Poll: Ever been in Love?

[Zyntoxic]

I answered yes, because I do believe I am in love but on a general note I just want to state that I believe there is a difference between feeling in love and being in love, there might be som hair splitting here but still.

I have been in this relationship for 5 years and I am in love, I love my fiancé very much and would never part with him even for a second if it was up to me, but feeling in love is a feeling that only comes in waves, during brief moments caused by actions or situations, that feeling you have in abundance in the beginning anw.
actually, I'm glad that the "new love" phase went away, try spending five years with someone that makes you so excited you become nauseas, but the rarity of that excitement makes it precious instead.

being in love is a comfortable state, more like that "similar people getting along" option but with a shared intimacy and understanding of each other few others in the world could have.
while feeling in love is the pink, fluffy thing you both float and suffer upon in the beginning.

anw I've been/felt in love since I was 14 (that is 6 years back from now)

 

[GiglameshSoulEater]

No, and the complete lack of 'love' I have felt has lead me to conclude that it is more an ideal than an actuality.

 

[Fbuh]

I am currently engaged to the love of my life. Everyone says that it never works out with your first love, but we've been together a year and a half and it already feels like we've always been together (in a good way).

 

[GiglameshSoulEater]

Yes, it had bad results for all involved.
Now while I hate the cliche, it had a very Shakespearean ending, not words of mine, but of my friends.

People died in a twist of dramatic irony and betrayal?

Damn, son, thats a bad way to end a relationship.

 

[Sleekgiant]

Nope, doubt I ever will be seeing as to how most people just like to use me for money.

So in short forever alone.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

Fuse the first 2 poll options into 1 and you'd have a rough idea of my situation.

 

[BlazeCruzer]

Still am in love, she was my best friend for 7 years. I couldn't take the sexual tension anymore so I just outright confessed to her last night. She wants to stay friends in the relationship so that flame never goes out.

 

[JoJo]

While I have yet to undertake a romantic relationship, I know for sure that love exists and the reason I know that is my younger sister. To keep this short, she is the most precious thing to me in the entire world and I'd do anything to protect her. A different sort of love from that of two romantic partners to be sure, but this sort of love is true and real, so I have good reason to believe that romantic love must also exist.

 

[Smooth Operator]

True, true. But I also believe there has to be some sort of willingness and trust on both parties' part to "fall in love" so to speak. I don't believe in love-at-first-sight or fairytales, which is what I was trying (and likely failing) to convey in my post.

So many definitions so little time...

Well love-at-first-sight isn't really a problem if someone is easy to impress (or someone is good at impressing), and we don't really need to know the person to fall in love, we just create our image of the person and hang a dopamine drip on it (our mind is funny that way).

Ofcourse it takes getting to know the object of our affection for that bond to last, that is where the willingness and trust comes in usually also where it all falls apart because that perfect image we have doesn't match the actual person.

 

[pezwitch]

I fell in love when I was 19 and he was 20. We got married a year later and I still love him after 20+ years of marriage.

My husband says he knew I was the one because I didn't automatically annoy him when we met and I still didn't annoy him after he knew me for a while. After all these years of marriage he says I only occassionally annoy him, so I know he still loves me.

I knew I loved him because I couldn't imagine a future without him in it (and I still can't even though I know, intellectually, that one of us is going to die first).

Sometimes I think people complicate love too much. I show him I love him by not being a psycho witch. He shows me he loves me by being kind and courteous and believing in me.

So, the simple secret to our relationships is we show our love by treating each other with respect and politeness. It's very easy to fall and stay in love with someone who treats you well and doesn't bring drama into your life.

 

[Jester00]

i think i am at the moment. first time. its great.

 

[Blow_Pop]

Once I did.

Now I don't. I will do all in my power to avoid becomming dedicated to one person ever again, and I hope no person manages- through luck or miracle- to gain my heart.

This^
I do my hardest not to let anyone gain my heart. After the 5 years I dedicated waiting for the guy that I thought I loved....Never again. I destroyed myself once and refuse to do it again.

 

[Starik20X6]

I would say the feeling I have towards a certain someone in my life is 'love'. Unfortunately, due to a TL;DR series of events, we aren't together. Not being with her is the one regret I have. Forever alone...

 

[aba1]

Well I am going out on a limb and saying yes and still am

I started dating my girlfriend when I was 16 and 5 years later we are still steady so ya yay for me!

 

[marcooos]

a few times. I finally found 'the one' about 5 years ago she was right in front of me for about 10 years before that. I met her because my friend's girlfriend brought around all the girls from her church youth group. (Oh boy stuck up girls) There was one little firecracker who caught my eye, she had hazel eyes, strawberry blonde hair and well she had to quit gymnastics because her center of gravity shifted too high... if you know what i mean
I walked up to her and said "Hi, don't know if Laura told ya about me" she responded with an exotic accent I never heard before "Ah, yes, you are one of the twins oui? Who are you?"
"OH! Umm I am Thor."
"Oh, I am sorry. I have some aTH'prin in my purse"

I instantly had a crush on her for that wit alone. Alas at the time she had a boyfriend. We both saw each other every now and then at social gatherings one or the other of us always attached though. Never once, not ever did she ever get me and my twin brother mixed up. We could be wearing the exact same thing, same hair cut, everything. She knew when it was me.

At parties her and I always talked and talked.
I assumed she was so flirty because she was French. I found out some time later from my female friends that no, actually she was kind of an ice queen except when I was around. Then I went to a new years eve party and she was there both of us were single, so I said "ya know what we've never really gotten to know each other... we should" She said yes. Our first date I took her to the restaurant my parents went on at the first date. A year later I asked that little french girl to marry me and she said yes.
3 years in October.
Our wedding theme was 'right in front of me'
Couldn't be happier. I'm slowly learning french in secret hoping to surprise here on a birthday or anniversary.

Meh its gonna make me sound like a massive wuss but that story put a massive smile on my face good luck to ya mate

 

[Matt East]

Yes, it had bad results for all involved.
Now while I hate the cliche, it had a very Shakespearean ending, not words of mine, but of my friends.

People died in a twist of dramatic irony and betrayal?

Damn, son, thats a bad way to end a relationship.

Well not quite, death was avoided, think Romeo and Juliet, but they didn't die, just never seen each other again, which would have been a shitty ending.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Yes. It was lovely. I still am, but it's no longer lovely.

 

[Rhymenoceros]

No. But I'm only 16 so there's plenty of time. I hope...

 

[Rhymenoceros]

a few times. I finally found 'the one' about 5 years ago she was right in front of me for about 10 years before that. I met her because my friend's girlfriend brought around all the girls from her church youth group. (Oh boy stuck up girls) There was one little firecracker who caught my eye, she had hazel eyes, strawberry blonde hair and well she had to quit gymnastics because her center of gravity shifted too high... if you know what i mean
I walked up to her and said "Hi, don't know if Laura told ya about me" she responded with an exotic accent I never heard before "Ah, yes, you are one of the twins oui? Who are you?"
"OH! Umm I am Thor."
"Oh, I am sorry. I have some aTH'prin in my purse"

I instantly had a crush on her for that wit alone. Alas at the time she had a boyfriend. We both saw each other every now and then at social gatherings one or the other of us always attached though. Never once, not ever did she ever get me and my twin brother mixed up. We could be wearing the exact same thing, same hair cut, everything. She knew when it was me.

At parties her and I always talked and talked.
I assumed she was so flirty because she was French. I found out some time later from my female friends that no, actually she was kind of an ice queen except when I was around. Then I went to a new years eve party and she was there both of us were single, so I said "ya know what we've never really gotten to know each other... we should" She said yes. Our first date I took her to the restaurant my parents went on at the first date. A year later I asked that little french girl to marry me and she said yes.
3 years in October.
Our wedding theme was 'right in front of me'
Couldn't be happier. I'm slowly learning french in secret hoping to surprise here on a birthday or anniversary.

Meh its gonna make me sound like a massive wuss but that story put a massive smile on my face good luck to ya mate

I hope that doesn't make you as wuss as I did the same thing!