Poll: Who pays on a date?

[Mr.logic]

The man MUST PAY. Women preach female equality till the rooster sings, but they want more than equality. so even if they have a job you pay for dinner. What kind of man would let his date provide for him? Also I don't really see dutch happen, i'm sure it happens sometimes but not usually. It also doesn't hurt to remember that women almost never say what they mean, so when they offer to pay you should decline.

 

[RedEyesBlackGamer]

Me. I demand it.

It's what my mother and father taught me.

I was taught to go dutch. I expect a person to pull their own weight. I'm not made of money.

 

[Kair]

The only thing implied is that my observations point to that many girls aged 12-18 have the mentioned interests.

The interests of a Prostitute? Yeah, I suppose you're right, when I was 12-18, I only had sex with guys so they'd give me money. Same with all the other girls I knew in that age group.

Money is not directly what I was pointing to. I really do not wish to elaborate further on the relations between teenagers.

Well Prostitutes aren't really in it for the love.
Actually, I still stand by my point but I am being a bit of a dick. I didn't mean to come across as such an asshole.

And I would dare say far too many teenage girls choose partners not out of compatibility but in exchange for services such as rides ("does he have a car?" - classic example), gifts, and sometimes straight out money.

I don't think that's too common though, at least not in my experience anyway.

Where I live it is extremely common. I assumed it was elsewhere also.

 

[The Funslinger]

The guy should usually pay. Not always, though, especially if the girl makes more money or it's the guy's birthday or things like that. It's a very good way to make a good impression on a girl. However, girls should always come prepared to pay for themselves and should always offer. I always abide by that because I don't want to be a total mooch.

This is a pretty reasonable approach. Also, your avatar is going to have me waking up screaming for the next week.

 

[Jinxzy]

My boyfriend and I like to take turns. If we go out somewhere nice and he pays a little more then normal I'll treat him to breakfast and lunch/dinner (not on the same day), or take him to Red Robin to make up for it. He loves Red Robin.

But if my boyfriend is working and I'm not working that day I'll pick him up and treat him to something for working hard.

 

[Woodsey]

First date? Man. After that you can split or take it in turns.

 

[Rivers Wells]

As a straight male: Always make the offer. It's just polite to your date. If she wants to pay that's fine, but its never a bad thing to have offered to help someone.

Me. I demand it.

It's what my mother and father taught me.

Best of intentions here, but I'm pretty sure the wrong approach. Take it with a grain of salt but:

NEVER DEMAND IT. It can come across creepy and even a bit controlling. If she wants to pay for her own meal/movie/etc., forcing her to not pay can make her (and honestly anyone else) think...

A.) This guy isn't even listening to me and isn't respecting what I want.

or

B.) Wow, he's seriously telling me what to do with my money?

Oldest dating advice in the world: If you're not sure what to do, pretend its a friend of the same gender you're just being nice too.

"Hey, I got this."
"Oh don't worry about it. I got it."
"Yeah?"
"Yeah."
"All right."

Addendum: Her birthday/Your anniversary/Any major relationship event? You take that check. You take it and you fortify it and you use all manner of warfare and skullduggery to get your card to the waiter first.

 

[ProfessorLayton]

The guy. Always. That's just the right thing to do... I don't care if you find gender roles useless, it's simply gentlemanly to do it. And one must always be a gentleman.

But allas, most of us are nerds and geeks. Any girl we can get a hold of, we should take steps to keep set female.

Heh... there's always that as well.

 

[JMeganSnow]

I voted other--I think it should be the responsibility of the person who proposed the date to pay, just as with other sorts of invitations. Now, this doesn't mean that you can't make other arrangements that suit you, but if you propose an activity that costs money, it's your job to be prepared to pay for it.

 

[Wharrgarble]

If you're going to invite someone out, it's good practice to plan to pay for it unless they either demand to do so, or ask to split. Otherwise my boyfriend and I just kinda trade off on the bills. He'll pay one night, I'll pay the next. He'll buy the movie tickets, I'll get dinner.

 

[Maclennan]

I always ended up taking turns, I would always pay first, the guy, but the second time they, the girl, seem to grab the tab like they have something to prove which sets the pattern.
I always favored the treat them like a lady idea especially if they are unemployed but the few i have dated seemed to dislike that take.

 

[Tonimata]

I think the two sides should pay for their own stuff. Makes sense, don't it?

 

[Metal Brother]

Whoever wants to get laid the most.

Typically this is the guy. ;-)

 

[Palademon]

If it's the first date, whoever asked.
Any other dates, either whoever suggested if it's extravagent, or whoever feels generous.

 

[Antonidious]

Its a game. Whoever pays wins. You wanna be a winner don't you?

 

[FamoFunk]

If I wentout with a Man I would hope he paid (and actually asked to go out!)

I'm pretty old fasioned like that and I think it shows Manly politeness?

If we're together and going out places I will always insist on taking it in turns or splitting the cost; unless it was a nice gesture from one of us to take the other out.

 

[Zac Smith]

Me and my girlfriend have been together just over 4 years, and we pretty much take it in turns, except for occasions like our anniversary,, which I will pay for

 

[Ca3zar416]

I think committing a crime is a great way to bond. Not a smart way probably but it'd be fun I'm sure. In all seriousness either way is fine.

 

[jpoon]

I think we should pay for each other, why the hell am I to be forced to put in all the money? Fair is fair, and women want equality, that's as close as you get to equality. Pay up woman!

Okay, I do concede to pay for the first date though, that is not a biggie.

 

[ace_of_something]

the person who initiated/asked.