What I mean is, they get to have the option of moving forward or not moving forward. This isn't an option for a murder victim.Casual Shinji said:I doubt they get to decide that anymore than someone who's had a traumatic childhood gets to. Some things mark you for life and will negatively influence your day-to-day life and interactions with others for the rest of your life.Lightknight said:At least a rape victim gets to decide if they want to move forward from it.
It's easy to say someone can just move on with their life, because hey, they're still alive. But would you say the same to someone who'd lost both their arms and legs?
People make it past rape all the time. Most of the time even. People with a traumatic childhood do too. Do you know what people never make it past their event or even have the option to not move past? People who are murdered. That's who.
Don't try to pretend that people experiencing trauma don't have more freedom over themselves than people who are dead. That's ridiculous. The person who kills makes the last decision that will ever be made for the person in their life. A person who rapes steals time from the person, potentially injures them, and traumatizes them but there is a day after and a very real road to recovery if they're willing to traverse it.
Am I honestly the only person insulted here? That people are saying rape victims are better off dead? I mean, holy crap. What a devaluation of people who have been raped. I mean, are we really so gung ho about elevating the status of the crime above murder that we're willing to write off its victims?
Yes, crimes are relative. But a person who was raped usually recovers. Committing a crime from which a person never and cannot recover is the ultimate crime. Compared to that, anything else may only be penultimate at best.