Thanks!stoprequesting said:Haha best of luck then!Ashhearth said:Yeah I'm beginning to notice that too. One of the first friends I made in drama has dropped a couple of hints here and there. I would probably act on them more except it's kinda hard when she's in waaaay out of state for college >.>stoprequesting said:Haha awesome - sounds like you're ahead of the curveAshhearth said:I already figured that out. Still I find it funny to watch all these people run in and out of relationships like rabbits and are seriously depressed half of the time while I've stopped dating and just am waiting for something more mature than high school and am also quite happier. A relationship should make you happy, not feel like a massive burden and if it does it's not really worth it.stoprequesting said:High school is just high school. It's all about making mistakes and learning from those mistakes. Think of it as practice for college and later life.Ashhearth said:I'm considered a really nice guy and the main reason my last gf broke up with me was because I was too nice, which still makes no sense to me. I'm also ripped on by a lot of my friends for being as nice as I am (note all of those doing the ripping are guys). I've pretty much given up on high school dating because of how superficial people are these days and it doesn't bother me too much.
Bonus: my experience has been that when you go through life with that attitude, relationships have a way of finding you.
But hey if I can wait for several years whats a few more weeks right?
whats considered a bad reason?stoprequesting said:Sorry to hear that - best of luck dealing with depression. (But misogyny is a different story - no excuse to hate your fellow human beings for no good reason.) And hey, if you're asexual, than the whole relationship thing isn't a problem anyway. If you're not, look to the example of Henry Kissinger.RaikuFA said:but im ugly on the inside as well. im mysongynistic. i have chronic depression. truthfully. i believe im asexual as wellstoprequesting said:That one guy/gal up there ^ had it right. Henry Kissinger was one of the fugliest human beings to walk the earth, but made up for it with intelligence, confidence, and social skills. (And he has a famous quote about power, too...) Or shit, look at Dennis Kucinich and his wife. Living proof that attractiveness is, for many people, more than what your face looks like.RaikuFA said:ummm, i look like i got hit by a baseball bat and never recovered from surgery
People aren't rational all the time especially when it comes to relationships. The fact that you made it clear to this girl that you liked her (Hopefully by asking her out rather then being passive) means that you should of cut your losses as it seems she was quite clear on indicating that she wasn't interested in you.Razgrizaces said:I might be a little too young to throw in my $0.02, but I'll go ahead and do it.
I've been "nice" pretty much most of my life. I've have what some people might call, a kind heart, I help my friends out vigorously, even if it means sacrificing my own time or money, all that kind of things. I've also been called sweet, by a bunch of other girls as well. But I've been completely puzzled by this as well. I see people who treat women/girls with disrespect actually have girlfriends of their own.
I'll tell you a story. I used to like this girl in middle school (last year, actually). I made it pretty obvious that I liked her, I even told her quite a few times (by text messages). In the beginning of when I liked her, she told me that she might hurt me emotionally. I didn't really care. I was trying to be especially nice for her. She told me that she liked somebody else. I didn't mind, rather, I tried to help her with him. Even though I didn't even know the guy, I wanted to just be good friends with her. This had worked the last time I did this for a girl, and I thought this would work with her. She mentioned that her parents wouldn't let her go out with anybody, which I could understand. So I end up being a great motivational speaker, telling her what I think she should do, and being there for her when she needed help, trying to be a great friend. In about a month or maybe two to three weeks, she tells me saying that we can't be friends anymore. Why? Because apparently we're total opposites. She tells me that she was a cynical b-tch, and that she didn't really want to be friends with me through high school (we were separating at this point). I tried to make amends with her, as best as I could, and it was to no avail. She even went so far as to not talk to me, and she severed all ties with me. I was furious at the time, but now I'm a better person for it. And last August, I sent a message to her Facebook after she deleted me from her friends list (not something that's a major offense, but it's pretty bad)about the entire situation and what was going through my mind. She ends up blocking me from Facebook and having her dad threaten me. In the middle of all of this, she said something about one of the people in our middle school, and about him being an asshole, but he had a sweet side apparently... from what I heard, she's going out with him.
