I was never bullied, but taking the OP to a similar note, I wouldn't want or need an apology from anybody who has wronged me "in the past". If that person is "in the past" already that means I could care less to begin with.
Poll: Do you want an apology?
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i wouldn't want an apology because it would just dig up old ghosts. i would rather just forget the memory and move on with the rest of my life.
Strange, I've only had one bully in my life, and that was in the 6th grade. He thought it was fun until I got big enough to kick the shit out of him, which I did. We actually became friends after that.
He's never apologized for it, and I'm okay with that. I got out all of my hate when I beat him up.
He's never apologized for it, and I'm okay with that. I got out all of my hate when I beat him up.
No, its been half a decade since i've seen them, and it's unlikely I'll ever run into them again, let alone have to actually communicate or deal with them. I don't care about how they feel about our past.
That said, I believe I've treated people harshly in the past, in a sort of friendly jibbing way. But now that I look back I worry that they may have felt they were being bullied, or were otherwise upset about it. If I run into any of them(ok there's really only one) I'll make sure to clarify our past relationship and apologise if it was harmful for them. Though I don't know whether my desire to do this is for their benefit or my own. If they did feel that they were bullied, it's possible that they feel about it the same way I feel about my past bullying(as above). Societies are complex that way, I guess.
That said, I believe I've treated people harshly in the past, in a sort of friendly jibbing way. But now that I look back I worry that they may have felt they were being bullied, or were otherwise upset about it. If I run into any of them(ok there's really only one) I'll make sure to clarify our past relationship and apologise if it was harmful for them. Though I don't know whether my desire to do this is for their benefit or my own. If they did feel that they were bullied, it's possible that they feel about it the same way I feel about my past bullying(as above). Societies are complex that way, I guess.
I had several bullies; it took me halfway through Junior High before my growth caught up to me.
About 15 years after this, my main bully randomly came by my work, recognized me, and said "I remember pushing you around when we were kids...wow, you look like you could kick my ass now."
To which I replied,
"Yes I could, Billy. Have a nice day."
And I felt better seeing him scurry away.
About 15 years after this, my main bully randomly came by my work, recognized me, and said "I remember pushing you around when we were kids...wow, you look like you could kick my ass now."
To which I replied,
"Yes I could, Billy. Have a nice day."
And I felt better seeing him scurry away.
Not really. I actually made friends with my bullies from 8th-10th grade in my later high school years, so all that would come down to would be people who bullied me in 3rd-7th grade. As to that, eh. I don't think I'd want an apology. It wouldn't do anything for me at this point. The emotional scars that were inflicted will always be there, and the words of an effectively different person aren't going to change what happened.
I worked through it, and I'm over it now (or at least I've buried it to the point of it no longer interfering in my everyday life). If I could go back in time and make that shitty kid apologize to my younger self I'd gladly do it, but this now adult version of that child I don't know or care about. I'd probably accept it and move it. If anything I'd take solace in the fact that they didn't grow up to be a shitty person.
I worked through it, and I'm over it now (or at least I've buried it to the point of it no longer interfering in my everyday life). If I could go back in time and make that shitty kid apologize to my younger self I'd gladly do it, but this now adult version of that child I don't know or care about. I'd probably accept it and move it. If anything I'd take solace in the fact that they didn't grow up to be a shitty person.
I was bullied in my early teens (13-16) and would have nothing against an apology. I don't even think that my bullies today recognise what they did was wrong, an apology would tell me they do recognise it. The apology is not important beacuse I want an apology, but beacuse what it might bring future generation. Children learn from their parents and hopefully that would let them teach their children not to bully, to be respectfull and understanding to other human beings. And if an apology calm their conscience it's more then enough for me.
This is not to say I would not love to be succsefull and shove it in down their throats. Im a humanbeing, I have my revengfantasies sometimes a year bu most of the time Im happy with all the wonderfull friends I have today. For me thats a succsess I would never let go off and proudly can speak of today.
The only person I want an apology from that is just for my own sake is my teacher. My teacher that even today don't recognise that I was bullied. That I wanted to do all my work alone beacuse nobody in class liked me. If she had just stop being blind my school years could have been better. She could have learned the other in my class an important lesson to keep with them for the rest of their lives. You don't have the right to bully and bullying can have diffrent forms, not just the pyshical one.
This is not to say I would not love to be succsefull and shove it in down their throats. Im a humanbeing, I have my revengfantasies sometimes a year bu most of the time Im happy with all the wonderfull friends I have today. For me thats a succsess I would never let go off and proudly can speak of today.
The only person I want an apology from that is just for my own sake is my teacher. My teacher that even today don't recognise that I was bullied. That I wanted to do all my work alone beacuse nobody in class liked me. If she had just stop being blind my school years could have been better. She could have learned the other in my class an important lesson to keep with them for the rest of their lives. You don't have the right to bully and bullying can have diffrent forms, not just the pyshical one.
seeing them own up to it and be better people for such self-reflection, yeah, I suppose I'd like that, for their sake.
I have already moved past it myself, but high school fuckin' sucked because of them.
I have already moved past it myself, but high school fuckin' sucked because of them.
I'm in the position of not needing an apology, since I always fought back. Nothing tells a bully off more than jumping on his back, riding him like a horse while strangling him with your lunchbox's strap... If anything, I should probably be the one apologizing for that, though for whatever reason I feel no remorse, especially since I had my throat nearly crushed and my hat (temporarily) stolen in that case.
Oh, I do. That bastard didn't really find it to be all that kinky though. And at the moment, I was driven more by bloodlust than anything. Fun as hell for the half-minute he was still bucking like a bronco though...BathorysGraveland2 said:
And yes, I'm petty sure I'm crazy, thanks for asking.
And the kinky-level has increased even more. Congratulations!an annoyed writer said:
I apologise for making light of what would have been a very serious situation in reality. It just really does sound like the storyline of some kind of BDSM porno.
No need to apologize. If anything it just makes the situation even funnier in retrospect. Turning expectations on their head and all that.BathorysGraveland2 said:
Nope and this is coming from a guy who had "friends" who tormented me during my High School years (they kept making fun of me all those long years and were an ass in general).
While I can easily imagine seeing them apologising to me (one of them did feel remorse for his action toward me when High School was almost over) but I know as hell I would never accept it since accepting it would mean I would have to reconcile and be friends with them again which I don't want (it best that they stayed in the past in my memory).
Granted I would want "closure" but my form of closure is pretty much a long winded rant toward them on how terrible of an friends they were toward them I also stated on how much better of the friends I made in Uni compared to them and that they can never match up to them when it come to being friends with me.
While I can easily imagine seeing them apologising to me (one of them did feel remorse for his action toward me when High School was almost over) but I know as hell I would never accept it since accepting it would mean I would have to reconcile and be friends with them again which I don't want (it best that they stayed in the past in my memory).
Granted I would want "closure" but my form of closure is pretty much a long winded rant toward them on how terrible of an friends they were toward them I also stated on how much better of the friends I made in Uni compared to them and that they can never match up to them when it come to being friends with me.
If other people want an apology, all the power to them.
Me? Nah, it's apology enough that I don't have to see them again...Just have to avoid drinking and being alone while under the effects of said alcohol. Even two drinks brings up bad memories. It was never slurs that got to me either which makes me laugh.
Me? Nah, it's apology enough that I don't have to see them again...Just have to avoid drinking and being alone while under the effects of said alcohol. Even two drinks brings up bad memories. It was never slurs that got to me either which makes me laugh.