Poll: Do we nice guys still stand a chance?

[8-Bit Grin]

Being nice gets you in, being tough keeps you around.

 

[pearcinator]

City chicks r definitely more interested in jerks.
Country or rural chicks are much nicer and I think much prefer the nice guys.

Im 20 and think of myself as a nice guy but I live in an urban area and while there are some nice girls out there that like nice guys the majority of chicks r attracted to jerks. My university is in a more rural city (Lismore) so yeah, its like a country city (cross between the 2) but people come from country areas to study. Those girls are nice (and smoking hot too!).

Too bad they are always taken

 

[Matthew Dunn]

It doesnt matter who lives were and what nationality they are
All you need to do is have alot of friends of the opposite sex
and as you grow more confident you can start talking to them
(Im happily a taken brit and saving up to see my girl in america )
If you become a friend that they can depend on they either will cheer you on allowing you to meet more of their friends and that
either that or they will give advice
hell my besty is a Lass and she is an amazing friend to me
(sometimes even they become the one)
ya never know its a crazy world

 

[Chrysocollus]

yes

when you nice guys want me

*sob*

 

[PlatinumRenegade]

I am a nice guy at heart. I don't like to be a douche and if the girls don't like that then obviously they are not the right person for me.

 

[Sandytimeman]

Just be yourself, if a girl isn't interested in you move on. That is all there is too it, get yourself out there.

 

[Shayral]

It really does seem to be the case in the netherlands lately, eh? I've noticed this too, all throughout growing up.

The answer is to add a bit of jerk. Or rather, the answer is to withold some nice.

I had a deep talk with someone on the exact same subject yesterday night (Oh hello there, Richard?) and the only way to solve this is in our opinions, is to not be so pampering. You give a girl all she wants, and she'll start taking you for granted. She'll forget what she has right in front of her, and her eyes will stray elsewhere.

 

[KingofallCosmos]

No, that was the 90's, sorry, but your time's up.

 

[Flare Phoenix]

No, nice guys do not have a chance because apparently they're all on forums bitching about the fact no girl will ever love them. If you want a girlfriend so badly, get off the computer, go outside, and talk to a girl. If she says no, it's not because you are a "nice guy" it's because she's not interested. Seriously, this whole "girls only go for jerks" is so bloody rediculous and just a piss-poor excuse to cradle these self-proclaimed nice guy's ego.

 

[Inglip]

Let me give you a bit of an analogy. Remember the story about The Grasshopper and the Ant? How while the ant spent all his time working hard, making sure he was well provided for, being responsible while the grasshopper dicked around and did whatever he felt like? Then, winter came, and the grasshopper's completely fucked. So he comes crawling to the ant, who, depending on the version of the story, either took him in or said "go die in a hole". The grasshopper is a woman, and the ant is a nice guy. The women run about doing whatever and whoever the fuck they feel like while the nice guy does his best to be productive and prepare for the future. Then, all of a sudden, winter will come. The woman will realize she's gotten older, or her douchebag boyfriend will break up with her, or something like that. Then where does she turn? She comes crawling back to the nice guy, who, being a nice guy, will be there for her, be comforting, let her ***** and moan about her ex, or how much everything sucks for little old her. He'll take it and he won't complain, because he's a nice guy. At this point, one of two things will happen. Either she'll finally realize it's a bad fucking idea to date douchebags and assholes and might get together with him (this usually only happens after age 30) or she'll friend zone him so hard his balls fall off, then run off again next spring (new douchebag or old one takes her back), only to do it all over again the next year.

You clearly don't know that story very well. What actually happened was the ant died and the grasshopper got a racecar.

Vroom vroom.

 

[flatten_the_skyline]

People tend to think I'm a nice guy. Especially my partners. I tend to disagree.

 

[Denomoses]

ive seen this a lot but the girls who are attracted by thej erks often come to their senses"EVENTUALLY" but to be honest they're probably not that great if they are impressed by jerks and there are definitely better women out there

 

[Flare Phoenix]

No, nice guys do not have a chance because apparently they're all on forums bitching about the fact no girl will ever love them. If you want a girlfriend so badly, get off the computer, go outside, and talk to a girl. If she says no, it's not because you are a "nice guy" it's because she's not interested. Seriously, this whole "girls only go for jerks" is so bloody rediculous and just a piss-poor excuse to cradle these self-proclaimed nice guy's ego.

there wasn't any ignorance in this post at all

I can't tell: are you been sarcastic or not?

 

[Oly J]

I admit I haven't read the full thread but, my answer is this, keep trying, every relationship, now matter how badly it might end is a learning experience, some people just aren't attracted to certain levels of "niceness" and in my experience every relationship I've been in has ended with me being either screwed over, or used and THEN screwed over, but I'm not gonna whine about that, but y'know what I think the most effective solution is?

WAIT!

I'm assuming most of the nice guys here are between their teens and early twenties (I'm 20) but it's my beleif that girls who are attracted to assholes eventually realise that the nice guys just have more to offer, ok it might take til your 30s or hell even 40s but use that time to better yourself, good things come to those who wait

 

[Smooth Operator]

...

In the early stages (age 13 to ~25) girls like the relationships to be a challenge, if you bow to their every whim then you clearly won't be the prime choice.
And in the later stages (age 25+) they want a stable relationship because family becomes the new challenge, so you will do nicely at that point.

Now it's up to you, will you provide a challenge or do the whole 40 year old virgin thing.
Oh and when girls say: "I just want a nice guy" in reality that means: "I want those jerks I date to be a bit nicer"

 

[iTeamKill]

in this thread, we see many guys who didn't read the question being asked...

 

[Sarkule]

I'd much rather a nice guy over a jerk any day.
And these threads are getting annoying, not all girls like jerks.
Some of us just aren't super vocal about what we want.

 

[NnsNightshade]

Nice guys ftw. I despise jerks. However, I don't like over romantic guys.....and strange enough I married one.

 

[Flare Phoenix]

I'd much rather a nice guy over a jerk any day.
And these threads are getting annoying, not all girls like jerks.
Some of us just aren't super vocal about what we want.

The problem is a "nice guy" will focus entirely on one girl and when she doesn't immediately fall in love with him he assumes that means all girls won't like him. It's not that girls love jerks who abuse them, it's often the fact those girls can't tell they're been abused. My sister recently went through it: couldn't see her fiancee was abusing her until after he'd dumped her.

 

[Red Right Hand]

There's being nice and being too nice.

Somehow I think that the majority of people that complain about girls not liking nice guys fall into the latter category.