i want be be a father so that i can be the most mean old bastard this world has ever seen. "ohh dad did you just buy a new super gaming computer for us? horray we love you" to which i will reply, "for you?"
Poll: Do you want children?
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I would say yes, though for that to happen I would have to find a woman who I could stand being with for more than a few months.
One day yes I would like to have kids. Preferably 2, a boy and a girl, but I'll be happy with whatever I get.
I used to be completely against having kids (the pain of childbirth mainly put me off) but now I'm in a long term relationship I've sort of changed my mind. The idea of creating and raising something that loves you unconditionally, relies on you, depends on you, well I think I could definitly get in on that. I could also get a dog for the same kind of thing but well, I would like both.
Won't be having them for a few years yet however. Not with a boyfriend still in uni and me only in part time work. Plus we're only 21. I'll wait until we're a bit more stable before we even think about that.
I used to be completely against having kids (the pain of childbirth mainly put me off) but now I'm in a long term relationship I've sort of changed my mind. The idea of creating and raising something that loves you unconditionally, relies on you, depends on you, well I think I could definitly get in on that. I could also get a dog for the same kind of thing but well, I would like both.
Won't be having them for a few years yet however. Not with a boyfriend still in uni and me only in part time work. Plus we're only 21. I'll wait until we're a bit more stable before we even think about that.
Ten years ago I would have screamed "NO!", but now I think about it sometimes.
I'm still not sure I want children, but my biological clock has started telling me I do...
It's a big responsibility, and I'm not ready for it yet, even though I have a boyfriend I can see myself spending the rest of my life with.
If I have children it won't happen until I know in my heart that it's time.
I'm still not sure I want children, but my biological clock has started telling me I do...
It's a big responsibility, and I'm not ready for it yet, even though I have a boyfriend I can see myself spending the rest of my life with.
If I have children it won't happen until I know in my heart that it's time.
... been there... if you don't mind me asking, how did you get over it? 'Cos I still don't think I am...DRes82 said:
Then, there's the other side of the coin where you genuinely believe that you will be so poor a parent that the way you treat your child is more in the hope that you are doing right by them, than in believing it...intheweeds said:
OT: I... really... don't... know... When I was twenty, I was young and stupid enough to think that maybe having a child might make me/then gf happy. When she got pregnant, we were OK for a while, and we felt like a child might 'complete' us, cliche as it sounds. Fast forward eight months, she had an almost complete and utter mental breakdown and I barely managed to keep myself from following her. Perhaps I wanted that child too much, but I feel that if I were to have a son or daughter, even if he/she was adopted, I'd be excessively protective, stifling their desire to be out of my own fears of losing them regardless of how likely or unlikely it would be.
So, yes, I do want a child, but not as I am now.
I've never gotten over it, and neither has my wife. It brought us closer together, having to deal with it. The fact that we're still together after the strain it put on both of us is a testament to that. I think being able to have our own kids at some point would be amazing, but there will always be an emotional scar. It really is quite the awful experience.SckizoBoy said:
I'm at the age of life where most of my family have had children, but I'm not ready at the minute. I want to be in my own home, and my boyfriend should have a job.
I've got 6 nieces and nephews, I was rather young when they were born and if they'd cry, I'd dash out the room and let the parents deal with it. My sister recently had a baby and the second I hear him cry I jump up to soothe him and hold him.
He has a habit of turning his head towards my breast (my sister breast feeds) I have to tell him he won't find anything there xD
The thought of childbirth terrifies me to be honest. I have all the names planned out though!
I've got 6 nieces and nephews, I was rather young when they were born and if they'd cry, I'd dash out the room and let the parents deal with it. My sister recently had a baby and the second I hear him cry I jump up to soothe him and hold him.
He has a habit of turning his head towards my breast (my sister breast feeds) I have to tell him he won't find anything there xD
The thought of childbirth terrifies me to be honest. I have all the names planned out though!
Some day, Im the only one who can carry on the Reinert name as well as my German blood. Also My kids are going to be the most badass children ever.
Well I hope not because of financial troubles and the fact I would be a terrible dad but I get the feeling that I'll accidentally get my lover pregnant so I'm preparing for either way.
It has been agreed that if I father a child, my friend is going to quit his job and become a teacher so that he can help create the most monstrous cynical dark little child ever
It has been agreed that if I father a child, my friend is going to quit his job and become a teacher so that he can help create the most monstrous cynical dark little child ever
I've been told that I'm good with kids and all, but I think the main reason this is, is because I'm terrified of kids and I just make them go play in a corner, far away, preferably Japan if I could help it, or at least an area code away. Yeah, I've got problems...
Goodness yes, I would love to have kids for one of the purposeses of their names being if boy(s) Wilhelm, Thomas Jefferson(T.J. for short) and Octavian. As for a girl(s) Mineva, Helena, or Gloria. Plus I mean, gotta have that family live on.
I can guarantee most people here who say no will be parents when they grow up.
Anyway right now, no, in the future (when I'm 30 perhaps), I don't know. It depends what my wife/girlfriend would want. Most likely i'll change my mind about kids in the future when i'm a bit older.
The idea doesn't appeal to me much right now, kids are very expensive and time consuming. It's not the responsibility or commitment that bothers me, its just that kids tend to take away years of your life that could be spent with just me and my partner, which I think I'd be more happy with honestly.
Also the whole "carrying on the bloodline after you're dead" thing, i've never understood. I don't give a crap about that.
Anyway right now, no, in the future (when I'm 30 perhaps), I don't know. It depends what my wife/girlfriend would want. Most likely i'll change my mind about kids in the future when i'm a bit older.
The idea doesn't appeal to me much right now, kids are very expensive and time consuming. It's not the responsibility or commitment that bothers me, its just that kids tend to take away years of your life that could be spent with just me and my partner, which I think I'd be more happy with honestly.
Also the whole "carrying on the bloodline after you're dead" thing, i've never understood. I don't give a crap about that.
