Poll: Love?

[JoJo]

I'm LIVING the "Be loved but never love" idea.

I refuse to love; as it is a shallow, meaningless emotion, used by our bodies and minds to pass genetic code through generations.

You, sir, have evidently never felt the wonder and happiness that loving someone brings. Also romantic love, which I assume you are talking about, is only one of several different types of love which humans can experience.

OT: Probably best to love someone else, as without having love yourself then you can't experience true contentment.

 

[the rye]

i choose love and not be loved in return. i would not want to put people through that experiance of one sided love, this way the negative experiance is reduced only to me.

 

[Zykon TheLich]

Second maybe but it depends on the details. Never being able to love would be a bit of a bummer but is liveable. Loving someone that doesn't love you back is pretty horrible I would imagine, but I suppose it depends on the situation.
Can you be with them but they just don't have the depth of feeling that you do or do they just blank you? In the first I suppose you could be contented if you could never feel love as you don't really know what you're missing until it happens to you. Even if you did know what you were missing I think living a life with someone that you didn't love but still had a fondness for would still be better than loving someone and having them ignore you completely but compared to loving them and being in a relationship where they still have feelings for you but it's not full on love...no, I'd still prefer number 2, knowing or even thinking that the one you love doesn't reciprocate your feelings to the same level is horrible, drives you nuts.
So, after a lot of waffling, I go for number 2, be loved but never love.

 

[Irony's Acolyte]

Hmm... Is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?

Nope. I'll go with the option that includes me without love. I don't love anyone now and I'd rather not love someone but never be loved in return. Yeah I'd be putting someone else through the same thing, but at least I could do right by them.

 

[vento 231]

I don't believe in love, but if I did, I would rather be loved.

How can you not believe in it? There isn't much to believe in, it's a certain state of mind caused by certain chemicals. Can't deny that existing.

By my own definition, love is a deep caring for someone, which will not expire. You can be with someone your entire life, but you cannot love them forever, your interest will natural fade off. So I don't believe in real love, based on my own interpretation of it.

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

I'd much rather not feel love and receive love than the reverse. Unrequited feelings bug me. Yes, that's hypocritical.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

I really find the "Love is SHALLOW!!! I WILL NEVAR LOVE!!! NEVAAARRRR!!!!!" responses hilarious.

I both laugh at you and pity you, plus you come across as a bit of a dick. Have fun being lonely, but if you'll take that view it's all you deserve (if you don't get horribly proven wrong at some point, which is likely).

I vote second. I can still have fun and things, but the first situation is really, really shit.

 

[eljawa]

some of the responses here make me sad

 

[ArchBlade]

Love and not be loved in return.

It's kind of my current situation anyway, I've grown accustomed to it.

 

[Yureina]

Be loved but not be able to feel it.

That's a place i've been. Its... painful, but its not as bad as the alternative.

 

[Outright Villainy]

Eh, how about love for everyone?

FUCK YOU THREAD I'M NOT MAKING DIFFICULT DECISIONS!

*covers ears and sings loudly*

 

[Admiral Stukov]

I've seen them both, and honestly they are equally bad.
But if I have to choose I suppose I'll take Be loved but never love. With a frozen heart one does not feel pain.

 

[Cowabungaa]

I don't believe in love, but if I did, I would rather be loved.

How can you not believe in it? There isn't much to believe in, it's a certain state of mind caused by certain chemicals. Can't deny that existing.

By my own definition, love is a deep caring for someone, which will not expire. You can be with someone your entire life, but you cannot love them forever, your interest will natural fade off. So I don't believe in real love, based on my own interpretation of it.

Actually, that too is, well, pretty much fact. Love does change over years. That initial stage does fade and is often replaced by a certain kind of trust and comfort. Love's a complex thing, makes sense as it's produced by the as complex human body.

 

[AppleShrapnel]

I lived option A many times growing up... it might have been "purified torture" at the time, but in hindsight, I was growing up and into my hormones. It's all kinda silly and embarassing now.

Guess about six years ago I went through option B. She was what many would probably call a "crazy-psycho *****". Had she been margianally attractive, I may have at least pursued a shallow, physical relationship, but... well, no dice there. Anyhoo, we had nothing in common, and I honestly have no idea what she saw in me. :|

Since then I've pretty much made myself a husk, as far as love goes. Not giving up on it entirely; I'm relatively sure there's someone out there like me with just re-arranged chromosomes...

>_>

<_<

I'm not as bitter and cynical as I may seem... honest.