I think the op would be better served to reword their question, as it obviously has invited a lot of attack on their character for the way they worded the question. They deserved it though, they were totally asking for people to attack them as a person. /sarcasm
Probably would have been better to word it
"does someone have the right to act like a total asshole if you accidentally misgender them?"
Though I suppose boiling the situation down to simple question of basic human civility in response to a minor and unintentional slight would make the topic pretty short discussion wise. Kinda obvious what the answer there should be if you view society as a place where people are equal and should be equally civil.
I get misgendered often enough to know it is annoying, but I don't think it is excuse enough to justify being a raging asshole, especially when it is done unintentionally and by someone who is willing to listen when corrected on the topic.
Going deeper into the idea of maintaining the misgender thing based on biological identifiers in spite of correcting it, well then that starts to be a bit assholish itself. Outside of biological factors of importance, gender is not really important when talking to or about someone, so courtesy would be simply accept whatever they wish to align themselves as and just make a basic attempt to satisfy that. Don't need to be perfect, but unless they are making a big deal out of it in a way that is asinine, no reason to make it an issue yourself. this does require both parties be civil and sane though, and that tends to not be the case too often.
Probably would have been better to word it
"does someone have the right to act like a total asshole if you accidentally misgender them?"
Though I suppose boiling the situation down to simple question of basic human civility in response to a minor and unintentional slight would make the topic pretty short discussion wise. Kinda obvious what the answer there should be if you view society as a place where people are equal and should be equally civil.
I get misgendered often enough to know it is annoying, but I don't think it is excuse enough to justify being a raging asshole, especially when it is done unintentionally and by someone who is willing to listen when corrected on the topic.
Going deeper into the idea of maintaining the misgender thing based on biological identifiers in spite of correcting it, well then that starts to be a bit assholish itself. Outside of biological factors of importance, gender is not really important when talking to or about someone, so courtesy would be simply accept whatever they wish to align themselves as and just make a basic attempt to satisfy that. Don't need to be perfect, but unless they are making a big deal out of it in a way that is asinine, no reason to make it an issue yourself. this does require both parties be civil and sane though, and that tends to not be the case too often.