Poll: My mom's trying to take away MY computer

[Jabberwock xeno]

Give her all of her parts, keep all of yours.

 

[Knusper]

I'd have thought that is what a Mum might do to a twelve year-old, let alone a legal adult; tell her to stop treating you like a child. If she persists, do what the other Escapists are telling yo and take out everything that you bought, and give back the case and disk drive, telling her she can have it back.

 

[Woodsey]

If you still live in her house and it was originally hers, its hers. Also whats with all these "my mom is" threads today?

He's bought a new computer. It's his.

 

[Rockchimp69]

Either take her to court if you can be bothered, or just simply remove all the parts which belong to you and giver her back the CD drive, the empty case and a memory stick with those 3 programs on it

 

[Communist partisan]

Let me put this in perspective and keep it short...

This is MY computer
I built it
I paid for the parts
almost every piece of this is MINE!

...my mom says that it's hers and she allows me to use it, and she constantly threatens to take it away!

Sure it was hers originally... but after she killed it with a virus and said "you can have it" and I replaced EVERY PART OF IT. she wants it back?

Mind you Yes I'll admit, the Plastic Shell casing and the CD-drive are hers... but the DVD drive, the RAM, the processor, the video card, the motherboard, the speakers, the headset, the hard drive, and 99% of the installed files (everything but Bookworm, The Sims, and WordPerfect)

ARE MINE! and came out of MY POCKET

...note I'm 18

another note, yes I did feel like posting this after reading about that kid and his facebook problem with his mom

...oh and the anti-virus software that keeps finding things from her facebook clicking is also mine, and she dosen't even know how to use the anti-virus software, she thinks "It works by itself and scans every day"

...yeah well WHO set it to do that?

remove th parts that are hers replace them whith new ones and give her parts back and tell her to fuck off (I would

or tell her that the computer don't have any of the orginal parts left and that you bought all new parts whith your own money and if she take it say you will call the cops on her for stealing and you are acculy able to do that beacose your 18 and she can't deside over you or your stuff anymore

or yust say she gave it to you and that you put a lot of money on making it to a hole new computer and that she will stop being a greedy ***** that want the computer back than she noticed it's better than her new one and it's really low to want something back from her son so she can feel better

Pretty offencive advices? yes, but offence is the best deffence and than she notices you got some balls in you and directly confront her she will probably stop than she notice she got no chanse to win over your will.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

No way. I'm sure she will say "I said he could USE my old computer if he got it working, I never told him to upgrade it or that I'd pay for those upgrades". Still hers if that's what she said, % of parts really doesn't matter, title is hers.

Yeah, the title might be hers for the case and CD driver but not for the rest of the computer since each individual part has its own title. Therefor, if she attempts to take the computer it can legally be considered theft.

If you still live in her house and it was originally hers, its hers. Also whats with all these "my mom is" threads today?

What's with people and this "house" bullshit. We're not talking about the house here, we're talking about the computer. The house might be hers, and he might be living there but that does not give her the title to everything in it. The most she can do is kick him out but giving that he's not an adult yet(it's 21 in the States, right?)that won't work out well either.

 

[V8 Ninja]

It's yours. She gave it to you, you fixed it, and you invested a huge amount of money into it. Nothing about it is hers. As for how to deal with the problem, there are a few methods of getting to a solid conclusion...

The Nice/Hard Option: Explain how a computer works, that you fixed it by buying new parts, and let her understand that YOU are letting HER use it. Make it known that she gave it to you and you have the right to boot her off the computer if you need to do something.

The Easy Option: Haul it up to your room, making everything password protected, and then lock your door. Just make sure she doesn't get anywhere near it. It's worked for me on several occasions with different electronics.

The Asshole Option: Buy yourself a new case and CD/DVD drive, install all the parts you bought and the new CD/DVD drive into the new case, and hand her back the old case and drive. While the "Here's your computer, b****." is completely optional, I would highly recommend against it.

 

[ThreeWords]

Cut off her head & put it in the freezer.

That's what I do when my mum pisses me off.

That'll teach the ***** a lesson

OT: Just take out every bit that belongs to you and give her what she owns. If she still insists on being difficult, buy the remaining sections and the question of who owns it is solved.

 

[Cupid]

Why not share it?

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

1) Take out your parts from the PC(not in that way you sick bastards)
2) Buy new case and disk drive
3) Tell your mum to suck it
4) ????????
5) Profit!

