As a black woman, a Yahtzee fan, and a long time lurker of Escapist forums (as well as other similar forums; I'm trying my best to spend as less time on the internet as possible these days), I try my best to avoid these sort of topics because they tend to bring out the ugly of people and hold little value. I would probably answer, yes and no, to a degree. Yes, because one has not met every single black woman on earth. Therefore, you lump all or most of them into the ugly box by default, which is pretty wrong. However, attraction-wise, no, because it could be a matter of location, experiences, lack of exposure and/or etc that could have hindered this. However, I can't help but notice a trend in these forums (particularly those associated with gaming, nerd culture etc mostly white or Asian male dominated) stating how they would date ANY race or attracted to EVERY race except black. It's always I've "never been attracted to black women" or "it's just my preference, and black women are not one of them" . It doesn't hurt me (because I honestly could not care less what makes one dick go up, and people like what they like I can't change that), but sometimes I can't help wonder to why that is?
Some would say it's their features--which I find hilarious. If you've ever visited any country in Africa or seen pictures of women from different African ethnic groups one would see a variety of features. From big noses to small noses to hooked noses, wide eyes to narrow, voluptuous to slim petite figures. I think people often have this "one-size-fits all" idea when it comes to people of African descent (you could say this happens to every race; however, it is still not the best way to go about things).
It could be a matter of location. I remember thinking that I would never have slightest attraction to [insert race here]. Then I've met more like minded people, went to a university, traveled more, and realized how wrong I was.
For black men who have seen black women for "all their lives" could be a combination of things (boredom, lack of positive exposure, bad experiences, etc). Yet, just because they have been around black women (sisters, mother, aunts) for all their lives, doesn't necessarily translate into being around EVERY black woman for all their lives (maybe you just have an ugly family? Jk hahaha). Your family, city, school is just a micro to the macro.
Then we have the media (which could also go into location), where we are often seen as sex objects with an army's amount of children from multiple "baby daddies" or overweight strong-black-independent-neck-rollin'-don't-need-no-man man eating machines ready to chew you up and spit you out. Good luck trying to find a black woman who doesn't hold these stereotypes or portrayed as desirable on a popular show (Dee, from BSG? But she didn't have much of a character. Kerry Washington from Scandal maybe? (I've never watched Scandal before)). I was about to set account just to say in this thread, "In before the 'I'm not attracted to black women because it's my preference' posts". These threads tend to get old real quick, and usually contain little perspective from the person being singled out or "discriminated" against. So I thought I would be someone to add some sort of dimension to the thread instead of the back and forth "you're racist, you're not racist" argument. (I could even make a similar statement about Latinas, since the way Latin culture treats race is far different from what many are used to . Also many Latinas could look black, white, or in between. They do not always look like Jessica Alba, J.Lo or Michelle Rodriguez, but that's another can of worms.))
To be quite honest, you will never know where your attraction will lead you. I have gay friends who even felt attracted to a female at some point in their lives. Attraction is abstract, I wouldn't go as far to say one's attraction is racist, but they definitely shouldn't limit what their attraction truly is. It's a journey, but your journey, not mine's. If someone finds themselves truly not attracted to black women or women of dark complexion so be it. Less time wasted from the both of us.
Those are my 2 cents, and I'll get back to lurking.
