I have seen my male friends targeted as well when we were out from guys trying to pick a fight with them, although something I noticed when that happened sometimes, they didn't target the guys that were with other guys as much as they targeted guys that were with girls, just as in your circumstance. What exactly was it that provoked them? I always have wondered when that happens is what would have happened if it had just been the girls there? Are they targeting the male like they are competing for females as other species do in mating? I saw this happen so frequently when I was bartending in college, they targeted guys with girls far more frequently than targeting guys on their own or guys with other guys. Now I can understand why they would not want to target guys with other guys because they would be worried about their friends jumping in, but the fact that they most often targeted guys with girls with them made me wonder why that was, if it was jealousy and if the male had not been accompanying them would they have just continue to sexually harass the women instead?Digi7 said:I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry you've had to go through all that in your life. I hope you're alright.Lil devils x said:I too unfortunately, was violently raped before the age of 14 by a 24 yr old man I had never spoken to. I Have had other family members raped as well as many friends. Hell, one girl in my school was gang raped in the parking lot during a football game and nothing was ever done about it although the whole damn community knew about it at the time. People heard her screaming for help and no one would help her.
* I had many other things I consider minor in comparison happen, such as guys pull down my skirt, grab my breasts, put their hands in my clothing, undo my bra, Rub their junk on me through their clothes, even had a complete stranger come up take it out of his pants and rub his penis on my leg once when out with friends watching a game at a sports pub which then caused the pub to erupt into a fight when both one of my friends and the bartender who saw him do it went to tackle the guy.
* I was picked up at a concert by a big guy I didn't know and passed and thought I was going to die and had guys intentionally groping me as I begged to be put down. I have had many guys pick me up into the air and carry me around against my will.
* I had another guy I went to school with come over to my apartment uninvited grab my wrists in my apartment and tried to hold me down, but managed to fight him off and get him out of my apartment thanks to a friend opening the door.
* I had 2 men in a truck try to drag me into their truck while walking when I was 19 and I lost my jacket over that one.
*I had an ex try to kill me, and he was luckily finally put into prison when he stabbed my neighbor who saved my life.
*I have had guys stalk me, and that is really scary too. There have been times I parked next to a police car due to guys following me to make them leave, once I had to get an officer to make a guy go away that was still following me even after parking next to the police, the police didn't even scare him off at first, then the officer who had responded and followed me home " for my safety" left flowers and a note on my front door asking me out the next day.
* I had my apartment broken in to and pictures of me and panties stolen.
* I had a peeping tom incident I didn't even know about until a neighbor informed me the next day that she had called the cops because of a man staring in my window the night before.
* I had a weird guy masturbating staring at me in his car once while at the pool, MANY guys online sending me unsolicited pictures of their penis and them masturbating and countless sexual comments in games.
* I had guys take my pictures from a fan site and make a mouse roll over where my clothes fell off.
*I did tell a guy that if he came over here it would be the last thing he did and sent him a picture of my glock 40 once after he sent me a picture of my street sign and said he gets off to choking women.
I am sure I probably forgot something there but tried to include what I could remember off the top that I thought would qualify.
I'm a male. I've definitely been in danger because of my gender, but it was nothing sexually related. I was walking two female friends home once late at night after they had been drinking. They were being really fucking stupid, as you do. A bunch of scummy blokes in a car rolled up and slowed down to coast next to us, revved their engine really loudly and yelled some things out the window at us. The girls I was with called them faggots and gave them the finger. At this point I started to get scared. I'm a horrifically anxious guy at the best of times and this was like a nightmare for me as they pulled in at the side of the road ahead of us. I told my friends to just keep walking and not give them any notice. At this point in my life I was quite a steady self-harmer and carried a small knife around pretty much everywhere (ilegally, I might add, and it was pretty damn stupid to take it out drinking). Luckily I didn't have to try and use it because they just called me some names as I walked past, threw a bottle at me and drove off. They didn't take much notice of the girls when they were looking for a fight, they were solely targeted on me as the male. I'm lucky they didn't get out and curbstomp me or force me to try and flail around at them with a pocket knife.
Sexually, I've had unwanted advances and contact as I'm sure most people have, mostly at parties where people's heads are clouded by substances. That's about the extent of it.
Males have more instances of guys trying to fight them whereas females have more instances of guys trying to impose their sexual advances on them. When we are also looking at how they also frequently target males accompanying females as well, I wonder if that too is not also sexual aggression manifesting itself in another form as well. If they just wanted to fight, they could have found a guy by himself without having witnesses, but I have noticed they target males with females much more frequently as well.