Poll: Love?

[Mordwyl]

I've been through both. The first is a harmful drug which you hate but don't want to get rid of, whereas the other you just don't see the point of it.

Love is an amazing feeling, if reciprocated.

 

[Lexodus]

What is love? Baby don't hurt me. don't hurt me nomore.
now that song shall be stuck in my head all day. and with any luck, it'll be stuck in your head too.

to answer, i would rather love and not be loved in return. to be loved and not love back is a vain and shallow existence, one with no reward or happiness. I would rather feel love, even without a chance of love back, because atleast i get to feel that something, even if it is mixed with dispair.


I've experienced both, and i would much rather be the one in love than the one to be loved

...I hate you. *begins to dance*
If I had to choose between the two, I'd rather the latter, since I've been in the former and was basically trodden on for five years. Now though, I am in love, and am loved in return, and it feels amazing

 

[JokerCrowe]

What is love?

Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.


EDIT: Probably the second one. Even though love is a nice emotion(?), it sucks to know that it's unanswered. (I think, still not sure what it is).
I'd rather have somone else act like a blithering idiot around me than be being that blithering idiot.

 

[Asuka Soryu]

I'm kinda living the latter. ~.~

 

[theevilsanta]

I fully believe you can control who you fall in love with, and really, really should to avoid the first. Love is something you give, not something that's ripped out of you without your permission.

But yeah, I guess I'd vote for the first, even though it sucks. Never loving someone would be a pretty bland existence, in my opinion.

 

[Cowabungaa]

To be loved and not be able to love in return. Hands down, bar none, not remotely worth pondering about. SimuLord said it right:

To love and not be loved in return is purified torture.

Because yes, yes that is entirely true after going through that three times. I have yet to find out how it feels like to be loved.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I believe in love. Hell, if I didn't I'd be screwed, since I tell my gf I love her all the time and mean it. XD

Either option isn't fun, I've been in both situations before, but loving and not being loved in return isn't as bad as peope might think it is, so I take that option.

 

[SimuLord]

To be loved and not be able to love in return. Hands down, bar none, not remotely worth pondering about. SimuLord said it right:

To love and not be loved in return is purified torture.

Because yes, yes that is entirely true after going through that three times. I have yet to find out how it feels like to be loved.

This does, however, leave open the question of what it would be like for the other party if indeed I were loved but couldn't love back, since I'd be inflicting that self-same torture on her. Nasty little catch-22, that.

Although I wonder---knowing I could never love someone back, could I make her feel loved? And would that be enough for her? I'd have no dog in the fight---I'm never going to love in this scenario so it's not like I'd be looking elsewhere...just trying to decide if the illusion could clear my conscience.

Then I remember I've done it before. And the girl sure didn't seem to mind.

 

[Cowabungaa]

To be loved and not be able to love in return. Hands down, bar none, not remotely worth pondering about. SimuLord said it right:

To love and not be loved in return is purified torture.

Because yes, yes that is entirely true after going through that three times. I have yet to find out how it feels like to be loved.

This does, however, leave open the question of what it would be like for the other party if indeed I were loved but couldn't love back, since I'd be inflicting that self-same torture on her. Nasty little catch-22, that.

Although I wonder---knowing I could never love someone back, could I make her feel loved? And would that be enough for her? I'd have no dog in the fight---I'm never going to love in this scenario so it's not like I'd be looking elsewhere...just trying to decide if the illusion could clear my conscience.

Then I remember I've done it before. And the girl sure didn't seem to mind.

As long as you can make her feel that way it doesn't make any difference whether you truly love her or not. It still pumps her brain full of the chemicals that makes one feel all giggedidy when feeling in love.

Cold thing to do though, because if it comes out... oh boy. Better get some Dexter-like skills in putting a mask on.

 

[Estarc]

I could never live with either of those scenarios. To love without it ever being returned would be to die a little each day, and to be loved without having the capacity to return it would crush me with guilt.

 

[S.R.S.]

True love can exist, and it can cease to exist and it can exist again, with different people.

True love isn't an emotion.

True love is mutual understanding.

True love is confirming that you will never ever sacrifice yourself for your loved one, and knowing in return that your loved one would never sacrifice themselves for you. When you die. The love of your life that was continues being that person you loved so much. Not diminished in any way. Because you were both two independent creatures that did not love each other because they feared their own incompleteness, but because they actually loved each other.

True love is admitting all of this to your loved one, and not being seen as a monster in return.

(pwned)

 

[iLikeHippos]

I loved someone. She proved not to love me. In front of my asshole friends. Who laughed at my face with vigor.

So fuck that. I don't love anyone except my family members. I am working well without anyone else. And people already love me though I show nothing back.

So option 2. Which is also my daily life. What a surprise...

MAN that was depressing. ^^

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

Loved but never love. Because hey, thats free sex right there.

 

[Eagle Est1986]

I'm in the second situation and I hate it. My girlfriend adores me and I'm essentially indifferent and whilst it was nice to start with, being loved and not feeling the same way just makes me find her irritating now. She's a sweet girl and I'm going to break her heart soon, I wish there was a way around it but there just isn't.
Right now I'd much rather be experiencing some unrequited love, it's the best kind of love, rarely spoiled.

 

[EmzOLV]

Hearing my partner tell me she loves me lights up my world. She shows it every day, but hearing the words... just does something.

This!
I don't really care if 'love' is somehow scientifically explained and therefore is not the huge big fluffy pink love that everyone kinda expects it should be, but those happy moments like the ones above, does it even make a difference?

I picked would rather love - maybe its because I'm a big mushy emo at heart.

 

[Cowabungaa]

I don't believe in love, but if I did, I would rather be loved.

How can you not believe in it? There isn't much to believe in, it's a certain state of mind caused by certain chemicals. Can't deny that existing.

 

[EmzOLV]

Awww. You big pink, mushy emo, you

OT: I guess I'd rather love, because I know how much it hurts to love someone and not have it returned - don't wanna inflict that on someone.

You know it

And yeah I guess I was always fond of the saying "it's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all"

 

[Palademon]

Be loved but never loved. That way I can get all the positives and be emotionally masochistic about. Win, win.

 

[Tiroe]

Judging by the outcome everyone is selfish.

I have to say, I'm surprised that such a majority picked the second. It's like the options are to be hurt yourself or to hurt someone else, and people pick the latter.

I chose to love and not be loved in return. I have lived the two and I think that this is the least painful. How can you feel good when someone loves you and you can't return that feeling? You feel so guilty... At least when you love, you feel uplifted when you see that person. I think that if you absolutely need to be loved in return, then what you feel is not love, just desire.

I guess I am selfish, but in a different way...

 

[Brandon237]

I had this discussion with a friend at one point, and I look at it this way: 1, you are lonely but not a blimming psychopath, 2 you are popular but you wouldn't care, it would make no impact.

If my personality remained without the love, then probably option 2, I could always just try my best to please someone I got along with.