You can be happy within a relationship and just as happy outside of one, as long as you've totally accepted yourself and all of your quirks. Total inner acceptance lies at the heart of happiness. It also brings you freedom from your past, and the courage to try again after a failed relationship.
Poll: Do you believe that humans are half?
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Yes. I believe that humans need to be in love to be truly happy. But that you can be very happy whilst not in a mutual loving relationship. I am case and point that being in love without the mutual sides of things (Being recently dumped and whatnot) is not the path to happiness whatsoever.
Bleh.
I believe in true love.
I just think I need to stop stumbling.
Bleh.
I believe in true love.
I just think I need to stop stumbling.
I would say yes. I think that while you can be happy humans are social creatures and will always be happier with another. While you can be happy alone I dont think you can be truly happy.
Love is relative. Happiness is relative. Life itself is relative. What makes me happy isn't what's going to make you happy - or it might be, but I won't know of it. Considering, I've always been irked by people who tell me "You don't have such-and-such? You must be so unhappy!"
I get that a lot about relationships, for instance. I'm single, and I'm happy. Is that so much of a shock?
So, no. I don't believe in that concept of the "better half", OP. I believe we meet people and, well, if we're lucky, there's someone in there we'll like enough to, well, love, and that we'll want to spend weeks, months, years and decades nerding out with.
Not that this level of luck happens to everyone, and not that this denotes some sort of mean, average "Happiness Factor".
Real Life isn't The Sims 3. I don't need to keep my little "Social" meter filled; I can just base myself off of what I feel and when I feel like being around other people.
I get that a lot about relationships, for instance. I'm single, and I'm happy. Is that so much of a shock?
So, no. I don't believe in that concept of the "better half", OP. I believe we meet people and, well, if we're lucky, there's someone in there we'll like enough to, well, love, and that we'll want to spend weeks, months, years and decades nerding out with.
Not that this level of luck happens to everyone, and not that this denotes some sort of mean, average "Happiness Factor".
Real Life isn't The Sims 3. I don't need to keep my little "Social" meter filled; I can just base myself off of what I feel and when I feel like being around other people.
you can be as bitter as you want about it and I must admit that what people often call love, is usually just neurochemistry and sex. both sorta makes happy, but its not the same has truely having a deep connection to someone.
No it doesnt make you whole, if you try to fill the void in you with another person, that usually doesnt work, but once you find the right one, you become more than whole.
Humans most often need social contact, its just a bisic need, but we arent all compleetly the same, so some people might be happier alone or at all not suitable for a relationship anyways.
No it doesnt make you whole, if you try to fill the void in you with another person, that usually doesnt work, but once you find the right one, you become more than whole.
Humans most often need social contact, its just a bisic need, but we arent all compleetly the same, so some people might be happier alone or at all not suitable for a relationship anyways.
No I don't believe that at all for reasons that people much smarter and more eloquent have already stated.. Basically, If you can't be happy on your own a relationship will not change that.
I have a friend who is mortified of being alone, he's like me and has never been in a relationship let alone experienced sex.. he's scared because we're both 24 years old and he thinks "It should've happened by now, man! I'm such a loser!" I keep trying to tell him that it doesn't matter in the least and to try and focus on being happy with yourself first, but I'm not sure if he can hear me over his own fear of being alone.
Anyway.. don't worry about what your friends think. Like that old saying.. The honeymoon only lasts for so long. They'll get tired of their relationships in time. I'm almost positive of that.
I have a friend who is mortified of being alone, he's like me and has never been in a relationship let alone experienced sex.. he's scared because we're both 24 years old and he thinks "It should've happened by now, man! I'm such a loser!" I keep trying to tell him that it doesn't matter in the least and to try and focus on being happy with yourself first, but I'm not sure if he can hear me over his own fear of being alone.
Anyway.. don't worry about what your friends think. Like that old saying.. The honeymoon only lasts for so long. They'll get tired of their relationships in time. I'm almost positive of that.
If ever there was an entirely artificial social construct, it's the notion of the necessity of life-partnership. Relationships can last for a lifetime, be they friendships or sexual... or they can last a few hours. The guilt associated with the shorter ones has nothing to do with your species and everything to do with the culture that raised you.
So no. In fact, I'm pretty certain that lifelong monogamous relationships are more often than not very unhealthy for both involved parties.
So no. In fact, I'm pretty certain that lifelong monogamous relationships are more often than not very unhealthy for both involved parties.