Poll: Who pays on a date?

[DTWolfwood]

It is common curtosy for the guy to pay.

It leaves a "I'm a nice person" sort of feel.

Why can't the woman pay and be the one to give off that feel?

I'm a guy, but I think traditional gender roles, especially when it comes to dating, are bollocks. I say go dutch, or in an established relationship, take turns.

But allas, most of us are nerds and geeks. Any girl we can get a hold of, we should take steps to keep set female.

that is winning comment +1 for you sir.

i just like paying. Lets her know i can take care of her

I even feel awkward if she pays for her half. But strangely comforting when she at least offers to pay. Not very fond of women who just expect it tho.

 

[Custard_Angel]

I pay. Always.

It's just the way things are.

 

[Verlander]

Go dutch? Just fucking talk about it. Offer to get it, or even better, do more than one thing on a date, and each of you pay for a different thing. I hpe people still don't just go to a meal, or worse, the cinema? Those are terrible dates!

 

[Lieju]

Depends on the financial situations of the people involved, who asked who out, and such.
But isn't it unfair to expect someone to pay just because of their sex?

But I wouldn't feel comfortable letting my date pay for me, and wouldn't pay for my date, if it wasn't like a gift or me taking them to maybe some place they wouldn't normally go.

For reference, I'm lesbian.

EDIT: Also, I'm very surprised so many people think the guy should pay, or that they offer to do so.

 

[Vibhor]

I usually pay on my dates because it makes me feel like a badass....okay, more like a gentle badass.
And since I am a guy, so yeah.

 

[Mr S]

It's always me

(shakes his wallet, only dust falls out)

 

[Sanglyon]

Like others said before, the one that asked for the date.

The meaning of a date is "Would you please spend some time with me so I can show you how nice I am, and in exchange I'll pay for the dinner/movie/... so you won't have totally wasted your time if I fail to convince you".

Unless I'm totally mistaken about it...

 

[Colour Scientist]

My boyfriend and I normally split it unless it's a surprise thing.
I'm not sure how to put in properly.

If we decide go out for dinner - We both pay.
If he takes me out for dinner - He pays.

I'm not sure how much sense that makes, i can't think of another way to explain it.

 

[Aphex Demon]

I was on a date on Wednesday, I payed for everything.

 

[Lim3]

1st date the guy. If going steady mostly the guy since he (me) usually eats more and thus should spend more.

 

[Chris^^]

I strongly believe the guy should pay, I get so embarrassed if I'm out with a girl and can't afford to cover what we get..

 

[Fetzenfisch]

On the first dates everyone pays what he/she buys, simple as that, i refuse to pay a girl for going on a date with me, hookers would be cheaper. I might get a round of drinks ,but wouldnt refuse to accept her doing the same. When the dating is on for longer time, the one who has the money pays. If i'm broke and she still wants to go to the cinema, she pays, if i want to got to a club and she has not much money left, i pay. Sometime it all evens out.

I pay. Always.

It's just the way things are.

how about a date?

 

[lovetropicana]

On the first dates everyone pays what he/she buys, simple as that, i refuse to pay a girl for going on a date with me, hookers would be cheaper. I might get a round of drinks ,but wouldnt refuse to accept her doing the same. When the dating is on for longer time, the one who has the money pays. If i'm broke and she still wants to go to the cinema, she pays, if i want to got to a club and she has not much money left, i pay. Sometime it all evens out.

I pay. Always.

It's just the way things are.

how about a date?

He's male
...
Whatever rocks your boat

 

[Kaytastrophe]

It goes both ways. On a first and maybe second date the guy, but the girl by that point should start picking up the tab afterwards. That way they take turns paying. Sorry ladies gender equality killed chivalry.

 

[Kair]

Far too many girls have the same interests as a prostitute when selecting a partner.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

On the first dates everyone pays what he/she buys, simple as that, i refuse to pay a girl for going on a date with me, hookers would be cheaper. I might get a round of drinks ,but wouldnt refuse to accept her doing the same. When the dating is on for longer time, the one who has the money pays. If i'm broke and she still wants to go to the cinema, she pays, if i want to got to a club and she has not much money left, i pay. Sometime it all evens out.

I pay. Always.

It's just the way things are.

how about a date?

He's male
...
Whatever rocks your boat

He pays, so i dont care. First date is safe, even if hes a perfect gentleman i can get out with a nice meal, a lot of drinks and some making out max. Good deal to me.

 

[IamQ]

Isn't it the one who asks someone out for a date who pays?

Maybe it's just me, but if someone asked me out on a date, and I say yes, they can't then force me to pay for it all.