That's my story. I'm a much better person for what she did though, and much more cautious to people like that again.
ive had WAY too many things happen to me from girls thats made me hate their actionsstoprequesting said:Their gender.RaikuFA said:whats considered a bad reason?stoprequesting said:Sorry to hear that - best of luck dealing with depression. (But misogyny is a different story - no excuse to hate your fellow human beings for no good reason.) And hey, if you're asexual, than the whole relationship thing isn't a problem anyway. If you're not, look to the example of Henry Kissinger.RaikuFA said:but im ugly on the inside as well. im mysongynistic. i have chronic depression. truthfully. i believe im asexual as wellstoprequesting said:That one guy/gal up there ^ had it right. Henry Kissinger was one of the fugliest human beings to walk the earth, but made up for it with intelligence, confidence, and social skills. (And he has a famous quote about power, too...) Or shit, look at Dennis Kucinich and his wife. Living proof that attractiveness is, for many people, more than what your face looks like.RaikuFA said:ummm, i look like i got hit by a baseball bat and never recovered from surgery
The solution to people being a dick to you is not to throw yourself a pity party and hate everyone with their set of chromosomes. The solution is to learn from it and move on with your life. That does not kill you makes you stronger, and all.[/quote]stoprequesting said:ive had WAY too many things happen to me from girls thats made me hate their actionsRaikuFA said:Their gender.stoprequesting said:Agreed with this. Shouting "She started it" when you are talking about hating billions upon billions of people isn't really going to impress anyone or be that credible. It's also sad to rule out any meaningful relationship with a group of people. Doesn't have to be sexual but friendship can be really nice.RaikuFA said:Sorry to hear that - best of luck dealing with depression. (But misogyny is a different story - no excuse to hate your fellow human beings for no good reason.) And hey, if you're asexual, than the whole relationship thing isn't a problem anyway. If you're not, look to the example of Henry Kissinger.
whats considered a bad reason?
besides. isnt it a double standard? girl is androphobic shes awarded for being courageous in a "male dominant society" a guy has gynophobia and hes considered a freak
Can you clear up a few things for me? What exactly is middle school? and how did her dad threaten you?Razgrizaces said:I might be a little too young to throw in my $0.02, but I'll go ahead and do it.
I've been "nice" pretty much most of my life. I've have what some people might call, a kind heart, I help my friends out vigorously, even if it means sacrificing my own time or money, all that kind of things. I've also been called sweet, by a bunch of other girls as well. But I've been completely puzzled by this as well. I see people who treat women/girls with disrespect actually have girlfriends of their own.
I'll tell you a story. I used to like this girl in middle school (last year, actually). I made it pretty obvious that I liked her, I even told her quite a few times (by text messages). In the beginning of when I liked her, she told me that she might hurt me emotionally. I didn't really care. I was trying to be especially nice for her. She told me that she liked somebody else. I didn't mind, rather, I tried to help her with him. Even though I didn't even know the guy, I wanted to just be good friends with her. This had worked the last time I did this for a girl, and I thought this would work with her. She mentioned that her parents wouldn't let her go out with anybody, which I could understand. So I end up being a great motivational speaker, telling her what I think she should do, and being there for her when she needed help, trying to be a great friend. In about a month or maybe two to three weeks, she tells me saying that we can't be friends anymore. Why? Because apparently we're total opposites. She tells me that she was a cynical b-tch, and that she didn't really want to be friends with me through high school (we were separating at this point). I tried to make amends with her, as best as I could, and it was to no avail. She even went so far as to not talk to me, and she severed all ties with me. I was furious at the time, but now I'm a better person for it. And last August, I sent a message to her Facebook after she deleted me from her friends list (not something that's a major offense, but it's pretty bad)about the entire situation and what was going through my mind. She ends up blocking me from Facebook and having her dad threaten me. In the middle of all of this, she said something about one of the people in our middle school, and about him being an asshole, but he had a sweet side apparently... from what I heard, she's going out with him.
That's my story. I'm a much better person for what she did though, and much more cautious to people like that again.