Poll: Is it ok for parents to spank their kids?

[PukingRainbows]

All my friends who I know who were spanked are pretty decent people who have respect for rules and authority. All my friends who weren't spanked sort of "obey" authority but they push the boundaries as much as possible. I'm not saying that spanking decides all this but this is an interesting observation.

I was spanked as a kid , but I feel that questioning authority is a good thing. Maybe no spanking can make a child more open to things since they aren't scared to question. Don't take any scientific merit to that, it's just me saying. lol

 

[dead.juice]

Lol I'm still a newbie on how forums work. Anyways, it's not okay to spank your kids.

TIP: If a topic has gone on for more than one page, then the discussion is well underway.
If you want to jump into the middle of it, contribute something to it.

Contribute? Like state my opinion? ^.^

Who are you? Nobody going to care about your simple opinion five pages into a discussion.
I'm just giving you a tip.

Who am I? I have a profile to tell you that. And thanks for the tip, much appreciated.

If Steven Spielberg has an opinion, he has a billion fans that want to hear it.
You don't even have a name on your profile. I'm just saying that your opinion needs value.
Your welcome.

 

[dead.juice]

All my friends who I know who were spanked are pretty decent people who have respect for rules and authority. All my friends who weren't spanked sort of "obey" authority but they push the boundaries as much as possible. I'm not saying that spanking decides all this but this is an interesting observation.

I was spanked as a kid , but I feel that questioning authority is a good thing. Maybe no spanking can make a child more open to things since they aren't scared to question. Don't take any scientific merit to that, it's just me saying. lol

I understand your idea, I like it.
It could work in the right environment, but it could also lead to hippies.

 

[PukingRainbows]

Lol I'm still a newbie on how forums work. Anyways, it's not okay to spank your kids.

TIP: If a topic has gone on for more than one page, then the discussion is well underway.
If you want to jump into the middle of it, contribute something to it.

Contribute? Like state my opinion? ^.^

Who are you? Nobody going to care about your simple opinion five pages into a discussion.
I'm just giving you a tip.

Who am I? I have a profile to tell you that. And thanks for the tip, much appreciated.

If Steven Spielberg has an opinion, he has a billion fans that want to hear it.
You don't even have a name on your profile. I'm just saying that your opinion needs value.
Your welcome.

It says PukingRainbows. And I'm not Stephen Spielberg. Lets stop spamming this forum with unnecessary talk. Reply with whatever you have to say. After that, have a nice day. c:

 

[Kriptonite]

Well this has some relevant information and points:


But in my view no, as most situation can be resolved using dialogue and material threats (e.g. taking toys away)

This guys makes some great points throughout, especially at the end.

Back to the topic at hand though. Spanking your children is perfectly acceptable, plain and simple. It's one of the tools in a parent's arsenal of deterring asshole-ish-ness. Beating your children however, is wrong. It is not spanking, nor should it be confused with spanking. Beating your children is not okay in most to all situations, but there isn't a thing wrong with a well-deserved spanking.

 

[PukingRainbows]

All my friends who I know who were spanked are pretty decent people who have respect for rules and authority. All my friends who weren't spanked sort of "obey" authority but they push the boundaries as much as possible. I'm not saying that spanking decides all this but this is an interesting observation.

I was spanked as a kid , but I feel that questioning authority is a good thing. Maybe no spanking can make a child more open to things since they aren't scared to question. Don't take any scientific merit to that, it's just me saying. lol

I understand your idea, I like it.
It could work in the right environment, but it could also lead to hippies.

No one likes hippies. lol

 

[CRRPGMykael]

No,it's not OK to do that.A lot of kids grow up hating their parents because they beat them sometimes.Oh,and by the way,it's actually illegal in some countries.

 

[dead.juice]

All my friends who I know who were spanked are pretty decent people who have respect for rules and authority. All my friends who weren't spanked sort of "obey" authority but they push the boundaries as much as possible. I'm not saying that spanking decides all this but this is an interesting observation.

I was spanked as a kid , but I feel that questioning authority is a good thing. Maybe no spanking can make a child more open to things since they aren't scared to question. Don't take any scientific merit to that, it's just me saying. lol

I understand your idea, I like it.
It could work in the right environment, but it could also lead to hippies.

No one likes hippies. lol

Actually, I don't mind them. It's just that after the 80's, they became completely useless.

 

[StBishop]

Yes?

Its funny to me every month or so when this topic comes up how its consistently been for the last year, someone who is barely old enough to have kids of their own (16-25 area) who looks at the issue as if it is even in question. Says more than the question itself.

My brother is in his mid 20's, has three kids and another on the way. Just sayin'.

I also have about 3 friends under 23 with kids.

As far as I know none of my mates use spanking, my brother doesn't spank, I've only seen him spank his eldest once, the others I've never seen spanked. Time-out or a stern voice seem to be enough.
It comes down to each individual child, I was spanked much more than my sister. I didn't really listen to verbal admonishments and "time out" didn't bother me.

