipped.
I don't know I think my relationship works on two rivers logic (from the Wheel of Time). Where I let her make all the small decisions so I can put my foot down on something important and usually get my way. The inverse it could be interpreted that she lets me have a victory here or there so can control the day to day stuff.
I have little respect for people like that unless it genuinely makes them happy. Too often you find one partner completely under their partners thumb and they are miserable, but too weak to stand up for themselves.
This can happen in all kind of relationships, but in my experience it's normally the guys who are 'whipped', I normally assume it's due to fear of not getting sex, or fear of not being in a relationship.
Why anybody would want to be in a relationship where they are treated like a servant, I do not know, but like I said, if they actually enjoy it, then I have no right to criticise.
This can happen in all kind of relationships, but in my experience it's normally the guys who are 'whipped', I normally assume it's due to fear of not getting sex, or fear of not being in a relationship.
Why anybody would want to be in a relationship where they are treated like a servant, I do not know, but like I said, if they actually enjoy it, then I have no right to criticise.
I tend to avoid the whipped sort of relationships, on either side of it, for one, I'm not somoene who is whippable, I do my thing, if someone has a problem with that then I don't need them in my life, however if it's someone who wants me to give them instruction on how to spend all their time or live their life, then I find the relationship irritating, I like women who can be happy being them, and can be happy with me being me, because I can be happy without that kind of relationship as well, if someone wants to spend time with me, and I want to spend time with them and share life in a relationship of that variety, that is good, because it make certain parts of life more enjoyable due to the mutual enjoyment reinforcing personal enjoyment, thing, that happens...
Every guy I've known personally, as a friend IRL, who's been "whipped" has had those relationships end badly, usually because the woman gets bored being in control, and starts cheating on him with someone else who is less boring, controllable, or predictable, but hey, to each their own I guess.
Every guy I've known personally, as a friend IRL, who's been "whipped" has had those relationships end badly, usually because the woman gets bored being in control, and starts cheating on him with someone else who is less boring, controllable, or predictable, but hey, to each their own I guess.
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I'm sorry, what were we talking about?
OT: Well, if the person I was whipped to in this hypothetical scenario was on my back to a bad extent, that situation wouldn't have happened. I do not respond well to being controlled.
Assuming this isn't the case, I never really give a shit about being whipped. Likely because I grew up with dogs and am therefore content to settle for a pleasant dog's life with a girl I love. If that metaphor makes sense.
That said, I don't think me being whipped has the typical result, as I've been 'whipped' before, and I still had my uh... energetic eccentricity that unnerves everyone around me. Even the girl who was supposed to be the boss in this couple
She was totally wrong when she said I couldn't design a technically safe flaming sombrero.
Those kinds of relationships never work. Girls don't like guys who put them on a pedestal and let them do whatever they want with them. They lose interest fast. They want someone who is their equal. And if they're not the ones to lose interest, then guys lose interest. And when that happens, the girl goes berserk because she can no longer control the guy.
How long have you been in a relationship with your current girlfriend? Perhaps you're not yet out of the infatuation stage. Which is nice, I suppose. It's a good feeling being completely obsessed with each other. But once that wears off, and it always does, two things can happen. You realize that you're not actually in love, which can be depressing, or your love matures and you bond even more. If that happens, and I hope it does, it's the best thing in the world.
How long have you been in a relationship with your current girlfriend? Perhaps you're not yet out of the infatuation stage. Which is nice, I suppose. It's a good feeling being completely obsessed with each other. But once that wears off, and it always does, two things can happen. You realize that you're not actually in love, which can be depressing, or your love matures and you bond even more. If that happens, and I hope it does, it's the best thing in the world.
Thought the same thing as you. I'm fairly certian that we are correct as whipping in a literal sense is beating someone into submission. But whatever. I tend to do what ever my girlfriend asks me to, but I also do that for just about everyone.Stasisesque said:
EDIT: Not that I'm a pushover. I have limits and all. If something isn't inconvenient for me to do and someone needs it done I'll do it.
For some reason even believing my girlfriend has a valuable opinion has led people to call me whipped so the term really doesn't mean anything to me anymore. However since we both value each others input, enjoy spending time with each other and can have fun when we aren't together I think its a safe bet to ay we aren't whipped.
The definition in my opinion is when one person is being forced into doing something they clearly don't want to but do it anyways because of the "You would if you love me" excuse. Yech even typing that made me hurt on the inside it does however get the point across.
The definition in my opinion is when one person is being forced into doing something they clearly don't want to but do it anyways because of the "You would if you love me" excuse. Yech even typing that made me hurt on the inside it does however get the point across.
And these are my exact feelings right here.ms_sunlight said:
Also, I find it suspicious that you never hear a woman called "whipped".
Well I think I'm more of a dom than a sub and it's been more about control for me than causing pain and...oh wait we're not talking about that? Never mind then.
