Poll: No children: a turn-off?
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I want kids. I'd like several of them. And I'm not going to enter a relationship with someone who want zero kids.
It definitely would, but then I reject part of your premise; I would never date anyone I wouldn't consider long-term plans with and certainly never anyone I could already tell isn't the "one". So under that premise, I don't think it would be too much of a problem. That said, as much as I don't particularly feel like caring for children now, older me would almost certainly not have that reluctance. Same as for most of the voters here, I believe; Late-teenage to early-twenty year old males are not usually all that enthusiastic about kids. and that is the major demographic here. That will change for a lot of people as they get older, though.
Girl here, and it'd be a turn on. I started dating a guy who'd broken up with his ex because she wanted them to move in together and have kids. Great, I thought, we're on the same page. About a year later he started dropping subtle hints about him wanting to have them and I felt seriously disappointed.
I don't get why people have such a hard time imagining that kids aren't the dream of every woman out there. I don't like them, I wouldn't have the time for them and I don't want them. I'm not even sure I'd be a good parent at all.
I don't get why people have such a hard time imagining that kids aren't the dream of every woman out there. I don't like them, I wouldn't have the time for them and I don't want them. I'm not even sure I'd be a good parent at all.
Well, if I know that I'd never want to have children with this person then I don't see why it would affect the relationship.
I'd like to have kids someday but not with every Tom, Dick (hurrhurr) and Harry that comes along. Women don't enter every relationship thinking 'Babies, babies, babies, babies.' If it's just a casual relationship I don't see it mattering too much.
I'd like to have kids someday but not with every Tom, Dick (hurrhurr) and Harry that comes along. Women don't enter every relationship thinking 'Babies, babies, babies, babies.' If it's just a casual relationship I don't see it mattering too much.
I honestly could never trust myself to raise a child. having aspergers, i lack most of the core ability to appear loving and i don't think i'd honestly want to raise a child having them believe i care nothing for them just because it's the way my mind works.
i do realise this probably makes very little sense, it's difficult to explain.
As a disclaimer, i think i'd have to say that being relatively young my opinion is highly likely to be subject to change later on in life.
Edit: i guess i could also add in the fact that i generally do not like children at all anyway. especially babies. although i'd still say the above disclaimer could still be applied to this as well.
i do realise this probably makes very little sense, it's difficult to explain.
As a disclaimer, i think i'd have to say that being relatively young my opinion is highly likely to be subject to change later on in life.
Edit: i guess i could also add in the fact that i generally do not like children at all anyway. especially babies. although i'd still say the above disclaimer could still be applied to this as well.
I want kids ultimately. When that happens is up to me and the lady, it is her vagina after all. But I wouldn't want to date someone and fall in love only to have to break up over something I knew about going into the relationship. I wouldn't ask her to change for me and I wouldn't want to change for her. As for adoption I'm meh on it. My best friend is adopted and he says it basically sucks until you learn to cope with it which he did...at age 24.
If I met a girl who didn't want kids? Sure, I'd be able to deal with it. I doubt it would affect my attraction of her if she really was "the one".
Honestly, I'm almost 19 and the prospect of even settling down with a girl baffles my mind. Not that I desire to be a loose cannon throughout my years, it's just that I still feel like a kid. I love kids, but imagining having my own? Freaks me out.
Honestly, I'm almost 19 and the prospect of even settling down with a girl baffles my mind. Not that I desire to be a loose cannon throughout my years, it's just that I still feel like a kid. I love kids, but imagining having my own? Freaks me out.
Yeah, that would be a massive turn off for me.
I'm fine either way. If she wants to have kids; cool. If she doesn't that's fine too. If I have a problem with that down the road I'll donate sperm.
I'm fine either way, if she wants them then cool if she doesn't fine, it is the same with getting married. I would also rather adopt then get her pregnant if she does want kids.
If my husband had told me early in our relationship that he did not want children in future and was fairly certain he would not change is mind then I would have ended the relationship before it got to serious, as I knew from an early age that I wanted to have children at some point.
If they ever, and I mean EVER want children, they might as well be invisible to me.
The desire to have children is one of the biggest turn-offs imaginable.
The desire to have children is one of the biggest turn-offs imaginable.
Why in the world would I waste my time in a "commited" relationship if I didn't think they were "the one"? Why waste your time on someone you KNOW isn't?Jonluw said:
