Poll: Who pays on a date?

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

It's courteous for the guy to pay for the meal. It may be a little sexist, but I do think we should have these gender rules that are just a nice gesture towards a person. Even if the date was an utter disaster then you should at least offer to pay.

If the woman offers to pay then you must refuse, if she persists then you must agree on the condition that you do something else to make it fair.

 

[Wolfenbarg]

The initiator of the date pays. Whether society calls it bad manners or not, it's odd for a guy to pay for dinner if the girl asked him out, yes? At least for casual dates this should be true. For an actual couple, that's a whole different debacle, they can come up with their own system.

 

[Ympulse]

Go Dutch. I refuse to pay for a woman's meal. ***** can pay her own way, I'm not a meal ticket.

 

[FangShadow]

It depends, though I usually try to pay for the date. If it's a fancy affair or so, I try to pay for myself and my girlfriend. It's simply the way I was raised

But if it's a more casual affair we may go dutch, though I still try to pay the majority.

Captcha: Ttectori from

.....FROM WHO!?!?!?

 

[Cazza]

Who ever did the inviting. So basiclly the guy.

 

[Shuswah_Noir]

I generally feel really bad if anyone tries to buy me anything (even a $2 coffee). So I usually pay for myself on a date.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I'd expect to share the cost unless it was a treat or somthing. I think once you have been togther for a while (depending on the person of course) it tends to just become 'our money' anyway right?

 

[Bohemian Waltz]

Coming from the perspective of a person who occasionally goes out on date with members of the same sex I fall under the assumption that the courtier pays for the courted.

The courtier is generally the one who initiates the date, suggests the activity, drives, ect. If someone asks me out I generally pick up the tip/buy desert/contribute in a smaller fashion compared to the overall cost of the entire date. If I like the person enough I'll initiate the 2nd date under which I'm responsible for paying. If A person initiates a 2nd date I play it the same as the first and if I enjoyed it I'll make a stab at going dutch.

I usually don't let it get to the point where someone is initiating the 3rd date because if they've made an attempt to court me twice and I'm not interested in "taking them out" instead then the relationship isn't going anywhere and it would be manipulation on my end plus probably not worth my time.

Sexism shouldn't factor into it and going dutch when you asked someone else out is extremely tacky.

 

[InfiniteSingularity]

I used to pay every time. But them by girlfriend insisted (and continued to) that she pay sometimes. And also I was running out of money which my parents were annoyed at

 

[pejhmon]

Me. I demand it.

It's what my mother and father taught me.

same, although I have found that after a few times the girl will realise that I'm nice and start paying without question so it can work out better in the long run ^_^

slightly off topic, how would it work in a same sex relationship?

 

[Outright Villainy]

I usually take turns, or go dutch. Though I'll hardly keep check; I'll pay if she's having remote difficulty finding change.

 

[Elementary - Dear Watson]

I hate not paying. In fact if we have agreed before hand that she will pay, then I pay with her card so I don't feel silly!

 

[TheMatsjo]

We usually alternate; I usually go first, next time the girl etc. It balances out.

And I'm Dutch so here's me officially breaking stereotype guidelines.

Cheers,
Matsjo

 

[floppylobster]

I've been wondering for some time, who pays on a date? If the guy pays, does the girl owe anything? If they go dutch, is that female equality? Is it better for the guy to treat the girl like a lady? What do you guys think?
And if your answer to the poll is "take turns" then who pays the first time, and how do you mutually agree? Does it just happen, or does it need a discussion?

However it happens it will be a good indication of how the relationship will go.

There's no right or wrong way. If two people are right for each other it will work itself out and both will be happy. If it's awkward and you can't discuss how awkward it is you can safely say the relationship will have communication issues somewhere down the line.

 

[Merkavar]

who ever askes out should pay.

 

[Throwitawaynow]

I think the woman should pay every time. In fact I think it's sexist for people to say men should pay, it's like they're saying women can't do math. Liberate women from this misogynistic tradition, and let them pay.

 

[Syntax Error]

Round here the guy pays for everything during the courtship rituals. Bill is split once they are together.

 

[LawlessSquirrel]

I say everyone pays for their own stuff. Hell, I'll offer on occasion, but in favour of equality there shouldn't be expectations that either person is covering everything unless that's the point of the outing.

Gender equality works both ways.

 

[lizabeth19]

Whoever does the asking pay and plans the first date. If there is a second date, the person who was initially asked out plans and pays for the date. After this, the couple goes dutch unless it is specifically discussed or that is the point of the outing (e.g. "You got a promotion, why don't I take you out to dinner?")

 

[CrystalShadow]

I'd say go dutch.

But then, I have personal experience with where that phrase comes from. XD

Mind you, the guy in a shop in Singapore quoted the phrase "Kijken, kijken, maar niet kopen".

Which means, more or less, "Look, but don't buy."

My, the dutch have an interesting reputation. XD