Poll: My mom's trying to take away MY computer

[MrTub]

The question is, why is she threatening to take it away?
I doubt she is doing it just to be a *****

Surprised no one asked this yet.

Yeah, I'm beginning to wonder if this isn't just some kid whining about how his mom is actually punishing him for once.

Yup, right here. This whole...let's say "story" seems very one-sided.

Also, it's hers because no matter how old you are, you are still living in the house she's paying for. Technically, she owns everything in it. I'm 19, and I understand this concept. If you don't like it, move out.

So if I left something at a friends house he/she parents would own it since they own everything in the house? Sounds a bit odd.

*facepalm*

No, they wouldn't, because you don't LIVE in their house. Look, this is a really simple concept. She pays for your food, shelter, etc, so you have to follow her rules or move out. I can't believe you've gone this long without anyone explaining this to you.

That wasn't what you were saying before, you said that his parents owns everything in the house even if they didn't buy it. And yes I understand that if you live at home then you should follow theirs rules, and I will be paying rent as soon as Im done with my studies and I will continue to do that untill I find an own place.

 

[Assassinscreed548]

be like: aww mom, im sorry...and buy her a shitty laptop...she wont even know the difference. she will be like: oh thank you! and you will shut her up

 

[KefkaCultist]

heres what you do:
1) Strip it of everything that you paid for
2) give her the casing and cd drive
3) buy yourself a casing and cd drive
4) re-build computer
5) party?

there ya go, a computer that is 100% yours, and your mom gets what she owns
[small]Warning: may cause mother to become extremely pissed[/small]

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

Keep all the parts you own then.

 

[Sinspiration]

It sounds like one of those "I'm trying to be clever" questions.

"If you replace the broken handle of a hammer then later replace the hammerhead. Is it any longer the same hammer?"
The answer is no its not. You can fool yourself philosophically into saying it is all you want, the simple truth of it is, if all the material is different, then the old hammer is scrap and the Hammer is simply object to some human attachment that makes you think its still the same one.

In this regard, considering how much work you've put into that computer I'd say its yours pure and simple, regardless of the case or DVD player. Tell her to get a laptop or something and go screw that over.

 

[DarthFennec]

Also, it's hers because no matter how old you are, you are still living in the house she's paying for. Technically, she owns everything in it. I'm 19, and I understand this concept. If you don't like it, move out.

... That's just ridiculous. Sorry, but if this is what your mom is telling you she's lying to you dude 9_9

OT: It's yours, except the case and CD. Give those back if she insists. She won't understand about the rest of it and she'll insist on that too probably. If it gets too bad you can probably take it to court.

As if you want to, or should. I'm not suggesting court. Frankly, I think your relationship with your mom is more important than your computer. Go talk to her, figure out why she's upset. If you already know why she's upset, then go rectify it. She must be mad at you for a reason, and that reason must be something you're doing. So stop fucking doing it, it's that simple, isn't it.

 

[quhouv vhqwiufv qwiu]

Install TrueCrypt and encrypt the hard drive. Then she will need to know a pre boot authentication password to be able to do anything.

 

[Super Toast]

You're 18, which means you can tell her no. So say no.

 

[Eric_Autopsy]

Buy a new casing for yourself and give her the parts that SHE owns.

 

[TheSEPH88]

Buy a new case and CD-drive, then.

I agree with this. It really is the best solution. After that she has nothing on you.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Also, it's hers because no matter how old you are, you are still living in the house she's paying for. Technically, she owns everything in it. I'm 19, and I understand this concept. If you don't like it, move out.

... That's just ridiculous. Sorry, but if this is what your mom is telling you she's lying to you dude 9_9

I feel like I should clarify what I meant. I didn't mean that by LAW all the stuff in the house belongs to her, I just meant that since he lives under her roof, he has to follow her rules. Effectively, everything she wants, she gets.

 

[Ham_authority95]

Let me put this in perspective and keep it short...

This is MY computer
I built it
I paid for the parts
almost every piece of this is MINE!

...my mom says that it's hers and she allows me to use it, and she constantly threatens to take it away!

Sure it was hers originally... but after she killed it with a virus and said "you can have it" and I replaced EVERY PART OF IT. she wants it back?

