Poll: Ladies, Do you want a manly man, or a sweet guy?
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Neither, they'd want one who can multi-task. That way we can fantasise about celebrities WHILE deciding what to eat!
WOW! There are a lot more girls on this site than I would have thought...there's like 6 pages of replies on that thread...good to see. Too many girls I know, even if they play games, wouldn't have enough of an interest to read sites like The Escapist. I salute thee ladies.yoyo13rom said:
From what I see in my friends (I have three male friends and ALL the rest are girls), the insecure ones like the Manly men (the manly men that tend to be a-holes), the domineering ones tend to like the soft cutesy guys and the friends I'd call balanced...well they like the ones who can be all things to all women.
Most likely a good mix of both would be superior to specializing in either. At least that's what I'm going for and it seems to be working, though admittedly I'm better at being sweet.
Either way this is kinda pointless, the only secret bullet to attraction is confidence.
Either way this is kinda pointless, the only secret bullet to attraction is confidence.
You know, people talk about how women want manly men and sweet men at the same time (and that this is an unrealistic expectation), but what guy is ALL manly or ALL sweet ALL the time? As a guy, don't you have sensitive moments AND assertive moments? It's only impossible to be both "kinds" of man if you're concealing part of yourself from her so you look "better" to her. Like, pretending to be stoic because you think she always wants her man to be strong. Besides, there aren't only two types of man to be.
Sure, there are women who have absurd expectations of men, but so what? Ditch those chicks and find the girls from this planet. And as for the claim that women are liars, well... So are a lot of guys. But yeah, I do agree that some women today tend to lie to THEMSELVES about what they want in a man/relationship. Again, maybe popular media and years of gender roles have instilled in them an idealized view of male/female relationships. Maybe they feel like they SHOULD want the more sensitive guy, but in reality are drawn to confident and powerful men. Perhaps they never learned to be honest about things like that.
Just some theorizing.
Sure, there are women who have absurd expectations of men, but so what? Ditch those chicks and find the girls from this planet. And as for the claim that women are liars, well... So are a lot of guys. But yeah, I do agree that some women today tend to lie to THEMSELVES about what they want in a man/relationship. Again, maybe popular media and years of gender roles have instilled in them an idealized view of male/female relationships. Maybe they feel like they SHOULD want the more sensitive guy, but in reality are drawn to confident and powerful men. Perhaps they never learned to be honest about things like that.
Just some theorizing.
Insecure ones you say...Generic_Dave said:
Did I tell you, you gave me a thread idea?
It's about girls matching the low shelf esteem stereotype gamer.
It may sound sexist, but I my only intent was to find out if only guys match the description.
Anyway, my thread probably won't work, and I won't get my answer, but it didn't hurt to try.
Speaking as a guy who gets his fair share of ladies, I can tell you that manly men and sweet guys are not mutually exclusive, nor should they be.capin Rob said:
I'm tough enough to protect the house and the kids and her but sweet enough to romance her and never let her forget that she's loved. A guy who's gonna make it happen has to hit from both sides of the plate on that one.
I'm lucky because I have both, but he's more of a sweet guy. Manly men are just stuck up their own arses :| always posing topless, thinking girls want them. Eurgh.
Only in my experience, I'm not saying all manly men are a-holes, nor are all their girlfriends insecure...I know my best mate is married to a guy who is both manly and sweet and all that other crap, AND he hands my ass to me when we play multi-player, so we now play co-op! :-D (Oh he's one of the 3 mentioned above).yoyo13rom said:
I don't think I'd have low self esteem. But then again who's going to admit to it...do gamers have low self-esteem? How do we judge self-esteem? I mean, I can be quite shy when I meet new people, I sometimes find it hard to hit on girls but that's mainly because I don't want to be annoying people who are just having a night out, but I dance like nobody's watching and really like myself and who I am...so if you're going down that route you need a question that's a criteria, so you won't be comparing apples and oranges...
There can a difference between what a person "goes for" and who they'd date. I mean you can be attracted to a manly man or think they are hot, but not want to date them. I suppose a more sentimental guy always seems better for a long term relationship.
Then again, I put other because the other options were a bit one-dimensional. I highly doubt there are guys who are pure "manly man" or purely "sweet".
Then again, I put other because the other options were a bit one-dimensional. I highly doubt there are guys who are pure "manly man" or purely "sweet".
Umm... sweet guys and manly men have the exact same pheromones. It's true that people exude different pheromones based on whether they're nervous or confident or whatnot, but if you consistently find one kind of guy more physically attractive it's not because of their smell.AstylahAthrys said:
Very true, some of them may believe that they would infinitely prefer to be with a sensitive fellow, but they would instantly fall for a hunkish dick, were he to pay the slightest attention to them.ZephrC said:
