JeffBergGold said:
How are the sexes equal but different?
Men are better at some things than women.
Women are better at some things than men.
Both genders should play to their strengths instead of trying to be something they are not. I believe effeminacy in most males is socially and culturally influenced rather than biologically inherent of course there are anomalies but i'm not talking about those.
As a fairly effeminate male (I mean, actually effeminate, not the kind of faux "girly" that some people on this forum claim to be) I am inclined to agree on some level that it is socially influenced. I have a trans father, (in other words I basically have two mums) as a result I never had a strong father figure. I think that's probably why I turned out quite feminine.
But I have to ask, why does it matter? I'm quite comfortable in my male body, I don't have an issue with social situations or dating women, I function perfectly well in society. Okay, so I don't wear dresses, and always wear male (or unisex) clothing, but there is a lot more to gender norms than just how people dress. You seem to be saying all men should be typically masculine and all women should be typically feminine. If I'm wrong, correct me, but if I'm right, why is that the case? What's so important about maintaining the status quo? Because this change is uncomfortable to you?
You say people are trying to be something they are not, that certainly isn't the case. a lot of trans people are actually born essentially with the brain of the other gender, as my father was. This is a real scientific/medical fact, but I don't have any links. If you need sources I'll do some research.