Despite how much I respect parents, I don't think there is enough power in a name for it to make a difference. For the sake of their emotions, I call them mom and dad. However, if I have kids I don't need them showing "respect" by robotically including a title. If they want to call me dad, fine. But I'm not going to punish them for not saying it. If I'm a good father, they'll remember me regardless.
Poll: Calling your Parents by there First name?
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See, that's how I was raised as well. If I were to refer to my mother by her first name, I could expect a smack upside the head from my father.ravensheart18 said:
Yet, upon moving to Holland I encountered people who called their parents by their first name not to show a lack of respect, but because the parents demanded it. The logic for this seems to be that 'mom' and 'dad' (or the local equivalent) are generic terms and therefor less respectfull than actual names. I don't really get this line of reasoning, but apparently there are people who live by it.
Is your brother older, financially endowed and got a list of academic titles the length of your arm? If yes, then that's probably why... (no disrespect)Trezu said:
OT: No... I just call them 'Dad' and 'Mom' like any good middle class New England kid... though I occasionally call my old man 'Pops'. It also depends on the language I'm speaking, though even then, I rarely refer to my parents by name when speaking Chinese.
With us (by 'us', I mean Chinese, Japanese and Koreans, not sure about the southerners) it is a cultural thing that if you're close enough to someone, you can address them in a familial manner. Friends who aren't related at all will be addressed as 'brother/sister/aunt/uncle', so addressing a close family member by name without signifiers is actually quite cold and rude.
I've always called my parents mum and dad, it would just feel weird to use their first names. I don't even like doing it if I'm talking to someone else.
Mom's Mom and Dad's Dad, except in situations where all three of us goof off or crack jokes at each other. If I want to sound extremely appalled by something they've done (which is usually part of a joke), I use their first names.
Beyond that, when the first names come out, it's usually serious stuff. The rest of the time we use nicknames for one another, and I use Mom and Dad.
Beyond that, when the first names come out, it's usually serious stuff. The rest of the time we use nicknames for one another, and I use Mom and Dad.
I have always called my folks Mam or Dad. I think it will be a little weird to call them by their first name.
If I'm joking around with them then, yes. Otherwise, I say mom and dad. When my mom is being crotchety or ocd I call her mother because it strikes a chord.
My father was the major reason I'm a basket-case today, but I still called him Dad/Daddy till he died. My mother died when I was seven but I think I'd still be calling her Mammy even now.
My four year-old nephew calls his parents by their first names occasionally, don't know why. It's kind of cute though.
My four year-old nephew calls his parents by their first names occasionally, don't know why. It's kind of cute though.
You call your friends, acquaintances, or even people you just met by their first names. Surely your mother deserves something a little better to indicate she has a more special and intimate relationship with you considering she provided your genetic material, grew you, pushed you out in what was almost certainly an excruciating experience, and spent the next few years cleaning up your spew and wiping your arse.
Though clearly she did not spend enough time teaching you spelling or grammar.
*you
*parents
*their
*name
Though clearly she did not spend enough time teaching you spelling or grammar.
*you
*parents
*their
*name
I wish I had have called my dad by his first name before he died. I think it would have been the final step in him seeing me as a person and not his son. Can't do it now though. Once you feel you're an adult I recommend doing it at least once.
I don'tTrezu said:
Then again, I generally don't call adults by their first name unless they request that I do.
I normally don't use their first names, but I'm not opposed to it as long as its not all the time. I think of it like this: Everyone is able to call them by their first names; but you are one of the only people in the world who can honestly call them by "mom" and "dad." It's a recognition of the relationship that only you have; you may or may not be best buds with them, but that doesn't change your parent/child status to each other.
It varies from day to day.
Usually I refer to my mother as "Ma!" (with an elongated 'a' sound, so it's like "Hey Maaaaa! We got any pie?")
To my father, I either call him "Pops" (in reference to Louis Armstrong more than anything else) or "Ol' Man" because that's what he called his dad.
But use their actual names? Not unless I'm trying to take them off-guard. Most parents wouldn't be used to hearing their names from their children.
Usually I refer to my mother as "Ma!" (with an elongated 'a' sound, so it's like "Hey Maaaaa! We got any pie?")
To my father, I either call him "Pops" (in reference to Louis Armstrong more than anything else) or "Ol' Man" because that's what he called his dad.
But use their actual names? Not unless I'm trying to take them off-guard. Most parents wouldn't be used to hearing their names from their children.