Poll: Do you believe that humans are half?

[NoeL]

The liberal in me wants to scream "I don't need no one but me!" but in reality, whenever I'm not in a relationship (or at least not getting sex) I feel unfulfilled - and I'm pretty sure most people are the same. So ignoring asexuals for the moment, I'd say just about everyone longs for love and companionship and probably feels incomplete without it. There are other factors too, like a feeling of accomplishment. If you look back on a life full of regret, even if you found love you'll probably still feel unfulfilled.

 

[lunavixen]

I appreciate the friends i have and enjoy their company (on the rare occasions i get to see them), but I've never been in a relationship, I don't feel the need to be in one, and i'm happy, or about as happy as i get. I don't see why i should validate my happiness because of/on account of my relationship status with another person, i'm not romantic and about as subtle as a freight train.

 

[mrhappy1489]

Pretty sure this is a no. Fact of the matter is, as long as a person is content with his/her life, that's true happiness. While I personally wouldn't mind a relationship down the track, I'd say as long as achieve my dreams I'll be happy.

 

[Zipa]

Everyone is different some people are naturally introverted and prefer to spend time and be on their own while others can not live unless it is through someone else and go through relationship after relationship because of this.

That said discounting asexual for the moment who could just be a biological anomaly (no offence meant) we are all driven to have sex and enjoy it, thanks to millions of years of evolution to insure we propagate and our species lives on. Yes there are homosexual/bisexual/ects but they still for the most part like sex its wired into our brains.

 

[Combustion Kevin]

everyone needs to fill that hole in their life, be it through love, knowledge or ambition.

All three are equally valid.

 

[King of Asgaard]

What makes a person happy is entirely dependent on the person in question.
Case in point, I'm 18 and I've yet to be in a relationship, or go on a date (yes I'm still young, there's plenty of time etc, not the point I'm trying to bring up).
Am I unhappy? Well, I'm stressed, and I get the occasional pang of depression, but I wouldn't necessarily call myself unhappy.
Would I be happy/happier were I in a romantic relationship? Most likely, but I'm not hell-bent on getting into one at the time.
Does that make me less of a person? Hell no, and anyone who'd tell me otherwise is either a liar or a fool.

 

[DioWallachia]

Humans are social creatures since their "humble" begginings. Its natural to THINK that one CANT live without someone simply because....well, depending on others was nessesary for survival and for civilization to develop. It is engrained in your head after many many many generations to always jump the bandwagon. Back then people had NO time for introspection because "HOLY SHIT, A FUCKING SABER TOOTH TIGER IS GOING TO EAR YOUR LIVER! GET IN THE CAVE!", and letting everyone tell you how to live was nessesary for you to survive (strenght in numbers and all that shit).

But in this day an age? there is no reason to believe that, unless you have been told several time that you are a worthless piece of crap that cant make a change in the world. Sort off the same way that Shinji Ikari thinks.

This age society works under the "Why fix what isnt broken?" mentality. Since relationships make people happy, then everyone should do it since it has been prove that it works.

 

[Kyber]

No, i think it's rather silly to think that this so called "True Happiness" is only achievable with a companion, and it's even more silly to think there is just this one and only person for you in the whole world. The person you fall in love with is determined by chance, the chance that you will meet her/him at the specific time, and the chance that at the moment you will engage in conversation or even notice one another. I do agree with Zhukov and Jensen (don't know how he traveled back in time though) that some individuals feel more happy in the company of others, but i despise the thought of having a so called "Soul Mate" or something along those lines, and the whole concept of destiny all together.

 

[The Funslinger]

Well, I believe that I personally am at my happiest bangin' bitches being in a relationship. I won't generalize my personal necessities to others, though. I know how annoying it feels due to a fairly low point in my adolescence and the repeated advice a friend kept cramming down my throat was 'I'm happy being single, so why aren't you?'

Pushing someone into moving traffic was never more tempting.

 

[Hagi]

On the contrary, I believe the opposite.

I believe that if you can't be happy on your own then you won't be able to achieve true happiness in a relationship either.

If your main reason for being in a relationship is simply so that you don't have to be alone then I honestly don't believe you're going to truly be happy. You'll just be constantly worrying and afraid of ending up alone anyway.

I think you need to be happy with yourself first before you can become happy with someone else.

 

[Anti Nudist Cupcake]

No of course you don't HAVE to be in a relationship. I'm sure there are examples of people who are happy alone, some people are loners and introverts. Perhaps loner, introverted asexuals! Man then you are clearly just not born to be around people, we should send someone like that to do all the lonely space stuff no one else wants to do or something.

I mean, I'm happy enough to be alone. 18 years old atm. There was even this girl who was clearly in to me on valentines day who I could have asked and would have been guaranteed to say yes but...nah. I didn't act on it. If she likes me then she can go through the stress of asking me out by her self. Gender equality ftw!

Besides, the shitty school dance was on that night. Who likes those anyway?

 

[chiggerwood]

I absolutely love the results of this one. If it had a voice I like to think that it'd be saying 'FEEEEUUUUUUUuuuuUUUUUCK YOU!"

