Poll: Do You Date?
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I don't, never have. I've asked girls, and they never said yes.
And now I'll never ask again, probably. The answer is almost certainly going to be no, so why bother. Maybe I'll meet someone and we'll just kinda grow closer and closer until something happens. It's very improbable, but not as improbable as someone agreeing early on in knowing them to go on a date with me.
And now I'll never ask again, probably. The answer is almost certainly going to be no, so why bother. Maybe I'll meet someone and we'll just kinda grow closer and closer until something happens. It's very improbable, but not as improbable as someone agreeing early on in knowing them to go on a date with me.
I do, though I've only been on one...maybe two.
Friend introduced me to his (then) fiancee's friend online, we clicked, met up a few months later at said friend's wedding where we clicked more. Travelled back after 10 months and finally took her on a date.
Paid for her hair to be coloured, waited in a salon for two hours with a flat DS and apparently patience to rival a monk. Then Chinese food, cuisine we both share a deep love for.
Next date was going to the mall and picking each other clothes, it was rather fun if it counts.
Friend introduced me to his (then) fiancee's friend online, we clicked, met up a few months later at said friend's wedding where we clicked more. Travelled back after 10 months and finally took her on a date.
Paid for her hair to be coloured, waited in a salon for two hours with a flat DS and apparently patience to rival a monk. Then Chinese food, cuisine we both share a deep love for.
Next date was going to the mall and picking each other clothes, it was rather fun if it counts.
I would love to, but that would require me to publicly step out of the closet. I'm starting to kind of like it in here. There are soft mittens in here.
Well, I still kind of don't get the American definition of "dating" - it seems so blurry. The only relationship I had came without dates, but that might be simply because it started as a long distance relationship. I guess you could call Skype calls dates?
I resigned myself to solitude when I came to the conclusion that I look like Shrek, crossed with Jack Black and John Goodman mixed with Satans left testicle. Plus... I'm an asshole, not like a loveable asshole, a vile repulsive asshole that's full of shit.
I wonder why I wasn't picked on in High School?
I wonder why I wasn't picked on in High School?
"Dating" is a ridiculous term. To me, "Dating" involves research, carbon-14, or finding the stone with the year chiseled into it. As far as women go, I don't want to "date" girls. I'd like to marry one, and if I meet one who likes going out and doing a lot of shit, and I don't mind these constant excursions, I would. But if I met a girl who would rather just be human beings together and not need a whole bunch of excitement and artificial experience to pretend that we have something in common, all the better.
Just throwing this out there, I despise sluts. Especially man-sluts. Sorry, but as a man I just put more responsibility on my own gender to be better than driven by the impulses of an organ that (ADMIT IT) is way WAY small compared to the rest of us. I don't understand how women think, so maybe there is a legitimate reason for them to sleep around. Don't know, don't want to know. Not my business. But guys, for God's sake grow up a bit, yeah?
Just throwing this out there, I despise sluts. Especially man-sluts. Sorry, but as a man I just put more responsibility on my own gender to be better than driven by the impulses of an organ that (ADMIT IT) is way WAY small compared to the rest of us. I don't understand how women think, so maybe there is a legitimate reason for them to sleep around. Don't know, don't want to know. Not my business. But guys, for God's sake grow up a bit, yeah?
Frankly... Not really. Every one of my relationships thus far has evolved from a friendship which the two of us realised was something more.
That's just as much the case for my current long-term relationship, which is so far going exceedingly well.
There was one exception to this, my easily most failed relationship which only lasted about 5 days. But on reflection, she was pretty much a rebound girl for me (following shortly after my first/first-long-term relationship), we had nothing in common, and the "dates" just consisted of the mall/around town.
So, yeah. the one relationship where I went on anything close to "dates", and which didn't evolve from a friendship, crashed and burned horribly haha.
Yaaay, dating.
Side-note: this is looking at things from a traditional/cliche view of dating. If you count even just hanging out as "dating", then yes, of course I've done that. But with that, the word "date" (not as in "to date", but "to go on a date") does seem to lose much of its purpose...
That's just as much the case for my current long-term relationship, which is so far going exceedingly well.
There was one exception to this, my easily most failed relationship which only lasted about 5 days. But on reflection, she was pretty much a rebound girl for me (following shortly after my first/first-long-term relationship), we had nothing in common, and the "dates" just consisted of the mall/around town.