My sister hated time out, so it was enough for her.

OT: Yes it's fine. It probably isn't the most effective but on some occasions, and for some children, it's necessary.
To my knowledge spanking isn't about pain, it's about the shock.

 

[FamoFunk]

Uh, no.

You don't hit or smack a random person on the street who mis-behaves or plays up, so why do it to a small child just because they're yours?

I can't take away a random person's stuff on the street, tell them what they can eat for dinner, make them go to school, tell them what time to go to bed, ground them, tell them to go to the doctor...etc....

Children are not just small adults. They do not have the rights of adults, parents do have a certain amount of control and rights over thier kids that do not apply to strangers on the street.

I know, but spanking/smacking, basically physically (and emotionally) harming your child is not a right a parent has. It's abusing your position as primary carer, it's cruel.

Seriously, as a Mother, I've seen small children be punished and it's a horrific sight to see when you have your own.

That's an arbitray statement on your part.

I've seen kids in this very forum talk about how cruel it is for their parents to take away their PC/internet/xbox/etc for being bad.

If the level of violence is appropriate, I'm not convinced that a smack on the bum is any more harmful to a child than any other punishment (my daughter certainly cries a lot when I say no to her about anything, she'll live)

So, when/if your Daughter is in school and she just so happened to attack another child for being mean to her, how do you tell her it's wrong when you smack her yourself? (You didn't say you did smack her, just sayin')

Parents are suppose to lead examples to their children, show them how to be in the big, real world, not smack them that it becomes so normal they'll think it's OK to do it to others.

And what does telling your Daughter no have to do with it? I tell mine no, she fusses and sometimes kicks up a stink, but that's normal child behavior and testing boundaries. I wouldn't physically attack her over it, though.

Parents do lots of things kids can't do to each others. Kids learn that pretty quick. "Don't touch the stove, that's just for adults". I can take her toy away if she is misusing it, she can't take away another child's toy. etc

I have to say; I do find your example funny. Don't touch the stove because it's very hot and can cause you physical pain, yet, I can smack you and cause you physical pain which could potentially emotionally scar/stick in your head longer because my own Mummy/Daddy did it to me. You know those people that're meant to protect me from danger, not cause it?


I'm fully aware I'm one-sided about this, but nothing will convince me or make me think raising a hand to your own child is acceptable, ever.

 

[dead.juice]

No,it's not OK to do that.A lot of kids grow up hating their parents because they beat them sometimes.Oh,and by the way,it's actually illegal in some countries.

That sounds more like abuse.

 

[The Hero Killer]

Yes. I got whoopings when I was brought up and am better for it. Too many times I've been in the store and saw some little kid sceaming and crying for a toy and telling his mom to shut up. That shit wouldnt fly in my family. None of that "now now little Jimmy please stop shouting" bullshit. My mother told me BEFORE we even got out the car dont ask for shit cause she aint buying it.

I didnt want to bring this into it because its not true for everybody but I think it also has alot to do with race, you dont see many black parents having problems with whooping their children.

 

[Insideout Ink Demon]

i voted "yes"

i had my legs slapped a few occassions as a child. its the way i knew i'd pushed the limits too far and it was only ever used for big offenses.

no i wouldnt slap a co-worker etc for going to far, i'd report them to my manager so they could get a warning, sacked or face deciplinary action equivalent to their offence, or talk it out if it was a small offence but i'm not talking small offences for slapping.

with a child you still have to feed, care and nurture them, show them love, you cant go around holding a grudge with them, and sometimes taking toys away does not fit the crime, this can be done, a lesson given and then get on with your family life.

theres a few on here that sound like they were beaten as a child, i feel sorry for them, and i'm pretty sure the types of parents who did that would do it if it was legal or not, i think this topic should be restricted to the type of parents who used/use it responsibly

 

[Xarran]

Thankfully hitting your child has been forbidden by law here in Denmark.
When I was a child it wasn't and it was common practice. Before my school time it was also common practive for teachers to hit children.

Violence breeds violence.

Hitting a child is humiliating for the child and for you. There is always an alternative for parenting your child, and no I dont mean psychological damage.

I was struck as a child, I think many of us have been, but I remember it. I dont hate my parents for it but I dont love them for it either. I wish they would have been better parrents instead.

 

[The-Epicly-Named-Man]

The majority here have voted yes.
Why am I not surprised?

OT; I don't think so, I mean really if a child ever deserves a slap then you're doing something wrong.

 

[kasperbbs]

That depends on 'why' and 'how often'. Sometimes its the only way to get through to the kid and make him behave when asking politely and yelling just doesnt cut it.

 

[dead.juice]

Uh, no.

You don't hit or smack a random person on the street who mis-behaves or plays up, so why do it to a small child just because they're yours?

I can't take away a random person's stuff on the street, tell them what they can eat for dinner, make them go to school, tell them what time to go to bed, ground them, tell them to go to the doctor...etc....

