Poll: How do you pay your friends?
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This is a typical case of weekend off-the-record work so his company isn't to be considered. Because of this payment in the form of money is limited to only cover the material (which I probably bought myself earlier). The work itself is payed for with an equal or greater service for him or his family. Alternatively with food, "fika", beer or moose meat.
Most of the times when I whant something to buy from my friend [I won't say what kind of shop he/she have], I pay always whatever he/she say to me. I NEVER tell my friend how much I will pay.bojackx said:
Don't get me wrong, but if you pay less or more from the amount your friend told you, I find this VERY rude.
I wouldn't use a friend full stop as if it goes wrong (say the fireplace collapses) if i phoned he/she they might get pissy at me and i wouldn't want to ruin a friendship
Captcha-pudding pops...what the hell is a pudding pop?
Captcha-pudding pops...what the hell is a pudding pop?
The standard amount, unless my friend wants to settle for less. If so I'd compensate him some other way.
I don't think I would want to use a friend as help though. Learned the hard way that money and friendship doesn't work well together.
I don't think I would want to use a friend as help though. Learned the hard way that money and friendship doesn't work well together.
When i worked as a waiter i would never accept tips from friends, i don't know why but it doesn't feel right. Just ask the friend for the price, he will probably ask less than the usual price which is fine because you are friends. Just be honest with yourself and with him and if you are truely friends you will work it out.
Honestly it's a case by case scenario. In a case of it being something you don't typically tip someone I do standard rate (unless the person explicitly states a different lower rate). In the case of being tipped, friend or not, it depends on the service. I've worked out arrangements with friends over a services trade as I am a massage therapist. I've traded off massages with other therapists or given a massage as a payment for work of some sort. So it really depends person to person.
I'd ask him how much it would cost, and just pay that amount.
I don't like using friendship as a way to get a discount, as it feels like I am using said person.
But that's just me.
I don't like using friendship as a way to get a discount, as it feels like I am using said person.
But that's just me.
Dealing in favors can be dangerous because the perceived value of that favor my differ between parties.
I'll add to that. Never loan a friend or family member money unless you're comfortable (financially and personally) gifting it to them.DanielBrown said:
Oh this is just golden. Imagine if you pay a friend to do some remodelling work and you're displeased with his work. That could be really tough on the friendship. I agree that I would prefer to keep my friends out of this as a paid job.Heronblade said:
However if I had no choice it would have to depend on how much money I got, how much the standard is and how much money he's got compared to me. If I have the wage I assume I'll end up getting (quite low since I'm a biologist) and he's a moderately successful builder (those actually earn quite good money over here) then I would pay the standard unless he stated otherwise. If I was earning a whole lot and I knew he needed some extra money then I wouldn't mind though.
money much like religion and politics is a quick way to ruin a relationship. that's why i find the best solution to be bartering they provide a service for you you help them with something in return. my mom did her friends taxes they help us around the house, we still paid for the materials in any project thus a mutually beneficial relationship. that's just one example there was this one time we gave away an old pool table in exchange for some electrical work done.
I would just pay what the normal charge is (plus tip?!), and if he states you can pay less, do so. I would at least pay for the charge of the materials. Friendship is worth more than money. :3
If all of this revolves around profession services, then I pay whatever they want to charge me. I do not ask or expect a discount. However, if they give me one, then great. After it's all said and done, I'd toss in a 6 pack of their choice, too.
Pay him what he asks - if reasonable, of course.
Perhaps provide another service/assistance in return.
Perhaps provide another service/assistance in return.
Pure wisdom right there. I'd rather deal with a stranger for these kind of things. If I was unsatisfied with the job I would be more comfortable complaining to a stranger and I can see lots of ways to lose a friend if I had him do this.DanielBrown said:
Money and any kind of relationships, family or friends often leads to conflicts I'd rather avoid.
Nothing like that has come up recently, but he would probably insist on doing it for free or real cheap, then i would argue with him and we would settle on the standard amount. People here are so damned polite, you practically need to force money on them. Unless they're strangers, then they will rob you blind.
Most of my friend's favors center around money, so it's hard to avoid dealing with money.
For example: My friend needed some money to buy his wife her Christmas present, I bought it, and he's paying me back what he can, when he can. Than again this guy is practically a brother to me so that's a bit different.
Most other circumstances, a friend does me a favor, I'll return the favor eventually.
In your situations...
Builder: Pay the cost they would charge anyone else(If it's their job), if they're doing it as a favor/hobby, at least pay for the parts and throw in a little bit for their time.
Waiter: I wouldn't treat them any different other than maybe the conversation I would have with them. Than again, I usually tip decently if the service was good.
For example: My friend needed some money to buy his wife her Christmas present, I bought it, and he's paying me back what he can, when he can. Than again this guy is practically a brother to me so that's a bit different.
Most other circumstances, a friend does me a favor, I'll return the favor eventually.
In your situations...
Builder: Pay the cost they would charge anyone else(If it's their job), if they're doing it as a favor/hobby, at least pay for the parts and throw in a little bit for their time.
Waiter: I wouldn't treat them any different other than maybe the conversation I would have with them. Than again, I usually tip decently if the service was good.