Mind you Yes I'll admit, the Plastic Shell casing and the CD-drive are hers... but the DVD drive, the RAM, the processor, the video card, the motherboard, the speakers, the headset, the hard drive, and 99% of the installed files (everything but Bookworm, The Sims, and WordPerfect)

ARE MINE! and came out of MY POCKET

...note I'm 18

another note, yes I did feel like posting this after reading about that kid and his facebook problem with his mom

...oh and the anti-virus software that keeps finding things from her facebook clicking is also mine, and she dosen't even know how to use the anti-virus software, she thinks "It works by itself and scans every day"

...yeah well WHO set it to do that?

You're 18. It's only matter of months until you move out. I think you can deal with this for now.

 

[Shadow-Phoenix]

*snip*

Did I mention that...
*guru voice* I AM AN ADULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLT!|


(I hope someone gets that joke)

Toally do bro but what about

Guru: "Nail gather the rest dragonballs to wish for a plasma screen tv.
Nail: "Lord guru that would be a grievious misuse of their powers...".
Guru: " I'm about to misuse my hand upside your head!".

 

[Dastardly]

Let me put this in perspective and keep it short...

This is MY computer
I built it
I paid for the parts
almost every piece of this is MINE!

...my mom says that it's hers and she allows me to use it, and she constantly threatens to take it away!

Sure it was hers originally... but after she killed it with a virus and said "you can have it" and I replaced EVERY PART OF IT. she wants it back?

Mind you Yes I'll admit, the Plastic Shell casing and the CD-drive are hers... but the DVD drive, the RAM, the processor, the video card, the motherboard, the speakers, the headset, the hard drive, and 99% of the installed files (everything but Bookworm, The Sims, and WordPerfect)

ARE MINE! and came out of MY POCKET

...note I'm 18

another note, yes I did feel like posting this after reading about that kid and his facebook problem with his mom

...oh and the anti-virus software that keeps finding things from her facebook clicking is also mine, and she dosen't even know how to use the anti-virus software, she thinks "It works by itself and scans every day"

...yeah well WHO set it to do that?

Being 18 buys you nothing. Actually, at this point, it's a liability.

She's in charge of the house, you're under her roof, using who-knows-what-else of hers (car? We don't know your sitch.). And because you're 18, she could stop that at basically any moment. If you're not paying rent--and I mean rent, not occasionally buying some groceries--then you're living more on her dime than you might think. Don't be in such a hurry to challenge the ruler of the roost.

Something you haven't told us, though, is why she keeps threatening to take it away. That's some important information if we're to make any kind of reasonable judgement in this situation. If you're already not playing by her rules, you're digging your own grave... unless of course you're ready to move out and support yourself, in which case you should.

Bottom line, her house. No ifs, ands, or buts. Until you've got it under your own roof and your name is on all of the bills, none of it really belongs to you. Sad fact of being an 18-year-old kid.

 

[GrizzlerBorno]

Just pull the SATA cables out of you're hard drives and go say "take it". that's what i would do anyway.

 

[orangecharger]

Let me put this in perspective and keep it short...

This is MY computer
... almost every piece of this is MINE!
... she constantly threatens to take it away!
... MINE! ... MY POCKET

...note I'm 18

Ok. Well since you are 18. Perhaps it's time to move out. What's that you say, you can't pay rent somewhere, pay for the electricity to run your computer, buy all your clothes and school supplies, and have money for food too...

Now is your Mom doing it for spite and you are a model citizen with top grades and never getting into shit -- or is your Mom threatening it to control your behavior when you step out of line. Knowing that you will lose your shit if she takes it away makes it seem like a pretty good tactic so far.

If it's spite only, I am on your side. I then recommend you get yourself a new case and cd drive and hand her back what is left of her original computer.

If she has a valid reason to make the threat... then given what else she pays for in your life monthly, yearly, it's her computer and I side with her.

 

[Ralen-Sharr]

#1 I'd say it's yours since 90% of the components came out of your pocket. I'd replace the remaining parts to make it 100% yours and remove any claim anyone else can make to it.

#2 This argument sounds very strange to me. Yes, it's her house, but also you're old enough that you have your own stuff and others should respect what is not theirs. IMO while she may not be in the "right" to take away the computer since it's yours (mostly), it's her house and she can kick you out.

After you make it 100% yours, explain to her that you paid for all of the parts of that computer and it would REALLY help your case if you had all the old parts to show her and tell her you can put those parts back together for hers.

 

[DarthFennec]

I feel like I should clarify what I meant. I didn't mean that by LAW all the stuff in the house belongs to her, I just meant that since he lives under her roof, he has to follow her rules. Effectively, everything she wants, she gets.

That doesn't mean she owns his computer. All it means is she can kick him out any time if he doesn't do what she wants. But his computer still belongs to him.