Poll: Social Confidence

[Agrosmurf]

Do you think social confidence makes someone more attractive from an otherwise shy person? Emotionally or physically.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

Depends. Shyness can be really cute sometimes.

 

[McClaud]

Wow, it really depends.

I know a bunch of idiots who are socially confident that no one finds really attractive. I know a few people who find social situations to be awkward for them and they are really attractive.

It's hard to quantify something like that.

 

[The Infamous Scamola]

Of "coarse".

 

[sky14kemea]

i guess it depends... you dont want someone over-arrogant

besides, im painfully shy in person, so i dont really notice if others are XD

 

[Playbahnosh]

Grammar Nazi holds back the brimstones...gnnnhh....

Anyway, social skills are mostly overrated. People growing up on video games instead of going to parties will be a little awkward, but once you get to know them, they are mostly okay people.

 

[InProgress]

Anyway, social skills are mostly overrated. People growing up on video games instead of going to parties will be a little awkward, but once you get to know them, they are mostly okay people.

QFT

Personal case: Being shy doesn't help me at all (so far have not been considered atractive). So, like most answers in the universe, it depends.

 

[mikecoulter]

Shy is okay, it's just whether or not the person is extremely shy or arrogant.

 

[Fingerprint]

It depends on how shy or un-shy they are. Too shy and they can seem like they're alienating themselves on purpose. Too arrogant and they will often come off as obnoxious and unbelievably irritating.

I'd say I prefer someone to be more shy. Anyway, as far as making the more attractive, well... it can do but not always.

EDIT: spelling.
2nd EDIT: I really should have proof-read this one better first time round.

 

[Sneaklemming]

Ann Rynd's The Fountainhead

Dominique Francon [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fountainhead]

 

[Agrosmurf]

Just to clarify:
I was just wondering because when I was at my old I had plenty of friends and but no girlfriend. But now that I moved schools I really have no friends, then I realized that I am that kid who sits in the back and gets nervous every time someone talks to me. I just thought that might be the reason I don't have any friends or a girlfriend.

 

[bad rider]

Anyway, social skills are mostly overrated. People growing up on video games instead of going to parties will be a little awkward, but once you get to know them, they are mostly okay people.

QFT

Personal case: Being shy doesn't help me at all (so far have not been considered atractive). So, like most answers in the universe, it depends.

Have you considered the possibitlity your less attractive, therefore less social?

 

[Nmil-ek]

Being an underconfident person myself I am attracted to confident women quite a bit actually, but shy women can be very cute though also very rare I have learnt not like the howling, drunken, gossiping, unelegant minges we call women in these areas ¬_¬

 

[quiet_samurai]

Absolutely it does. Although shyness can be cute there are varying degrees of shyness, which means varying degrees of appeal. But for me being confident is the key, even if I might feel a little awkward and out of place i just pretend. And the best friend for confidence is humor, if you can be both confident and funny, you are the shit my friend.

 

[Banana Phone Man]

Many of my friends who are getting a lot of attention are very confident and outgoing. But they can be quite annoying. There is one girl I know, she is not the most attractive girl ever but she is very confident about herself. To me she is the most attractive one there because of it.

 

[ix_tab]

Hell yes. For me, social awkwardness is the ultimate turn off. People who can blend and work with various crowds, who learn from their mistakes, and don't make socialising a chore? I am all over that.

 

[Good morning blues]

Grammar Nazi holds back the brimstones...gnnnhh....

Anyway, social skills are mostly overrated. People growing up on video games instead of going to parties will be a little awkward, but once you get to know them, they are mostly okay people.

This is true. It is also true that very, very few people will make the effort to get to know them, and most of them only out of necessity.

Just to clarify:
I was just wondering because when I was at my old I had plenty of friends and but no girlfriend. But now that I moved schools I really have no friends, then I realized that I am that kid who sits in the back and gets nervous every time someone talks to me. I just thought that might be the reason I don't have any friends or a girlfriend.

You are correct. Everybody already has their friends; unless you grow some confidence and introduce yourself to their pre-existing groups, your current situation will continue.

Confidence and arrogance are just as much different things as confidence and shyness. Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have, especially if that person is male.

 

[Zombie_Fish]

Depends. Shyness can be really cute sometimes.

Same. Shy ones can often grab my attention more.

 

[Zac_Dai]

Social Confidence is probably the best skill in life to have to be perfectly honest.

But theres a massive difference between that and arrogance, which people all to often miss.

As for attractiveness I can't stand shy girls as they make it very hard to take them into social situations like say meeting your friends or family.

Obviously though this is the internet and I wouldn't be surprised if a lot people think its irrelevant or worse Aspies making out that its an inferior quality.

 

[Yowsa]

if the are weird and dont talk the intier time they come off as ether the cool loner or the nerd who is to afaid to speek