Poll: Children or Partner?

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

No, We woulden't Be partners if they refused or if they had different plans then I did. Thats what dating is for, to see if you click.

Pretty much this.

 

[KeyMaster45]

There should be a depends option up there on your poll, this is not something very cut and dry. If you're truly in love with someone you should be willing to talk with them about not wanting to have children. They may be scared they would not be an adequate parent, or they may simply not be ready for kids, or there could be an underlying medical problem.

To be honest though I wouldn't worry about having kids until after the wedding, talking about kids while dating (unless you've been dating for years or are already engaged) that could scare off your girl/guy.

 

[latenightapplepie]

I loathe the idea of having my own children. Hence for me, it's more: Would I end it with my partner if they wanted to have children? Hopefully like many of you have suggested, dating would figure this issue out.

[sub] That's a yes [/sub]

 

[BringBackBuck]

No, We woulden't Be partners if they refused or if they had different plans then I did. Thats what dating is for, to see if you click.

Pretty much this.

Really? You guys would only consider a relationship with someone who had identical plans to you? what if your prospective partner wanted 3 kids and you want 2? what if your partner wants 3 girls and 4 boys but you want 4 boys and 3 girls? what if your partner agrees with all of your plans except for they want to retire at age 68 and move to canada, but you want to retire at age 67 and live in the south of france?

 

[mike1921]

Of course, finding a woman who does NOT want kids is much harder than the reverse. Stupid biological clock.

Which is pretty retarded (although, from a evolutionary perspective it makes sense, but some of us not wanting to have children proves that evolution no longer works in it's own interests). Girls get pregnancy and child birth, we should be more willing to have kids than them.

Have children or raise children. Because you can always adopt. Which skips the nasty stretch marky bit of childbirth.

You would have realised the partner didnt want kids before making a long term connection. If you didnt you didnt have a long term connection

family, religion, politics. There should be no surprises.

Someone else who's willing to suggest adoption! *glomps*


Those last three things make as much difference to me (barring anything absolutely ridiculous) as their favorite brand of potato chips.

 

[Mockingjay]

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha.

That's exactly what they are.
Babies are just ugly pets that can't do tricks.

This isn't me bitching, I'm big enough and ugly enough to reaslise the way it's going to be, but as a child it wasn't plesant being treated like this.

Well, your fashion sense is a bit lacking, but I wouldn't call you ugly.
A female lumberjack, maybe.
What with the shirt.

Finally someone else who refers to children as "Snotlings"! I am also quite fond of "Podling".

If I have to talk to a child, I normally just refer to it as "thing."
As in, "Someone get this thing off my leg or I will kick it off."

I'm a bad man.

Children may be the only worthwhile activity that humans have, beyond ending disease and world hunger.

That's a terrifying thought.
Children are so...ugly.
And stupid.

I don't see why people like them so much.

Fashion in the UK is all about the checked shirt. Not that I follow fashion or anything, I just like 'em. That's what's with the shirt (Y)

 

[Ben Legend]

There should be a depends option up there on your poll, this is not something very cut and dry. If you're truly in love with someone you should be willing to talk with them about not wanting to have children. They may be scared they would not be an adequate parent, or they may simply not be ready for kids, or there could be an underlying medical problem.

To be honest though I wouldn't worry about having kids until after the wedding, talking about kids while dating (unless you've been dating for years or are already engaged) that could scare off your girl/guy.

Just for you, i've added another option to the poll.
NOW! Baby please.

But yeah, I wouldn't talk about children at the start of the relationship for fear of scaring the girl off.

 

[Ben Legend]

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha.

That's exactly what they are.
Babies are just ugly pets that can't do tricks.

This isn't me bitching, I'm big enough and ugly enough to reaslise the way it's going to be, but as a child it wasn't plesant being treated like this.

Well, your fashion sense is a bit lacking, but I wouldn't call you ugly.
A female lumberjack, maybe.
What with the shirt.

Finally someone else who refers to children as "Snotlings"! I am also quite fond of "Podling".

If I have to talk to a child, I normally just refer to it as "thing."
As in, "Someone get this thing off my leg or I will kick it off."

I'm a bad man.

Children may be the only worthwhile activity that humans have, beyond ending disease and world hunger.

That's a terrifying thought.
Children are so...ugly.
And stupid.

I don't see why people like them so much.

Fashion in the UK is all about the checked shirt. Not that I follow fashion or anything, I just like 'em. That's what's with the shirt (Y)

Checked shirts are amazing, stylish, and can be warn for most occassions by adding something, e.g a tie. Think my total so far is 5.
And they go well with converse which gives added bonus points.
+5 to good looks.

 

[Mockingjay]

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha.

That's exactly what they are.
Babies are just ugly pets that can't do tricks.

This isn't me bitching, I'm big enough and ugly enough to reaslise the way it's going to be, but as a child it wasn't plesant being treated like this.

Well, your fashion sense is a bit lacking, but I wouldn't call you ugly.
A female lumberjack, maybe.
What with the shirt.

Finally someone else who refers to children as "Snotlings"! I am also quite fond of "Podling".

If I have to talk to a child, I normally just refer to it as "thing."
As in, "Someone get this thing off my leg or I will kick it off."

I'm a bad man.

Children may be the only worthwhile activity that humans have, beyond ending disease and world hunger.

That's a terrifying thought.
Children are so...ugly.
And stupid.

I don't see why people like them so much.

Fashion in the UK is all about the checked shirt. Not that I follow fashion or anything, I just like 'em. That's what's with the shirt (Y)

Checked shirts are amazing, stylish, and can be warn for most occassions by adding something, e.g a tie. Think my total so far is 5.
And they go well with converse which gives added bonus points.
+5 to good looks.

yeah they're great, have a gold star for understanding (Y)

 

[teisjm]

I would, guess it's mostly because i really can't see myself ever wanting children.

 

[Ben Legend]

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha.

That's exactly what they are.
Babies are just ugly pets that can't do tricks.

This isn't me bitching, I'm big enough and ugly enough to reaslise the way it's going to be, but as a child it wasn't plesant being treated like this.

Well, your fashion sense is a bit lacking, but I wouldn't call you ugly.
A female lumberjack, maybe.
What with the shirt.

Finally someone else who refers to children as "Snotlings"! I am also quite fond of "Podling".

If I have to talk to a child, I normally just refer to it as "thing."
As in, "Someone get this thing off my leg or I will kick it off."

I'm a bad man.

Children may be the only worthwhile activity that humans have, beyond ending disease and world hunger.

That's a terrifying thought.
Children are so...ugly.
And stupid.

I don't see why people like them so much.

Fashion in the UK is all about the checked shirt. Not that I follow fashion or anything, I just like 'em. That's what's with the shirt (Y)

Checked shirts are amazing, stylish, and can be warn for most occassions by adding something, e.g a tie. Think my total so far is 5.
And they go well with converse which gives added bonus points.
+5 to good looks.

yeah they're great, have a gold star for understanding (Y)

YAY! =D

Have a gold star for being kind and giving me a gold star.

 

[Mockingjay]

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha.

That's exactly what they are.
Babies are just ugly pets that can't do tricks.

This isn't me bitching, I'm big enough and ugly enough to reaslise the way it's going to be, but as a child it wasn't plesant being treated like this.

Well, your fashion sense is a bit lacking, but I wouldn't call you ugly.
A female lumberjack, maybe.
What with the shirt.

Finally someone else who refers to children as "Snotlings"! I am also quite fond of "Podling".

If I have to talk to a child, I normally just refer to it as "thing."
As in, "Someone get this thing off my leg or I will kick it off."

I'm a bad man.

Children may be the only worthwhile activity that humans have, beyond ending disease and world hunger.

That's a terrifying thought.
Children are so...ugly.
And stupid.

I don't see why people like them so much.

Fashion in the UK is all about the checked shirt. Not that I follow fashion or anything, I just like 'em. That's what's with the shirt (Y)

Checked shirts are amazing, stylish, and can be warn for most occassions by adding something, e.g a tie. Think my total so far is 5.
And they go well with converse which gives added bonus points.
+5 to good looks.

yeah they're great, have a gold star for understanding (Y)

YAY! =D

Have a gold star for being kind and giving me a gold star.

This made me awww. Gold stars for everyone xD

anyway in other matters this conversation went very offtopic.

 

[Evilbunny]

Would you stay with them, despite not being able to have children with them,.

Stupid question, doesn't want kids now or doesn't want kids ever?

People's opinions aren't set in stone, five years from now the situation might be different even if they're saying never.

Besides, at 20 why are kids even entering your thought process?

I've wanted to have kids since I was 16. Not now, obviously, but I've wanted kids someday for a while now. I've even thought about names. Yes, I'm male.

 

[Ben Legend]

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha.

That's exactly what they are.
Babies are just ugly pets that can't do tricks.

This isn't me bitching, I'm big enough and ugly enough to reaslise the way it's going to be, but as a child it wasn't plesant being treated like this.

Well, your fashion sense is a bit lacking, but I wouldn't call you ugly.
A female lumberjack, maybe.
What with the shirt.

Finally someone else who refers to children as "Snotlings"! I am also quite fond of "Podling".

If I have to talk to a child, I normally just refer to it as "thing."
As in, "Someone get this thing off my leg or I will kick it off."

I'm a bad man.

Children may be the only worthwhile activity that humans have, beyond ending disease and world hunger.

That's a terrifying thought.
Children are so...ugly.
And stupid.

I don't see why people like them so much.

Fashion in the UK is all about the checked shirt. Not that I follow fashion or anything, I just like 'em. That's what's with the shirt (Y)

Checked shirts are amazing, stylish, and can be warn for most occassions by adding something, e.g a tie. Think my total so far is 5.
And they go well with converse which gives added bonus points.
+5 to good looks.

yeah they're great, have a gold star for understanding (Y)

YAY! =D

Have a gold star for being kind and giving me a gold star.

This made me awww. Gold stars for everyone xD

anyway in other matters this conversation went very offtopic.

Gold stars are always good. Now, back on topic...

Would you stay with them, despite not being able to have children with them,.

Stupid question, doesn't want kids now or doesn't want kids ever?

People's opinions aren't set in stone, five years from now the situation might be different even if they're saying never.

Besides, at 20 why are kids even entering your thought process?

I've wanted to have kids since I was 16. Not now, obviously, but I've wanted kids someday for a while now. I've even thought about names. Yes, I'm male.

Don't worry, You're not alone. Edward and Luca, would be nice children names.

 

[Evilbunny]

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha.

That's exactly what they are.
Babies are just ugly pets that can't do tricks.

Actually, they can do tricks if you consider growing up, getting a good job, and being able to afford to buy you a nice house in the countryside to retire in a trick. Of course, for them to be able to do this you have to be a good father, and judging from your posts it doesn't seem like that is going to happen.

 

[Ben Legend]

Don't do anything interesting? You make them sound like animals haha.

That's exactly what they are.
Babies are just ugly pets that can't do tricks.

Actually, they can do tricks if you consider growing up, getting a good job, and being able to afford to buy you a nice house in the countryside to retire in a trick. Of course, for them to be able to do this you have to be a good father, and judging from your posts it doesn't seem like that is going to happen.

They are some pretty amazing tricks. Lets see someone try to teach a gerbil how to do these tricks.

 

[zacaron]

nope I would continue largely because I dont want children

 

[Iron Mal]

Seeing as I'm a man (and thus do not posess the capability to birth children) it isn't my call as to whether myself and my partner have children (they're the one who has to carry it around and give birth).

If she wants to have children, then I'm fine with that and I'll stand by her every step of the way, if she doesn't, then I'm ok with that as well.

 

[Redingold]

I want a kid because of my name. My family name occurs twice in the phone book, and that's my dad and my grampa, and the name goes all the way back to the Domesday book, and I'll be damned if the name dies with me.

 

[Ben Legend]

Actually, they can do tricks if you consider growing up, getting a good job, and being able to afford to buy you a nice house in the countryside to retire in a trick. Of course, for them to be able to do this you have to be a good father, and judging from your posts it doesn't seem like that is going to happen.

No, really?
Of course I'm not going to be a good father.
I've said a hundred times I'm not going to be a father, period.

Did you really need to point out what I've already said for myself?
It just kind of seems like you're pissed because I hate kids and you love them.
Which is weird, because my hatred of brats shouldn't affect your love for them at all.

Again, just what it seems like.

Fashion in the UK is all about the checked shirt. Not that I follow fashion or anything, I just like 'em. That's what's with the shirt (Y)

I see.
You guys are weird.

Yeah we try. Checkered shits are nice. I recommend you try one.