So, yeah. the one relationship where I went on anything close to "dates", and which didn't evolve from a friendship, crashed and burned horribly haha.
Yaaay, dating.
Side-note: this is looking at things from a traditional/cliche view of dating. If you count even just hanging out as "dating", then yes, of course I've done that. But with that, the word "date" (not as in "to date", but "to go on a date") does seem to lose much of its purpose...
Never really been one for "dates" per say, usually casual sexual encounters and drifting in and out of relationships with people I already knew. I have gone out with partners obviously but never in the way typical "dating" seems to work, it was usually two people enjoying an activity rather than a romantic date or anything.
You know, this thread in itself demonstrates that people don't agree on what dating is. I knew this going in, which is why I didn't define or specify terms before asking for results. I gave my own opinion and lef tit at that.NoeL said:
I'd thank you to not attempt to define it for me.
I ticked 'I used to', as it seemed the most honest answer. I was also going to say 'it's not for lack of trying', but that's not quite right either. I'd love to try and get dates, my problem is that I just don't seem to meet many women in the first place. I have a lot of female friends, but (seemingly inexplicably) not many of them appear to have many female friends of their own, and none seem to have single ones. At least, that's what they tell me ;p.
I'm also terrible at noticing attractive girls in situations where I could feasibly introduce myself, and worse at coming up ways of starting conversation. So yeah, I haven't been on a date since second year of uni, but I'd love to get back into it. Getting to know someone over some nice food and drink is one of the things I enjoy most. Hell, I've had some dates that led to sex where I actually had more fun on the date. But until I finally get round to moving to a city, I just don't see myself meeting anyone I actually want to ask out any time soon.
I'm also terrible at noticing attractive girls in situations where I could feasibly introduce myself, and worse at coming up ways of starting conversation. So yeah, I haven't been on a date since second year of uni, but I'd love to get back into it. Getting to know someone over some nice food and drink is one of the things I enjoy most. Hell, I've had some dates that led to sex where I actually had more fun on the date. But until I finally get round to moving to a city, I just don't see myself meeting anyone I actually want to ask out any time soon.
Hate to say it, but the Japanese didn't exactly invent arranged marriage.dylanmc12 said:
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Do I date? Well I haven't much due to my general lack of enthusiasm in the whole idea. Certainly would, though I don't really like the idea of it much, too formalized and a bit anachronistic in our modern days now that courtship is kinda dead. I suppose at least a few dates are good for getting to know someone.
I think we need to get a true definition of what a "date" is in this thread.
I've always started off with dates, usually a couple before we then just start hanging out at each other's homes or round about. It's usually going out for a meal, to the cinema. Ya know, the boring predictable stuff.
I like to get to know someone before I ask them out formally. I hate asking people out so I always want to be as informed as possible before doing so! I knew my current girlfriend at work for about a year before I asked her out about a week ago. We've been on one "date" but next time she's coming to mine and I'm making dinner and we'll watch a dvd. Is that a date?
I prefer to get as comfortable as possible with each other as quickly as possible so all the formal "courting" nonsense is out of the way. I dislike the traditional obligation of trying to impress a girl with material things. I don't ask it of her. I prefer to be myself, let her be herself and just have a nice time.
I've always started off with dates, usually a couple before we then just start hanging out at each other's homes or round about. It's usually going out for a meal, to the cinema. Ya know, the boring predictable stuff.
I like to get to know someone before I ask them out formally. I hate asking people out so I always want to be as informed as possible before doing so! I knew my current girlfriend at work for about a year before I asked her out about a week ago. We've been on one "date" but next time she's coming to mine and I'm making dinner and we'll watch a dvd. Is that a date?
I prefer to get as comfortable as possible with each other as quickly as possible so all the formal "courting" nonsense is out of the way. I dislike the traditional obligation of trying to impress a girl with material things. I don't ask it of her. I prefer to be myself, let her be herself and just have a nice time.
Does watching them from far away count? Im guessing not, i'd like to try but i lack the sexy to get with any of the ladys, forever alone.
Does going to the movies count if you both work there and you just kinda wander on in whenever it takes your fancy?
Even if it doesn't my answer's yes. I love going out for coffee, dinner, and drinks. So me and my partner often take turns taking each other out for a nice pint or a Japanese meal.
Even if it doesn't my answer's yes. I love going out for coffee, dinner, and drinks. So me and my partner often take turns taking each other out for a nice pint or a Japanese meal.