 

[Onyx Oblivion]

It's yours, plus since your legally an adult you can just tell her no.

And she can legally kick him out of the house, too.

 

[Cowabungaa]

If you still live in her house and it was originally hers, its hers. Also whats with all these "my mom is" threads today?

So every gift you give is still yours?

Give her an empty case and a cd drive and say "Heres your computer".

If she actualy takes it away add passwords to EVERYTHING (and write them down somewhere) and use the most confusing settings options on your computer.

I agree with this, just take out everything that's yours, give her her own parts back and buy a case yourself.

It's yours, plus since your legally an adult you can just tell her no.

And she can legally kick him out of the house, too.

At least over here, a parent is legally responsible for his/her child until he/she's 21, so I'm not so sure about that.

 

[Icarion (aka Stockholm)]

Go through the most complicated and convoluted explanation ever of how your computer and computers in general work. Then give her like 500 steps to do after start up and a reason to do each of them. I think I've done this before to my siblings, but I can't remember the exact event. She will never go near it. As soon as people see how hard things are they often give up.

 

[RobCoxxy]

I really cannot say what hasn't already been said so i guess this is really just

/thread

But I do agree with most people, it is yours and you did practically build it. If your mother tries to claim ownership of it have an intelligent conversation or just pick it up and walk out of the house with it and either:

1) Smash it on the ground and laugh in her face.
2) Say "I paid for the drink holders of the car, they're mine now!" and drive away.
3) Move into your own apartment and never look back.
4) Do option one but then say "Oops, butterfingers" then laugh.
5) roll on the ground screaming "It's mine" and "Why didn't you just have an abortion!"
6) rip out the parts that are hers and throw them at her house.
7) give her the case of the computer with rocks or something inside so it feels heavy, then leave and wait for her to get pissed about you stealing.
8) Spit in her eye and walk away.

I personally like number 3 and 1 but it is your choice.

I like your style. Although there's not enough use of burning things here.

 

[Shock and Awe]

Buy a new case and CD-drive, then.

I like that, when she threatens to take it again just giver her back everything that she bought.

 

[Crimsane]

Therumancer has the right track. Parents don't stop parenting just because you turned 18. You're obviously doing something she sees to be unhealthy for you.

The fact that you came here to rant about it makes me wonder if it's simply spending too long on the internet and shirking responsibilities.

Solutions? Passive-aggressive idiocy and poor jokes spewn here typical of internet posts aside, moving out is a decent solution. Then you'll have to take care of yourself, attend to responsibilities like bills promptly and generally gain a whole new appreciation for everything you didn't have to do when you lived at home.

 

[DuctTapeJedi]

Do what I used to do when my sister would try to take my stuff when we were kids. Just lick the computer. Then your mom will be too grossed out to touch it.

Seriously, though, just try having a rational discussion with her.

I should edit the post and add some things

all rational discussions end in her getting mad and yelling and going on about it being "her" computer, and end in her threatening to take it away if I don't say she's right and I'm wrong

EDIT: and this has been going on for a year now (got the computer upgraded fully at 17)

Ah, the "crazy mom." It all makes sense now.
Sorry, I can't offer any advice, I've been trying to figure out how to deal with irrational moms for almost 22 years.

 

[Liberaliter]

Wow, man up and stand up to your mom. What's wrong with you? You're 18 man.

 

[Macgyvercas]

It may be your computer, but if your mother is paying the electric bill, she kinda has you on a leash. My mother has me on that one. She's never actually followed through though.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

The question is, why is she threatening to take it away?
I doubt she is doing it just to be a *****

Surprised no one asked this yet.

Yeah, I'm beginning to wonder if this isn't just some kid whining about how his mom is actually punishing him for once.

Yup, right here. This whole...let's say "story" seems very one-sided.

Also, it's hers because no matter how old you are, you are still living in the house she's paying for. Technically, she owns everything in it. I'm 19, and I understand this concept. If you don't like it, move out.

So if I left something at a friends house he/she parents would own it since they own everything in the house? Sounds a bit odd.

*facepalm*

No, they wouldn't, because you don't LIVE in their house. Look, this is a really simple concept. She pays for your food, shelter, etc, so you have to follow her rules or move out. I can't believe you've gone this long without anyone explaining this to you.