I don´t hate them, i am a father after all, and whenever my boy trows a tantrum i usually get on one knee, tell him firmly "LOOK LOVE, STOP SCREAMING, I AM NOT GOING TO DO/BUY/GET WHAT YOU WANT, YOU SHOULDN'T CRY OVER SUCH SMALL THINGS, I´M NOT YOUR MOTHER AND YOU MAKING SUCH A FUSS OVER SOMETHING SO SIMPLE DOESN'T MAKE ME PITY YOU, IT ANNOYS ME AND MAKES ME ANGRY, DO YOU WANT TO MAKE ME ANGRY?"
he usually stops yelling and sobs a few times, then i ask him "you finished?, you all right now?" to which he replies by cleaning his eyes with his sleeve "yes", "seriously?", "yes"
then he will sob some more, ask me much more calmly if i can do/buy/get whatever it is he wanted and i tell him "no, love, i don´t want to/have money/think you should have that" and he cries some more, but much more calmly, then i take him in my arms and try to distract him with something else.
If he cries i console him, but if he trows a tantrum i scold him very very severely... i don´t know if i´m doing the right thing, i am a divorced man, but i realize that the kid usually haves more respect and listens more to me than his mother, who as you may have guessed would have given him the toy (or whatever) the moment he started crying
EDIT: My boy is 3 at the time, so i think its a good ground work for when he is older
he usually stops yelling and sobs a few times, then i ask him "you finished?, you all right now?" to which he replies by cleaning his eyes with his sleeve "yes", "seriously?", "yes"
then he will sob some more, ask me much more calmly if i can do/buy/get whatever it is he wanted and i tell him "no, love, i don´t want to/have money/think you should have that" and he cries some more, but much more calmly, then i take him in my arms and try to distract him with something else.
If he cries i console him, but if he trows a tantrum i scold him very very severely... i don´t know if i´m doing the right thing, i am a divorced man, but i realize that the kid usually haves more respect and listens more to me than his mother, who as you may have guessed would have given him the toy (or whatever) the moment he started crying
EDIT: My boy is 3 at the time, so i think its a good ground work for when he is older