Poll: Who pays on a date?

[Wing0fSilver]

I think it's common courtesy for the date asker to pay. To use a personal example, my ex asked me if I wanted to go out to lunch one afternoon. I met her at a restaurant that she chose and she got what she wanted and dessert, then expected me to pay. She had to leave for work right after that. To me, it seemed like she just wanted a free lunch before going to work, not to go out on a date. If you're a girl, don't ask a guy out just to get him to pay, that's crappy. At LEAST go halfsies in that case.

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[Smooth Operator]

It's funny actually, normally women would call out sexism but not on beneficial occasions

It seems the social stigma still holds "guy hasto pay", don't know why this should be in a time of presumed equality, but you know... sex never comes cheap.

 

[Divine Miss Bee]

whoever asks pays for the first date, then alternate. or, of only one person drives and pays for gas, the other person pays for the date itself.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Personally, I usually can't afford to pay for both, but I always try to pay more if splitting.

 

[Haydyn]

With my last girlfriend I'd say something like "I can just pay for it if you want. Or we can split it. It doesn't really matter to me." Ended up paying for everything. And she still broke off all contact with me when things were going good. *****.

 

[Bigsmith]

When me and y girlfriend go out, it's who ever has the most money at the time/ how ever has a job at th time.

But, if it was like a first date I would probably pay, just cause I like flashing money about XD.

I mean, I no this is slightly off topic, when I got my first pay check at a new job I took my GF and two other friends (who happened to be going out as well) down to a quite an expensive restaurant and payed for everyone. Came to almost £60.

 

[Kurokami]

I don't think any of my friends would have it, but then girls (my friend kind of girls anyway) do tend to be pretty damn pretentious and overly abusive of the power play that is a relationship.

maybe you just need new friends

Why? I'm not dating any of them.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

It's courteous for the guy to pay for the meal. It may be a little sexist, but I do think we should have these gender rules that are just a nice gesture towards a person. Even if the date was an utter disaster then you should at least offer to pay.

If the woman offers to pay then you must refuse, if she persists then you must agree on the condition that you do something else to make it fair.

 

[Wolfenbarg]

The initiator of the date pays. Whether society calls it bad manners or not, it's odd for a guy to pay for dinner if the girl asked him out, yes? At least for casual dates this should be true. For an actual couple, that's a whole different debacle, they can come up with their own system.

 

[Ympulse]

Go Dutch. I refuse to pay for a woman's meal. ***** can pay her own way, I'm not a meal ticket.

 

[FangShadow]

It depends, though I usually try to pay for the date. If it's a fancy affair or so, I try to pay for myself and my girlfriend. It's simply the way I was raised

But if it's a more casual affair we may go dutch, though I still try to pay the majority.

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[Cazza]

Who ever did the inviting. So basiclly the guy.

 

[Shuswah_Noir]

I generally feel really bad if anyone tries to buy me anything (even a $2 coffee). So I usually pay for myself on a date.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I'd expect to share the cost unless it was a treat or somthing. I think once you have been togther for a while (depending on the person of course) it tends to just become 'our money' anyway right?

 

[Bohemian Waltz]

Coming from the perspective of a person who occasionally goes out on date with members of the same sex I fall under the assumption that the courtier pays for the courted.

The courtier is generally the one who initiates the date, suggests the activity, drives, ect. If someone asks me out I generally pick up the tip/buy desert/contribute in a smaller fashion compared to the overall cost of the entire date. If I like the person enough I'll initiate the 2nd date under which I'm responsible for paying. If A person initiates a 2nd date I play it the same as the first and if I enjoyed it I'll make a stab at going dutch.

I usually don't let it get to the point where someone is initiating the 3rd date because if they've made an attempt to court me twice and I'm not interested in "taking them out" instead then the relationship isn't going anywhere and it would be manipulation on my end plus probably not worth my time.

Sexism shouldn't factor into it and going dutch when you asked someone else out is extremely tacky.

 

[InfiniteSingularity]

I used to pay every time. But them by girlfriend insisted (and continued to) that she pay sometimes. And also I was running out of money which my parents were annoyed at

 

[pejhmon]

Me. I demand it.

It's what my mother and father taught me.

same, although I have found that after a few times the girl will realise that I'm nice and start paying without question so it can work out better in the long run ^_^

slightly off topic, how would it work in a same sex relationship?

 

[Outright Villainy]

I usually take turns, or go dutch. Though I'll hardly keep check; I'll pay if she's having remote difficulty finding change.