Poll: Who pays on a date?

[Souplex]

Whoever can afford it.

 

[iDoom46]

Skip the bill! Eat and Run! (but still leave a tip, because you care)
It adds excitement to any date.

 

[Mcupobob]

I think In a just and fair dating world it should be who ever asked who out. Its not fair so it usually falls on whoever has the penis, physical or metaphorically.

 

[tharglet]

Other. I think it depends on a lot of different factors. Different people are comfortable with different things, and differing amounts of money.

Before me and my partner got married, he paid most of the time because he had a job and I didn't, therefore he had more disposable income. Now we're married, the money comes from the joint account mostly lol.

I'll happily pay for myself, but if someone wants to pay for me, I don't feel awkward about it.

 

[Azrael the Cat]

Well, my wife is an engineer, and earns more money than I do, so even if I was to pay, it would ultimately be coming from her pocket anyway. So I guess that pust her as the paying party, while I look pretty and earn my keep in bed and by entertaining her with my knowledge of academic philosophy (we got together at a party after a conversation about mathematics (she did her honours in maths, and my philosophy honours had a heavy formal logic focus, very similar to maths). So who says humanities degrees get you nowhere - like I could have snagged a gorgeous high-earning engineer when I was still a lawyer - me quitting law to do my phil PhD was one of her conditions for marrying me. Mind you, after I finish my PhD, it's her turn to go back and do her maths PhD, do I'll have the financial burdens during those years.

 

[Sejs Cube]

The one who asked for the date pays.

Duh.

 

[Viennetta]

The asker should cover it. After all, it was their idea...

The one who asked for the date pays.

Duh.

It totally looks like I copied you but I swear I didn't see your post. I swear it.

 

[Lenvoran]

Definitely whomever initiated the date.

If you ask someone out and expect them to pay then you're not really asking them out on a date, you're offering to be romantic with them in exchange for dinner.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

It's considered common practise for the dude to pay. In my own life we alternate based on who happens to be carrying the most cash (which results in a fun game of 'who can act the cheapest at a restaurant') but we're two guys. I'm pretty sure things are different for straight couples. In straight couples, the guy shells out ALL the money and makes all the effort, the girl just needs to show up and be pampered.

 

[Asuka Soryu]

I don't buy dates. Not a fan of the taste.

 

[Lunafox]

I'd have to say that when I'm out with my other half, the one who pays is normaly the one who can get the $$$ out the fastest and prevent the other from getting theirs out

 

[Asuka Soryu]

Definitely whomever initiated the date.

If you ask someone out and expect them to pay then you're not really asking them out on a date, you're offering to be romantic with them in exchange for dinner.

I totaly agree with you.

 

[Hashime]

50:50 split. That is the most fair way.

 

[Wing0fSilver]

I think it's common courtesy for the date asker to pay. To use a personal example, my ex asked me if I wanted to go out to lunch one afternoon. I met her at a restaurant that she chose and she got what she wanted and dessert, then expected me to pay. She had to leave for work right after that. To me, it seemed like she just wanted a free lunch before going to work, not to go out on a date. If you're a girl, don't ask a guy out just to get him to pay, that's crappy. At LEAST go halfsies in that case.

Also: Page 5

 

[Smooth Operator]

It's funny actually, normally women would call out sexism but not on beneficial occasions

It seems the social stigma still holds "guy hasto pay", don't know why this should be in a time of presumed equality, but you know... sex never comes cheap.

 

[Divine Miss Bee]

whoever asks pays for the first date, then alternate. or, of only one person drives and pays for gas, the other person pays for the date itself.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Personally, I usually can't afford to pay for both, but I always try to pay more if splitting.

 

[Haydyn]

With my last girlfriend I'd say something like "I can just pay for it if you want. Or we can split it. It doesn't really matter to me." Ended up paying for everything. And she still broke off all contact with me when things were going good. *****.

 

[Bigsmith]

When me and y girlfriend go out, it's who ever has the most money at the time/ how ever has a job at th time.

But, if it was like a first date I would probably pay, just cause I like flashing money about XD.

I mean, I no this is slightly off topic, when I got my first pay check at a new job I took my GF and two other friends (who happened to be going out as well) down to a quite an expensive restaurant and payed for everyone. Came to almost £60.

 

[Kurokami]

I don't think any of my friends would have it, but then girls (my friend kind of girls anyway) do tend to be pretty damn pretentious and overly abusive of the power play that is a relationship.

maybe you just need new friends

Why? I'm not dating any of them.