Poll: Should parents have to pay back their kids

[Flare Phoenix]

Probably been said already, but there is a huge difference between stealing and borrowing. Your mother is taking money from you without your constent with no intention of ever giving it back to you. Even if she did intend to give it back, it's still wrong to take it without asking.

This whole "it's the parents house so they should be able to treat the child as poorly as they like and if the child doesn't like it tough luck" really needs to go out the window. I'm sick and tired of hearing that as a valid argument. There is a HUGE difference between a parent setting rules and boundries, and a parent abusing their child. It sickens me that some people seem to think the two are one in the same.

And really? We're going to pull the "they raised you" card? The parents are supposed to take care of the child, not the other way around. Just because parents have to support their children until they are able to get a job does not mean the child has any obligation to pay the parents back when they have the money to do so.

 

[kasperbbs]

That has never happened to me, but if my mom needs money i just give it to her and don't ask to get it back, we live in the same house and we share the expenses for food, rent and taxes so i would feel like a douche if i didn't pitch in. And if you really want to keep that cash just put it somewhere safe, like a bank.

 

[Knight Captain Kerr]

Yes they should have to pay back. It is theft unless you agree to give them money as a gift without them having to pay them back before they take the money.

 

[Kuchinawa212]

Yes. That's how money works. You barrow some, you owe it back.
You lend it, you should get it back.
I say take it back!

 

[Blow_Pop]

yes they should. Especially when said kid has a job and their own bills to pay. My parents pay me back when they borrow money. My mom makes me go pick her up from work and stuff and take her on errands(since my dad and i are the only two with cars) and she repays my gas that she uses. Or I just let her take my car cause I'm too lazy to go out. Or its too hot. But then I also have the rule in my car of you better be paying me gas money if I'm taking you somewhere cause gas is too expensive right now.

 

[hurfdurp]

Just a stay at home mom . I think she should at least inform you that she is going to take some of your money. It would probably be nice if she were to give it back as well, but I don't think a couple of dollars here and there really tips the scales of balance too far in her favour, since she is presumably doing so much for you just on the basis that you are her child.

 

[interspark]

if they can't afford to pay you back then they should just not give you the money in the first place, there's no justification for stealing it, even if they are your parents

 

[AngryNerd]

Of course. If I barrow money from my parents, they expect me to pay them back.

 

[Master Kuja]

That "their house, their rules" argument holds absolutely no water when stealing is involved, hell, even if a parent borrows money from their child, it should always be paid back in full because that's how borrowing works.
If a parent "borrows" money and doesn't pay it back, yeah...That's not borrowing, that's taking something that isn't theirs, and guess what? Also stealing.

If it's a small amount, I don't mind so much. If my mum or step-dad needs to borrow a hundred or two for a week, then sure, that's fine, so long as it gets paid back. If they need a 10, then that's fine and I don't mind so much if it doesn't get paid back.
But if a parent says that they'll return the money, and then doesn't? There's a problem there.

 

[PeacanPie]

I've never had a problem with it and since I moved out there's never really been a situation where my parents have borrowed my money. They live in another country, it's a little hard.

Regardless, when I lived with them my parents would often borrow money because I have an irrational hatred for banks and kept most of my money at home in various 'safe spots', so when they needed money they'd take it.

My dad would sort of try and see how much he could give back before I'd forget that he owed me more. So if he owed me 40, he'd put down 10 at a time on the table, staring at me. Never fooled me, but I'm pretty sure it was in good fun.

Anyway, I think that they should pay back, especially if its money you earn. Because lets face it, parents should be teaching good habits. And not paying back is not a good habit. Taking without asking is especially wrong, if you're trying to grow up and start getting your own money, they shouldn't just be taking it from you. I'd have a few words.

 

[Bobbity]

Looks like I kind of fucked up what I was trying to say, so I'll have another shot.

The parents are in every way obligated to pay their child back. The idea that they can simply take money from their children is abhorrent, no matter the previous history between the two.

However, if the child were to choose to let their parents off the hook - taking into consideration the money spent by their parents with no expectation of return, and for the sole benefit of the child - then that would also be acceptable.

So long as the choice remains in the hands of the child, then the outcome, whatever it may be, is acceptable.

Spoiler: Original post.

If they're borrowing money off of you - money that you earned - then yes, they should give it back.

Before you take the moral high ground though, try and visualise exactly how much money they've spent on you, with no expectation of ever getting it back. If they do it too often, then yeah, sure, try and get repaid. If it's reasonably uncommon though, think about letting them off the hook.

 

[Riff Moonraker]

I dont mean to sound bad, but I honestly havent heard of parents borrowing from the children before. Mind you, my children arent old enough to have a job or anything, but I would still never consider borrowing money from them. If I got to that point, I would simply have to get a second job.

 

[GrandmaFunk]

either hide your money better or tell your mom to stop stealing your money(that's what 'taking without permission' is, after all) or you'll just quit your job.

ask her what reason you have for working if she just takes your gains?

 

[Flare Phoenix]

If they're borrowing money off of you - money that you earned - then yes, they should give it back.

Before you take the moral high ground though, try and visualise exactly how much money they've spent on you, with no expectation of ever getting it back. If they do it too often, then yeah, sure, try and get repaid. If it's reasonably uncommon though, think about letting them off the hook.

No No No No No No No No No No No!!!

