Except you do have the power to validate and invalidate others, people do it all the time. The biology question is entirely a false narrative used exclusively invalidate people who do not conform to gender norms, it's never used anyway. It's not implying I can't be myself because my gender as the primary issue, it's that gender and sex phenotype are not the same thing. You mention emotional blackmail, but use it first against me with a guilt trip about transitioning. The fact of the matter is, gender needs to be biologically set in stone for the stereotypes to exist as they do in the first place.celeritas said:I don't have the power to validate or invalidate another person - nor should it be encumbent upon me to offer that validation. Their status as a man or woman for me is dependent solely on biology - not because I'm a pedant, but because I don't believe people should be defined by the circumstances of their birth. Being a 'man' or a 'woman' shouldn't be an impediment to self expression (though it often is, for both men and women). Implying that you can't be 'yourself' because of your gender is anathama to this belief and by transitioning your actually reinforcing those stereotypes, not challenging them. I can't support that.
Which paradoxically is exactly what misgendering someone is in the first place, the problem is that it can trigger physical concequences, due to carelessness and callousness. Still misgendering a person intentionally is psychological bullying, it's one of the most common causes linked to trans suicides. Two wrongs don't make a right here, especially when the first wrong is something so easily avoided.celeritas said:This isn't an axiom and even if it was it's not a rational argument - it's emotional blackmail, an appeal to terrible consequences should I refuse to do as I'm asked. It denies an individual their independence of thought or expression through duress. It is, at base, a form of psychological bullying.
Except that whole line of thought isn't realistic. People validate and invalidate each other on a daily basis. Bullying for example is heavily based on invalidating a person in some way. Also you seem to not understand what gender dysphoria is, how it works. It's not something that goes away, it's not a switch a trans person flips, it's not a choice, it's a mental mechanism where the brain says: "My body is wrong!" Transition is the only treatment that is known to work, you're basically demanding we go back to attempting to force trans folk to live as their birth sexes. Which is probably the other most common cause of trans suicides.celeritas said:Again, I don't have the power to validate on invalidate other human beings. This reliance on external validation is at odds with the eternal message of empowerment which is self acceptance. Saying, in the words of Lady Gaga, "I'm born this way!". Is the trans message really "I was born wrong, but don't worry I'm fixed now - do you approve?"
I'm not making you out to be a terrible person, my objective here is try to get you to understand gender dysphoria, which is caused by a biological system, the brain. The goal you're supporting here isn't about biology, or society, it's basically the same line as trans exclusionary radical feminists, which demands abolition of gender, but no answer on how to reach that goal. No trans person is ever forced to under go any gender reassignment surgery, not a single one, it's a self empowering choice used to treat gender dysphoria, and it works.celeritas said:And again, this is just an appeal to consequences: you're trying to make out that I'm a terrible human being for holding to a view point of my own; for maintaining that biology is, while boring, objectively immutable and that the real goal should be about changing society's outdated view of gender and not forcing people to undergo painful, expensive and life-changing surgery in order to conform to it.
That's the classic trans exclusionary radical feminist line right there. Calling the issue with the binary, disregarding all of the other biological factors because they're inconvenient to a narrative. The problem is that gender dysphoria does exist and it's a biological going on within a trans person. One of the "solutions" is really vague talk about abolishing gender that really doesn't make any sense, or presents an actual solution period. The other solution, transition, is generally what allows a trans person to live in their own body and function like other people. It's a solution to a problem suffered by a minority, forcing people to live with physical parts they cannot stand is not a humane, or a workable solution, because it leads to only one other option, eventual suicide for the trans person.celeritas said:One of these solutions has lasting, pratical benefits which help everyone (by empowering everyone to feel free in their personal expression), the other helps a small minority, in the short term to better fit into a binary system that is niether workable nor humane.
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When it comes to trans exclusionary radical feminism as a subject, it inherently supports the binary by attempting to enforce biological sex phenotypes. There is nothing there that changes, it stratifies the binary in stone. Also such ideology attempts to limit all self expression, especially in regards to gender, by stratifying the biological aspects. Really when it comes down to that trans exclusionary radical feminism isn't actually radical and it's a flying leap backwards, by confining people's gender expression and roles to biology.