Poll: Is your virginity worth saving?

[Something Amyss]

come on over to mine, things make much more sense here.

I'm not sure if that was intended to sound lgbt-phobic or if it just came out that way, but....Wow.

 

[Vegosiux]

Virginity is overhyped.

Sex is overhyped.

Stop making it a big deal and the problem will solve itself on its own.

 

[BOOM headshot65]

I've thought about this, but too be honest how hard can it actually be? I mean can the other person not give direction? I dunno but I don't see being good at it as that big of a hurtle. I imagine it would be like riding a bike, it's not all that hard to figure out if you've got someone teaching you.

Or I may be wrong eniterly and setting myself up for an extremly embarrassing moment in the future...

I have to agree with this one here. I know that me and my girlfriend have talk about it, and neither of us care how bad the other is going to be, we are not having sex until we are married, and even then only to have children. We dont care how ackward or strange the first time will be...thats not why we will be marrying/married to eachother for. We would be married because we are eachothers best friend and we want to spend time with eachother, specifially the rest of our lives. We already know its going to suck the first time, but it doesnt matter. Nothing on this Earth will get us to have sex until we are married. Hell, she is always saying that one of the things she likes about me is that I DONT think about sex with her, outside of marriage. Hell, even IN marriage, I wouldnt really care about sex. It sucks? Oh well, I guess we will go into the other room and she can punch people while I leave a neat hole in thier skull with a sniper on Borderlands. Or I can help her at Fallout. Or she can watch me tear up the track on Forza Horizon. Problem solved.

 

[miketehmage]

Here's my counter points to your points OP: no I don't think most women will appreciate a man who saved his virginity for marriage. Experience is generally viewed a a good thing nowadays. I'm also agnostic so I don't really care what religion has to say about it, and I struggle to believe that God has some special person out there just for me. I'm far too cynical for that. So instead of waiting my whole life for this non existstant perfect person, I'll bone pretty much any girl that wants it. Good day

 

[likalaruku]

I'm a virgin because I'm a germophobe, Trichophobe & a hypochondriac. I will punch any half or fully naked thing that gets within swing distance of my arm. & if it is hairy, I will chase it with a razor.

 

[blackrave]

Well, I answered "No"
In general people can do whatever they want and nobody should give a damn
(especially if noone gets hurt and/or when this isn't related to you)

I personally prefer to wait till marriage (and expect from my future wife similar attitude)
But for different reasons- I don't like opening to just anyone, and short-term relationship isn't worth the emotional discomfort I get from doing so.

 

[miketehmage]

To some of you guys faith is just another lucky dip, even if it is, I'd have plenty of time to learn from my mistakes which is what life is all about.

I'm curious, if you spend your whole life waiting for god to provide you with a partner, then what time is there to learn from that mistake if he didn't provide you with one?

Unless the bible states something like "if god doesn't provide you a partner by the age of 50, screw who you like"

It doesn't.

This means there isn't any time is there?

I don't mean to disrespect your religion, I was baptised and raised catholic, but people, we need to start taking the important lessons from religion, not the ridiculous archaic bullshit that you extreme American Christians seem to practice.

 

[2HF]

What if you save it and your partner saves it and you get married and you both suck at sex!?

Saving your virginity for marriage is ridiculous imo (NOTE THE IMO, don't ***** at me).

Some reasons? I'll give you some.

Seriously, what if you suck at it? What if you suck and can't get better.
What if you simply aren't sexually compatible? Should you be forced to live a sexless existence because your partner can only get off when some light choking is involved and you just aint diggin it?
What if you never get married? Some people die young, some die old, some die old without ever having married. Dying a virgin would suck the big one.
What if you end up divorced? What if you remarry? What if that second marriage was really the one? Does sex from the first marriage count? You CHEATED on the one god intended you to be with. You're a terrible person now!
What if aliens?
What if you get raped? Did god intend for you to marry your rapist? What a dick that guy is! The rapist and god I guess. More god though, he's the one who let it happen. Jerk. Also the rapist may be a woman so... what dick that guy/gal is!