Just because a parent raises a child does not mean the parent should be entitled to any money from said child. What you're suggesting is removing a child's basic right to feel safe and secure in their own enviroment. If you allow parents to take just a little bit of money from their child, where does it end? "Sorry Timmy, I had to sell all your clothes because I wanted to go see a movie and have dinner at an expensive restuarant". For that matter, what is that teaching the child? If they want something they can simply take it regardless of how the proper owner feels about it?

 

[FamoFunk]

Depends - If they can pay you back, great! Like when they cannot get to an ATM or something for now or are just a little bit short for something.

If it's because they're struggling with a bill or the car and ask you for money, you shouldn't really expect it back. I bet they've lent you enough growing up you've not given back, not to mention stuff like a house and food.

But in an ideal world, it would be nice if everything could be owed back.

 

[Bobbity]

If they're borrowing money off of you - money that you earned - then yes, they should give it back.

Before you take the moral high ground though, try and visualise exactly how much money they've spent on you, with no expectation of ever getting it back. If they do it too often, then yeah, sure, try and get repaid. If it's reasonably uncommon though, think about letting them off the hook.

No No No No No No No No No No No!!!

Just because a parent raises a child does not mean the parent should be entitled to any money from said child. What you're suggesting is removing a child's basic right to feel safe and secure in their own enviroment. If you allow parents to take just a little bit of money from their child, where does it end? "Sorry Timmy, I had to sell all your clothes because I wanted to go see a movie and have dinner at an expensive restuarant". For that matter, what is that teaching the child? If they want something they can simply take it regardless of how the proper owner feels about it?

That's not what I was saying...

I was saying that the parents should pay the child back, and that that should be the status quo. If, however, the child chooses to forgive their parents the debt, then that is acceptable too, so long as it's still the decision of the child. I just added some further justification because it pisses me off whenever my sister marches right up to my mother and demands her money back.

 

[Daniel Hailey]

how my system works: when either of my parents need to borrow money ive earned i get "Steam Credit" they write down how much they owes me and that amount gets added into Steam Store Credit

 

[cthulhumythos]

When someone borrows money, they pay the person back. If I borrow cash from my dad I have to at least give him change, but I try to back him back full.

Well recently I started cutting grass to have some extra cash and not have to rely on him all the time to do things like go to concerts, movies or baseball games.

Sometimes he wants to borrow cash so he doesn't have to go to the bank or ATM. I owe him for life basically and he'll write an IOU. He's very good at getting me my money, but if he's late I really don't mind.

My mom on the other hand, who is just a stay at home mom, will sometimes just take money from me and not tell me. Sometimes she just goes out of her way to avoid paying me back.

Sometimes I'll read topics on here where people will say "Their house, their rules" but does that apply in all situations.

TL;DR

If a parent borrows cash from their kid, should they pay them back?

as a son and not a parent, obviously i feel you got pay back when you borrow.

 

[Flare Phoenix]

If they're borrowing money off of you - money that you earned - then yes, they should give it back.

Before you take the moral high ground though, try and visualise exactly how much money they've spent on you, with no expectation of ever getting it back. If they do it too often, then yeah, sure, try and get repaid. If it's reasonably uncommon though, think about letting them off the hook.

No No No No No No No No No No No!!!

Just because a parent raises a child does not mean the parent should be entitled to any money from said child. What you're suggesting is removing a child's basic right to feel safe and secure in their own enviroment. If you allow parents to take just a little bit of money from their child, where does it end? "Sorry Timmy, I had to sell all your clothes because I wanted to go see a movie and have dinner at an expensive restuarant". For that matter, what is that teaching the child? If they want something they can simply take it regardless of how the proper owner feels about it?

That's not what I was saying...

I was saying that the parents should pay the child back, and that that should be the status quo. If, however, the child chooses to forgive their parents the debt, then that is acceptable too, so long as it's still the decision of the child. I just added some further justification because it pisses me off whenever my sister marches right up to my mother and demands her money back.

Sorry, I just get annoyed when people suggest a child should owe their parents financially for raising them. If a child agrees to lend their parents money, and also agrees it is the parent's choice to pay them back, that's fine, but that's not what's happening here.

Whether it was your intention or not, your post is saying parents have a right to take their child's money because they had to spend money to raise them.

 

[Bobbity]

If they're borrowing money off of you - money that you earned - then yes, they should give it back.

Before you take the moral high ground though, try and visualise exactly how much money they've spent on you, with no expectation of ever getting it back. If they do it too often, then yeah, sure, try and get repaid. If it's reasonably uncommon though, think about letting them off the hook.

No No No No No No No No No No No!!!

Just because a parent raises a child does not mean the parent should be entitled to any money from said child. What you're suggesting is removing a child's basic right to feel safe and secure in their own enviroment. If you allow parents to take just a little bit of money from their child, where does it end? "Sorry Timmy, I had to sell all your clothes because I wanted to go see a movie and have dinner at an expensive restuarant". For that matter, what is that teaching the child? If they want something they can simply take it regardless of how the proper owner feels about it?

That's not what I was saying...

I was saying that the parents should pay the child back, and that that should be the status quo. If, however, the child chooses to forgive their parents the debt, then that is acceptable too, so long as it's still the decision of the child. I just added some further justification because it pisses me off whenever my sister marches right up to my mother and demands her money back.

Sorry, I just get annoyed when people suggest a child should owe their parents financially for raising them. If a child agrees to lend their parents money, and also agrees it is the parent's choice to pay them back, that's fine, but that's not what's happening here.

Whether it was your intention or not, your post is saying parents have a right to take their child's money because they had to spend money to raise them.

Is it? Bugger, okay, I'll do a quick edit. Thanks for the heads up.