Poll: Who pays on a date?
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The guy, the first time at least.
Well, the guy until it's an actual relationship rather than occasional dates, at which point splitting the bill or taking turns is acceptable.
No idea what the protocol is for gay or lesbian dating...
Well, the guy until it's an actual relationship rather than occasional dates, at which point splitting the bill or taking turns is acceptable.
No idea what the protocol is for gay or lesbian dating...
For me it would be whoever it had been agreed upon to do payment beforehand, which would all depend on circumstances.
The one inviting, obviously, because that makes it an invitation.
If you are going steady, take turns.
If you are going steady, take turns.
Although I believe in equality among the sexes, I get genuinely anxious if my girlfriend pays for anything when I'm near her, and downright refuse to let her pay for anything on my behalf.
I'd love to say "half-and-half" but it's just been drilled into me so much I can't...
I'd love to say "half-and-half" but it's just been drilled into me so much I can't...
Equal splits for an equal relationship.
Doubt a girl would on reflection really want to feel indebted to the guy anyway, it kind of introduce some generally unwanted elements into a relationship, especially if it later becomes sexual in nature.
Of course, nothing wrong with taking turns picking up the tab, and it doesn't need to exactly mathematically equal out. But it should be a largely mutual show of affection, not some ancient custom from some backwards time when women weren't given the chance to earn and spend their own money as they please, including on a guy they wish to pursue a relationship with.
Doubt a girl would on reflection really want to feel indebted to the guy anyway, it kind of introduce some generally unwanted elements into a relationship, especially if it later becomes sexual in nature.
Of course, nothing wrong with taking turns picking up the tab, and it doesn't need to exactly mathematically equal out. But it should be a largely mutual show of affection, not some ancient custom from some backwards time when women weren't given the chance to earn and spend their own money as they please, including on a guy they wish to pursue a relationship with.
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i just like paying. Lets her know i can take care of her
I even feel awkward if she pays for her half. But strangely comforting when she at least offers to pay. Not very fond of women who just expect it tho.
Depends on the financial situations of the people involved, who asked who out, and such.
But isn't it unfair to expect someone to pay just because of their sex?
But I wouldn't feel comfortable letting my date pay for me, and wouldn't pay for my date, if it wasn't like a gift or me taking them to maybe some place they wouldn't normally go.
For reference, I'm lesbian.
EDIT: Also, I'm very surprised so many people think the guy should pay, or that they offer to do so.
But isn't it unfair to expect someone to pay just because of their sex?
But I wouldn't feel comfortable letting my date pay for me, and wouldn't pay for my date, if it wasn't like a gift or me taking them to maybe some place they wouldn't normally go.
For reference, I'm lesbian.
EDIT: Also, I'm very surprised so many people think the guy should pay, or that they offer to do so.
Like others said before, the one that asked for the date.
The meaning of a date is "Would you please spend some time with me so I can show you how nice I am, and in exchange I'll pay for the dinner/movie/... so you won't have totally wasted your time if I fail to convince you".
Unless I'm totally mistaken about it...
The meaning of a date is "Would you please spend some time with me so I can show you how nice I am, and in exchange I'll pay for the dinner/movie/... so you won't have totally wasted your time if I fail to convince you".
Unless I'm totally mistaken about it...
My boyfriend and I normally split it unless it's a surprise thing.
I'm not sure how to put in properly.
If we decide go out for dinner - We both pay.
If he takes me out for dinner - He pays.
I'm not sure how much sense that makes, i can't think of another way to explain it.
I'm not sure how to put in properly.
If we decide go out for dinner - We both pay.
If he takes me out for dinner - He pays.
I'm not sure how much sense that makes, i can't think of another way to explain it.