 

[Ljs1121]

In our society, men who are virgins are typically looked upon as weak or inferior, two words which not a lot of people want to have applied to them. Also, I could imagine that having your wife be a virgin would make her wedding night a painful one as opposed to the joy a newlywed is supposed to experience.

I don't really see how either party benefits from saving themselves.

 

[Divine Miss Bee]

come on over to mine, things make much more sense here.

I'm not sure if that was intended to sound lgbt-phobic or if it just came out that way, but....Wow.

lgbt phobic? if the person identifies as a woman, she's a woman. that's not lgbt-phobic. and seeing as i'm a lesbian with an intersexed twin, i doubt i'd be overtly or subconsciously homophobic...perhaps it's one of those things wherein the homophobes tell us what to be offended about? like racists getting all up in arms about how "unconcerned" minorities are about stereotypes?

so, yeah, thanks for the offer, but i'm good!

 

[Leadfinger]

I don't think God cares about who you sleep with. In any event, your future wife would probably appreciate someone that knows whats what between the sheets,

 

[tofulove]

if your really really hot, it may be worth selling it. other than that no.

 

[aba1]

You know, I've come to believe that waiting until you're married to have sex might be among the worst decisions you could make about sex. Think about it for a second: if you're marrying someone, presumably, you should be looking to spend the rest of your life with them. So what if you never have sex before the big day and that night when you do, it's terrible? And what if it's not just first time awkwardness that's the problem, but it just never gets better because you don't mesh well in the bedroom? Sex is a pretty important thing in a marriage, like it or not, so wouldn't you rather find out that it's not going to work before making a very expensive commitment that's a pain in the ass to get out of? I'm not even saying you have to jump the bones of everyone you date, but if you've gotten to the point where asking the person to marry you is a real consideration, it's time to head to the bedroom and start taking off some clothes.

Virginity to me is nothing special. It's not some gift of loyalty or any other thing people tell themselves to convince them that it's important and something to be cherished. A healthy sex life between two people who love each other is far more important, and the only thing being a virgin tells me is the first time's going to be pretty damn awkward, but at least they aren't disease addled I suppose.

I agree a lot of people don't really consider the fact that their partner could be completely incompatible. How much would it suck if she was tight and you were large and you were incapable of having sex without hurting her. If you wait till your married that puts you in a extremely difficult situation where normally you could just break up no hard feelings maybe be friends even.

 

[aba1]

I've thought about this, but too be honest how hard can it actually be? I mean can the other person not give direction? I dunno but I don't see being good at it as that big of a hurtle. I imagine it would be like riding a bike, it's not all that hard to figure out if you've got someone teaching you.

Or I may be wrong eniterly and setting myself up for an extremly embarrassing moment in the future...

I have to agree with this one here. I know that me and my girlfriend have talk about it, and neither of us care how bad the other is going to be, we are not having sex until we are married, and even then only to have children. We dont care how ackward or strange the first time will be...thats not why we will be marrying/married to eachother for. We would be married because we are eachothers best friend and we want to spend time with eachother, specifially the rest of our lives. We already know its going to suck the first time, but it doesnt matter. Nothing on this Earth will get us to have sex until we are married. Hell, she is always saying that one of the things she likes about me is that I DONT think about sex with her, outside of marriage. Hell, even IN marriage, I wouldnt really care about sex. It sucks? Oh well, I guess we will go into the other room and she can punch people while I leave a neat hole in thier skull with a sniper on Borderlands. Or I can help her at Fallout. Or she can watch me tear up the track on Forza Horizon. Problem solved.

Not telling you to push this sorta thing but keep in mind people CAN be completely incompatible sexually. It is possible for a guy to be to large and a girl to tight to be capable of sex without injuring either party. If your young I wouldn't recommend rushing in or nothing but it is a good idea to make sure you do work together before getting married and being stuck.