Children are not just small adults. They do not have the rights of adults, parents do have a certain amount of control and rights over thier kids that do not apply to strangers on the street.

I know, but spanking/smacking, basically physically (and emotionally) harming your child is not a right a parent has. It's abusing your position as primary carer, it's cruel.

Seriously, as a Mother, I've seen small children be punished and it's a horrific sight to see when you have your own.

That's an arbitray statement on your part.

I've seen kids in this very forum talk about how cruel it is for their parents to take away their PC/internet/xbox/etc for being bad.

If the level of violence is appropriate, I'm not convinced that a smack on the bum is any more harmful to a child than any other punishment (my daughter certainly cries a lot when I say no to her about anything, she'll live)

So, when/if your Daughter is in school and she just so happened to attack another child for being mean to her, how do you tell her it's wrong when you smack her yourself? (You didn't say you did smack her, just sayin')

Parents are suppose to lead examples to their children, show them how to be in the big, real world, not smack them that it becomes so normal they'll think it's OK to do it to others.

And what does telling your Daughter no have to do with it? I tell mine no, she fusses and sometimes kicks up a stink, but that's normal child behavior and testing boundaries. I wouldn't physically attack her over it, though.

Parents do lots of things kids can't do to each others. Kids learn that pretty quick. "Don't touch the stove, that's just for adults". I can take her toy away if she is misusing it, she can't take away another child's toy. etc

I have to say; I do find your example funny. Don't touch the stove because it's very hot and can cause you physical pain, yet, I can smack you and cause you physical pain which could potentially emotionally scar/stick in your head longer because my own Mummy/Daddy did it to me. You know those people that're meant to protect me from danger, not cause it?


I'm fully aware I'm one-sided about this, but nothing will convince me or make me think raising a hand to your own child is acceptable, ever.

There is a true story about a Canadian girl that had several children, including a baby. They had an open fireplace in their house, and the neighbors always told her to "Burn her baby", to teach it to stay away from the fire. She couldn't bring herself to do it though. One night, the baby crawled into the fire with his blankets, got horribly burned. He lived for two days.
I'm not trying to change your mind, it's just food for thought.

 

[Xarran]

Uh, no.

You don't hit or smack a random person on the street who mis-behaves or plays up, so why do it to a small child just because they're yours?

I can't take away a random person's stuff on the street, tell them what they can eat for dinner, make them go to school, tell them what time to go to bed, ground them, tell them to go to the doctor...etc....

Children are not just small adults. They do not have the rights of adults, parents do have a certain amount of control and rights over thier kids that do not apply to strangers on the street.

I know, but spanking/smacking, basically physically (and emotionally) harming your child is not a right a parent has. It's abusing your position as primary carer, it's cruel.

Seriously, as a Mother, I've seen small children be punished and it's a horrific sight to see when you have your own.

That's an arbitray statement on your part.

I've seen kids in this very forum talk about how cruel it is for their parents to take away their PC/internet/xbox/etc for being bad.

If the level of violence is appropriate, I'm not convinced that a smack on the bum is any more harmful to a child than any other punishment (my daughter certainly cries a lot when I say no to her about anything, she'll live)

So, when/if your Daughter is in school and she just so happened to attack another child for being mean to her, how do you tell her it's wrong when you smack her yourself? (You didn't say you did smack her, just sayin')

Parents are suppose to lead examples to their children, show them how to be in the big, real world, not smack them that it becomes so normal they'll think it's OK to do it to others.

And what does telling your Daughter no have to do with it? I tell mine no, she fusses and sometimes kicks up a stink, but that's normal child behavior and testing boundaries. I wouldn't physically attack her over it, though.

Parents do lots of things kids can't do to each others. Kids learn that pretty quick. "Don't touch the stove, that's just for adults". I can take her toy away if she is misusing it, she can't take away another child's toy. etc

I have to say; I do find your example funny. Don't touch the stove because it's very hot and can cause you physical pain, yet, I can smack you and cause you physical pain which could potentially emotionally scar/stick in your head longer because my own Mummy/Daddy did it to me. You know those people that're meant to protect me from danger, not cause it?


I'm fully aware I'm one-sided about this, but nothing will convince me or make me think raising a hand to your own child is acceptable, ever.

There is a true story about a Canadian girl that had several children, including a baby. They had an open fireplace in their house, and the neighbors always told her to "Burn her baby", to teach it to stay away from the fire. She couldn't bring herself to do it though. One night, the baby crawled into the fire with his blankets, got horribly burned. He lived for two days.
I'm not trying to change your mind, it's just food for thought.

So to teach you that crossing a road can be dangerous ill run you over with my car. That will teach you a lesson!

 

[Use_Imagination_here]

Yeah, I suppose. I messed up as a kid, I got disciplined (not like beating disciplined, more like being dragged by my backhair and put in a dark corner for half an hour) and i tried very hard not to do the thing i did again. It's effective.