Poll: Girls Don't Like Assholes.

[New Vegas Samurai]

FUCKIN' MUFFINS ARE TEH SHIT

EDIT:OT: Nah, I don't think women are all going to enjoy the company of d-bags and a-holes...
I think the girl from Lovefaq had it right in that it really just depends on what a woman wants out of a relationship.
Barring that, those "assholes" are also a bit more confident, which really goes a long way with a woman

Also, sorry if this point has been reiterated on my part, I just skimmed through most of the post

 

[Panzer_God]

Bah I hate these threads... it's always let's hate on the guys with no confidence because they don't fit in to society and like to complain about it somewhere they don't think they'll be judged...

But us shy guys aren't at all confident and aren't looking to be... So telling us to grow balls is hardly sound advise... from personal experience it's not about "getting the girl"... it's about waiting for them to come get us... for the exact reason that we have no self esteem or confidence and are afraid of the crippling depression and psychological confidence impairing scars that come from rejection... and other such things...

Now shame on you for telling us off for being our selves... Just because we're not the archetypal, "asshole" doesn't automatically make us a bunch of slimy, coniving, cowards... It's the coniving and cowardess that does...

I'm not sure if you're yelling at me, making fun of me or sarcastically agreeing with me.

Well all three obviously...<.<

Yelling at you for being a jerk...

Making fun of you for your post permiating the theme of low confidence=bad,in an almost That Handsome Devil, Middle America Satire sort of way... though being serious...

and agree with you for the fact that, the inability to admit ones own faults in the pursuit of women is infact very self centered and shouldn't automatically give rise to the conclusion that wome only like assholes... seeing as how there's absolutely no way you could ever be an asshole...

But most of all I was giving my personal opinion and defending my own lack of self confidence and ability to rant regarding false facts and unopposed on the internet when it comes to pursuing a relationship... seeing as how I'm not quite so arrogant to simply dismiss women as having bad tastes when I get my heart broken... and I'm not quite so out of touch to think that my lack of self confidence, social skills, ambition, etc. somehow makes me a desireable partner... I understand that it makes me a much more vulnerable person and that I assume a gender role opposite to my own in wanting to be swept off my feet rather than doing it myself... which of course basically alienates me from the rest of traditional society...<.<


Plus a bunch of other stuff I don't feel like bringing up...

You are either an absolute genius, or completely off your rocker. Possibly both, either way you're pretty damn awesome.

 

[Eamar]

I'll admit, I came here initially to see which idiot started another one of these threads. We seemed to be having some time off from these ludicrous, generalisation-inducing, gender wars threads, why would you bring it up again?

[small]And yes I know I should have just ignored it. I never claimed to be logical.[/small]

Anyhow, I'm here now so might as well say something on topic. Same things I say every time:

1. Saying "girls" are or are not generally attracted to some particular personality trait is patently ridiculous. (OP, you state that you're not trying to generalise, so why bother making a thread like this?) EDIT: note, personality trait. I'm not about to deny that some physical characteristics are generally considered more attractive, but personality traits? Yeah, no.

2. If you think that girls you like are consistently dating "assholes" chances are they aren't. You are most likely projecting undesirable qualities onto the object of your affection's boyfriend because you're jealous. Girls are capable of this too ("she's not good enough for him," "she's such a *****" etc)

3. If these girls do complain to you about their "asshole" boyfriends yet continue to date them, in all likelihood they are just letting off steam at a bad time in the relationship (after an argument, after a break up). They (probably) don't actually think he's an asshole. Don't tell me you've never unfairly ranted about someone who pissed you off, especially if there were strong emotions involved like, say, the ones you find in a relationship.

4. If you're talking about the "friend zone" beyond the age of about 16 you've gone horribly wrong somewhere. You seem to have missed the lesson where they taught you that women are people too and don't have to view everyone as a potential date. They are allowed to literally just be your friend, even if you're a guy.

5. If a girl dates you for a bit and then says she wants to be "just friends" you have NOT been "friendzoned." She is letting you down gently. She doesn't want to be your best friend, she's had a shot at dating you and decided, for whatever reason, that it isn't going to work out.

Now please, can we stop these threads? Or at least make them vaguely related to games in some way?

[small]Captcha: cupid's arrow. Piss off, captcha.[/small]

 

[Whateveralot]

"Assholes" can be two kind of guys:

1) Dickheads. Guys that do the shit they do, because they can. Generally very active in highschool. Bullies. Alpha males. Girls are drawn to them. One thing: they're usually very shallow and not too bright. They are called "assholes" because they can't handle themselves.

2) Guys with a strong character and personality. They're generally awesome people, as long as you accept them for who they are. This usually takes time to develop. They know what they want, what they look for and when they hit a girl. They're relatively harmless, but are called "assholes" because women don't know how to handle them.

I might be completely wrong with this, though. Just my opinion.

 

[Griffolion]

I guess the confidence that comes with these assholes is the magnetic component. They don't have to be likable, just attractive. It's my hope that, in the end, the assholes come out bottom of the pile.

 

[Phasmal]

2. If you think that girls you like are consistently dating "assholes" chances are they aren't. You are most likely projecting undesirable qualities onto the object of your affection's boyfriend because you're jealous. Girls are capable of this too ("she's not good enough for him," "she's such a *****" etc)

Aaaaagh so much this!

I used to get this off a friend of mine who had never even met my boyfriend but still insisted he was no good.
It's just plain creepy when a guy acts like he knows what's best for you and you dont.

 

[Rblade]

an important part of confidence is not caring too much. By which I mean if you just go through life doing what you like without caring to much what others think your generally going to be happy an happy is atractive. Also obsessing and clinging are the worst things you can do (I'm very much guilty of both) and I think thats what makes people that don't really care what girls think of them but do hang out with them atractive. If they then notice that the girl that shows interest in them is someone they like, THEN they make an effort to be nice and thoughtfull to seal the deal. They go in expecting nothing, no pressure, and just jump opportunity they see

and it's that careless mindset and seeming laidback nature that makes them seem like "assholes" a bit. To be honest I think being overly nice and courteous to a person you don't really know just tends to come over as creepy.

my 2 cents based on observations of people around me, I'm by no means a social scientist lol.