 

[The Towel Boy]

Someways yes, others no, guys like me see it as "okay we got to get rid of my virginity", while with girls its usually kept until they're drunk, drugged, or feel like this is the "love of their life". As long as its not people I don't care about, fine go have a damn orgy for all I care, but if its someone I do care about, well hell i'm pretty damn mad I didn't get to screw.
Personally, I want my future wife to be tight, even if it hurts a little at first, they'll eventually get used to it. i don't want to marry a skank or someone who's banged another guy.

 

[Smolderin]

Yes, I do think it is worth saving. I grew up in a very traditional family and share many of their values, one of which is saving yourself before marriage. I save myself out of respect of those values, and also because I generally see myself not having a partner for the rest of my life. It may seem like a strange thing to say, but my personality and way of living generally works against the very notion of finding a partner. In a sense, it is almost as if I have nothing to save, cause I have no one to give it to, and will go out of my way to make sure it remains that way...cause that is who I am. But lets just say for curiosities sake that I do find a partner...even if for some reason she begs...it won't happen until after marriage.

 

[BOOM headshot65]

Not telling you to push this sorta thing

Good. Because I can tell you right now that she would slap me if I asked. Again, one of the reasons she loves me is because I DONT ask, unlike other guys my age. Its gotten to where she trust me to touch her because she knows I wont touch her anywhere inappropriote. Like just he other day, we were lying down looking at my iPad, and I put my hand in the area just above her chest but below her neck, and she grabbed my hand, pulled it closer to her, and said to me "thats what I love about you. You dont grab at my chest like other guys would." If I tried asking her for sex and we arent married, I know I would really hurt her. And for what? "Because its fun" "because you may be incompatible." "because for the lolz." Screw that noise. I will keep her trust in me not being some sex obsessed guy who just wants to use her for my own fun.

but keep in mind people CAN be completely incompatible sexually. It is possible for a guy to be to large and a girl to tight to be capable of sex without injuring either party.

Ok, now what are the odds of that actually happening? I would wager at "Slim" to "unlikely". Certainly not enough to break her trust in me and risk getting her pregnant (since abstainince is the only 100% way to avoid unwanted pregnancy).

If your young I wouldn't recommend rushing in or nothing but it is a good idea to make sure you do work together before getting married and being stuck.

Im 19, and shes going to be 19 next month. Both of use have been told numerous times to not marry young, and we will not. We are waiting until I am done with college (when we will be around 23-24). Of course, with how close we are, at this point it would take a divine intervention (or for you athiest, someone successfully dividing by zero), to make us split up.

 

[ffs-dontcare]

Yes, my virginity is well worth saving in my opinion.

I'm saving it for my future spouse or, at the earliest, long-term girlfriend who I have been in a relationship with for at least 9-12 months or longer.

I've already had my first kiss (yes, laugh all you want) taken away by some drunken slag who only seconds earlier told me she thought it was nice that I was choosing not to kiss just any girl (if that makes sense).

I'm not losing my virginity that easily, especially to some drunk slag I met at a party or something.

If I end up with a partner who still happens to be a virgin when we have sex for the first time, then that's a bonus but over-all I'm not that fussed about her virginity. It's my virginity I'm worried about.

There's no such thing as safe sex, but there IS safeR sex.

Also, I'm not really a big fan of partaking in one-night stands. I couldn't develop that sort of attraction to someone unless I actually have real feelings for them and... well, you can guess what the complication here would be.

 

[LordLucan375]

"A woman should be like a good car, fully run in..."

 

[Calvar Draveir]

It's not about the physical act of sex. If that's all it was, there would be no problem. But the thing is, sex comes attached to people. And it's a moment of vulnerability with a person. And I don't care what you say, that means something. It might not mean that you have feelings for them, but that you dissasociate intimacy with feelings because you don't have them. I think that no matter the situation, sex has an effecto n you, and it can be good, bad, or negligible. But from what I've seen, carelessness with sex more often than not leads to bad things.

You all can be responsible, I know it. Choose whatever you want to do, whatever is right for you. But don't treat it carelessly. Think.

If you truly feel that this kind of intimacy is best saved for later, then stay true to that.