Poll: Do You Date?

[LegendaryVKickr]

I mean, I just got out of a long distance relationship with a girl in NYC...because of the distance, we often met, but didn't really have a formal 'date' for a few months. Finally, we discussed an official first date, even though we had already gone all the way sexually and didn't really have any first date "so what do you like to do?" awkwardness. It actually made it more fun, and less "Gotta get to know her". We went to Coney Island, did the coaster, the ferris wheel. Was good fun.

That said, I always tell my gfs that if we ever marry, or at least live together and have steady income, I'll do with her what my parents do, a weekly date night, which can be as simple as dinner or a movie, but at a minumum it's alone time with me and her, not "in the bedroom" alone time, but just time together that we share, just us and no-one else.

To be fair, I've never had a traditional 'first date' experience. For example, this girl I met from New York, I was drunk on New Years, went through my friends phone, saw a picture of her, decided "she's hot" called her up, and told her about how I was gonna take her to Olive Garden, and just bone her in the salad plate. Not romantic, but fortunately, she was drunk too, and so a sloppy conversation led to a relationship. But I've never had the traditional 'first date' with a stranger or a girl I vaguely know. Even when I met this girl in person, I had already been Skyping her for almost a month.

 

[Something Amyss]

My idea of picking up girls in punching them is the leg and telling them they're smelly.


Hey! It worked for 15 year old me!

I think we're cut from the same cloth. >.>

My girlfriend and I were accused of harassing one another. I somehow find it weird that "harassment" is something two people can mutually and amicably do, but whatever.

Dating is fun. You go out and have a good time with a girl you like. It is like going out with friends (if you picked correctly the girl) with the possibility of extra things.

I don't know. "Dating" activities tend to involve things I don't do with friends. And the extra things I have done with friends.

My friends play video games and watch movies at home while drinking. This may be someone's definition of a date, but....

I think you must have a much stricter definition of "date" than I do, because I'd count hanging out as a couple as a date, assuming that you're not living together.

Damn, this post is going to end up being long.

I don't know, though, that seems like an incredibly loose definition of dating, but maybe that's just me.

It's been...I dunno...8-9 years since I last went on a date, due to a monogamous relationship making dating tricky.

My ex seemed to manage it....>.<

I've never been on a date.
Apart from teen "relationships", I've only ever had two long-term relationships and we never dated.
It was a more casual thing and then "oh, well, I suppose you're my boyfriend now.'

That's the thing. I seem to just sort of end up in relationships most of the time. My ex of eight years the one I "dated" and the same one who cheated on me, she was really the only one that I did "date." And we were kind of pushed on one another by mutual friends who are now married. Honestly, I think they knew they were too insufferable to be on a date alone, so they wanted to double. >.> Nah. I've known the guy for most of his life, and the girl was my ex's best friend since childhood. Obviously, we're not indifferent to them.

Otherwise, yeah. With my current, it's the same as most of my exes. Just like, over time, something happens. We didn't set out to "evaluate" one another, as per Guppy's definition or even really try and be romantic, but at some point, yeah. And there's no definitive time we really became a couple. So we chose an arbitrary date for when people ask. Hooray arbitrary dates!

Apparently, no one wants to date me!

I would, but my girlfriend might take exception. If she found out. Which she would. Because she browses/posts here occasionally. And because I will almost certainly link her to the thread.
HOW DOES SHE ALWAYS KNOW WHAT I'M UP TO?????

I haven't been on a proper date in ages. My current relationship (been 2 1/2 years so far) didn't start with a date, we just kinda said we liked each other and that was that. I mean, we have date nights, but it's more of a formality than anything else and probably doesn't really count.

Apparently, there's no agreed-upon definition of dating 'round here. I figured as much.

I mean, you're still closer than I am.

 

[Something Amyss]

Well Damn! We're a sad bunch, aren't we?

Depends on whether it's by choice or force, I guess. >.>

Not that they passed a local ordinance or anything....

Such a delightful of variety of specimens we have here!

Don't worry, I'd love to study/interrogate/dissect each and every one of you!

Will it hurt?

As for the rest, I can't help but wonder if the results here come from a change in the social structure as much as anything else. Even in the case of the "forever alone" answers, people feel less beholden to pair off these days. But the non-dating folk also seem to be getting together with other people, just maybe not in the traditional courtship sense. This is my fourth long-term relationship, and I've had shorter ones, but I've never dated.

Or we could chalk it up to gamer stereotypes.

 

[game-lover]

I have not before. But I imagine I will.

Not exactly sure how I'd go about having a relationship without regularly dating.

 

[Playful Pony]

I used to yeah, whenever someone i found reasonably interesting asked me out on one. I haven't been on a date or dating for well over a year now and I don't really see myself doing it again soon. Every relationship I have end in disaster after not particularily long, so I can only asume I'm incredibly annoying or unpleasant to be around in the long run X3.

I spend my time alone at home with a bucket of ice cream and videogames *cries*.

But seriously, I really can't seem to hold down a relationship, especially with a man. My only male relationship lasted until the first time we had sex, and after that I NEVER saw him again X3. Not a phonecall, no texts, not even him passing by in his car yelling "hey, thanks for the sex!" even. From this experience I have decided to conclude that 100% of males are pigs and leave it at that. Yes, I am petty X3.

 

[PatrickXD]

I like going to the movies, getting dinner in a nice restaurant, bowling, going to theme parks, whatever. So yeah, I date because the added pressure of trying to somehow appear more impressive and attractive is fun.

 

[dfphetteplace]

My wife might be upset if I did.

 

[Fractral]

I've got nothing against the concept, I've just never gotten around to it.
I asked a girl out on a date once (shaking voice, sweaty palms, all of that) and she said yes. We couldn't agree on a day, and it sort of dragged on so eventually she retroactively said no. That was, ooh, 3 years ago now?
At least nobody can say I haven't tried, and she hugged me once, which is more action than my 4 best friends put together.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

I have a girlfriend but I've never done the Seinfeld thing of dating just for dating itself.

 

[Weaver]

I'd love to.
Anyone want to go on a date with me?

 

[Nepukadnezzar]

I never thought the outcome would be THIS bad ....

 

[coppah20HE]

I used to but, but then my boyfriend broke up with me.

...now I all I have are my friends with benefits

 

[Yopaz]

Never been on a date. I don't have that kind of money.

Dating isn't actually that common over here. It's more casual for the most part.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

As in going to dinner or a movie to get to know someone specifically for a relationship? Fuck no, I'm far too awkward for that. My relationships just sort of... happen from friendships. I suppose I've been on what some people might call dates, but more a kind of 'hey, fancy checking out that film?' to a girlfriend, I've never been one for formality.

 

[Juste Goose]

No time, no money, no confidence to talk to girls.

Usually I'm under the "I'll date when I'm older" mentality, but other days I think that when I'm older, no one will want me and I'll screw up every relationship I try to cultivate due to my lack of experience. Then I get all existential and sad.

 

[KungFuJazzHands]

I gave up the dating scene years ago. Too many unrealistic expectations on both sides, and not worth the monetary hassle. Dating women ten years younger than myself really showed me how greedy and self-absorbed some humans can be during their post-teenage cycles.

Besides, I developed a severe case of permanent agoraphobia around the time I quite dating, so I'm never that desperate for companionship anyway.

 

[Someone Depressing]

I've been good friends with a female (yes, a female) since high school. Have we been dating? ...Ugh... I don't actually know.

Bottom line: Why date when you could go straight to omiai? Damnit, the Japanese are brilliant.

Bottomer line: No.

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

I've never been on a date, so I have no idea what all that would be like.

Honestly, I really don't have the time to be in a relationship at the moment, as sad as that sounds, since I'm back in school with the intention of getting a Masters.

So, I guess I'm glad I'm not in one since I would feel bad for my hypothetical boyfriend.

 

[Weaver]

Never been on a date. I don't have that kind of money.

Yeah, it's best to save up for a good one.