To be perfectly honest I'd much rather stick my dick in a food processor than another human being, but that's just me. I find romantic relationships to be completely inane, idiotic, annoying, and a hindrance to the mind of the participating parties. I honestly see little difference between love and insanity, or mental retardation, but once again that's just me. I have no problem with friendships, and being good friends with someone and that's where it ends for me. However if it makes you happy to be hugging, kissing, cuddling, and poorly rubbing genitals with another human being and then being the one to sleep on some soggy sheets then all power to you! Just don't expect me to go to your wedding. However in three years I will be more than happy to attend your divorce proceedings.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

Love is crazy shit, that being said, if you've ever experienced it, it's like going on a drug fuelled superbender,
without all of the serious life threatening side effects of one.

However, when the woman who you love to the extent that you feel like you could punch down a mountain, or fight a thousand bears, tells you she was lying to you for over a month of that relationship, meaning in my case nearly half of it, it's like having your balls run over by a train, freakin painful, only not in your balls, but like chest cavity collapsing into a black hole situated in your spine, level shit.

After you experience that, it's really REALLY hard to love again, I know I still haven't loved anyone in that way since, hell I've barely felt anything for anyone since then, so as far as I can see, I got one chance, and it fucked me the hell up, ended in extreme pain, and now I get to live the life of an emotionally jaded individual who can't love, so yeah, be careful with that shit, cuz it may not kill you, but it can turn your heart into a motherfucking gargoyle.

In other words, I don't really believe that it is REQUIRED to be happy persay, but it's one hell of a drug, and anyone who hasn't tried it, should.

 

[Zealous]

While romantic/sexual relationships are pretty awesome, there are countless other ways to find happiness. Thinking that the only way to be truly happy is to have an intimate relationship with someone is seriously unhealthy in my eyes.

 

[censorgrrl]

How are we supposed to learn about ourselves and the world if not by being 'in relationship' with other people? Just because one relationship is terrible (or 6, or 15), doesn't mean the relationship has no value. Self-absorption is a poor substitute for self-knowledge, and we do best when we never limit ourselves, never stop wondering, never stop being interested in life's rich pageant.

Sometimes we find a "partner," either temporarily or for a long time, who really helps us to grow and change and learn things about our values, our emotions, our limits, our capacity for pleasure, our priorities. No amount of theory, biological or philosophical, can offer the same challenge, or the same reward.

 

[hooblabla6262]

I had been considering starting my own thread on a similar topic.

Essentially, I was getting a little tired of people demonizing one night stands or serial monogamy versus the more traditional long-term relationship. It took several past relationships for me to realize that I much preferred to be single.
My true love is freedom.

Needing someone else to maintain your happiness can lead to a seriously unstable life.
I am currenlty dating a girl who seems to base most of her good mood on being around me. I can tell you that it is stressful knowing that I have to keep her together.

Go for the trifecta of happiness.
Something to love.
Something to do.
Something to dream of.

 

[shrekfan246]

I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume you had some horrible relationship experiences.

It's probably best that he's not interested in relationships. I've seen enough angry parents to know what road that could very easily lead down.

OT: Personally, I don't care for being single, but that's because I don't like spending my nights alone. I would hardly say I'm less complete, though, as I'm probably actually happier now than I was during my last relationship, during the end of which I hardly ever actually looked forward to not being alone.

 

[JokerCrowe]

Uh... wrong forum? Not quite sure what this has to do with Gaming Discussion.

Yeah, I really suck at noticing stuff like that... I rarely make threads, so when I do, I always have trouble making the entire thing correct. Sometimes I forget to add a title and other times (really more often than not) I don't put it in the appropriate archive... >_<

 

[manic_depressive13]

Romantic relationship? Absolutely not. But as social creatures I believe a deep, meaningful emotional connection with another person is necessary for happiness, whether they be friends, family or romantic partner.

 

[theLadyBugg]

I *am* in a serious, long-term relationship right now, it makes me way happy to be living life in co-op mode, and I still voted an emphatic NO! For lots of reasons. Lots of people here have already said that you don't need to be with somebody all the time to be happy, and that there are more important things in life than finding a romantic relationship, and that's absolutely true. I totally agree with all of those people.

But even more so, people who feel that a relationship, ANY relationship, is a must, are usually people who aren't happy on their own for other reasons, and staying with somebody is just a way of burying that lack of happiness in another person instead of coping it it on their own. Or just a case of seriously mislaid priorities, which is likely the case with many of your friends because...well, because you're all rather young and it's unlikely that most, if any of them, have found THE relationship, so they're just happy with what works right now. Which is completely fine, of course, but hardly makes them authority figures on what you need for the long-term.

Also...the best relationships don't require you (or them) to be "half." What makes them great, and complicated, is that it isn't two halves clicking into one now-functional perfect human whole, it's two complete people deciding every day to be together, to help each other, and to generally have a partner for life's adventures. So before you can really be ready for that, if you even want it, you have to learn how to be whole on your own.