Well people are allowed to put on "a right face" and sit there if they're pissed off/upset, I know I can, and I'd probably make a effort to talk to somebody looking miserable as well, it's just kind of weird for somebody to have that as a primary stance and then expect people to throw themselves at them.EeveeElectro said:That's what I mean~ if you can't muster up the confidence to even say hello it's puts me off. If you don't even make an attempt to converse then it just puts me off and makes me think you're not interested in being my friend.
Although usually when I see someone with a face on, I come over and ask if they're okay. As long as they don't look like a complete rapist who might eat me alive like I've caught a few people looking at me like.
Sometimes I can have a black cloud over my head and don't speak much when I'm sad or in a bad mood. I can't socialise when I'm miserable so I try quietly talk to them because I care about helping others. If he wants to talk to me, that's great. I'll try help him with his problems and cheer him up if I can so he'll be more inclined to join in the group. If he just grunts or barely speaks I probably won't waste much time on him.
EDIT: Reminds me of something... In college I once just bounded up to a group of people who looked nice and were talking about something I was interested in and tried making friends. They accepted me into their circle of friends, and I saw this one guy sat quietly at a table. I sat next to him and he looked at me like I just slapped out a knife. I asked if he was okay and he just mumbled some incomprehensible. I was obviously making him feel uncomfortable so I just left him to it. The others said he was always like that and I shouldn't worry myself about it.
I never got to know him and it made me a bit sad he seemed to have such big confidence issues. I hope he's a bit better now.
Midgeamoo said:Well people are allowed to put on "a right face" and sit there if they're pissed off/upset, I know I can, and I'd probably make a effort to talk to somebody looking miserable as well, it's just kind of weird for somebody to have that as a primary stance and then expect people to throw themselves at them.
haha. I didn't think of that.Also, just noticed something, isn't your forum name essentially "Jolteon"?
I'm given to understand that the "women love assholes" thing is just basic biology screwing with them. Dominant, aggressive alpha males are appealing to ovulating women. They also tend to be physically stronger/healthier, making them more appealing for reproduction, and more confident, which as noted makes them more appealing in general. When women AREN'T ovulating they prefer nurturing men, which is where the "nice guy/BFF" comes in. If any science majors want to stop by and debunk this go ahead, this is totally a lay person's understanding of how this shit works.Panzer_God said:"But Panzer" you might ask, "then why aren't they dating guys like us?" The answer is simple.
I have. I know a naturally charismatic guy that can just walk right up to a girl, casually say, "Hey, you wanna have sex?", and within half an hour or so, she's on the floor giggling while he's feeling her tits. I'll give you a tip. Running after a girl like a maniac screaming, "Please, have sex with me! 3 minutes is all I need!" is exactly the wrong way to approach a female.Midgeamoo said:I haven't met anybody who isn't confident when just talking to 1 or 2 other people
Very much agreed. It's unreasonable, as most double standards tend to be; some things are simply a matter of genetics, and judging girls for preferring a superior specimen is unfair.BloatedGuppy said:Guys also are attracted to predictable physiological and psychological traits. I bet not too many guys here spend a lot of time fantasizing about thick-set, masculine, hairy women, for example. When we're drawn to the traditional hour glass figure, attracted to youth or health, intrigued by strong symmetrical features, we easily admit that we are "slaves to our biology". When women do it, it's all "BLARGLE FARGLE WOMEN LOVE ASSHOLES LIFE IS UNFAIR".
That's the thing I don't get though, that isn't confidence ... that is mood. Also what does that have to do with how date-able that guy is? Maybe he is one of those brood thoughtful types, just 'cos he is sat "quietly in the corner with his head down low and not speaking with a right face on" doesn't mean he lacks confidence, just a bad dayEeveeElectro said:And it's not like we want a man to be dripping in confidence. We just don't want the sort of guy that sits quietly in the corner with his head down low and not speaking with a right face on.Panzer_God said:-snip-
But you're crazy, I mean it's in your name, that you are the 17th model of the insane female!CrazyGirl17 said:I'm a girl, and I hate assholes... though I suppose there are (stupid) women who do...
I think she's probably referring to people you see regularly and who are always in a "bad mood." And to be fair, while one bad day has very little to do with how dateable you are overall, you're unlikely to get picked up by some random girl (who doesn't know if it's just a one off bad day or not) when you're visibly in a bad mood.omega 616 said:That's the thing I don't get though, that isn't confidence ... that is mood. Also what does that have to do with how date-able that guy is? Maybe he is one of those brood thoughtful types, just 'cos he is sat "quietly in the corner with his head down low and not speaking with a right face on" doesn't mean he lacks confidence, just a bad dayEeveeElectro said:And it's not like we want a man to be dripping in confidence. We just don't want the sort of guy that sits quietly in the corner with his head down low and not speaking with a right face on.Panzer_God said:-snip-
But someone who is constantly like that, it is to do with his confidence. like I was explaining earlier, I've had bad days where if I'm in a social situation I just sit quietly with my head down.omega 616 said:That's the thing I don't get though, that isn't confidence ... that is mood. Also what does that have to do with how date-able that guy is? Maybe he is one of those brood thoughtful types, just 'cos he is sat "quietly in the corner with his head down low and not speaking with a right face on" doesn't mean he lacks confidence, just a bad dayEeveeElectro said:And it's not like we want a man to be dripping in confidence. We just don't want the sort of guy that sits quietly in the corner with his head down low and not speaking with a right face on.Panzer_God said:-snip-